The poppy represents a heroic perversion of war. I will remember those lives needlessly wasted with shame that it was inflicted upon them, not with the gushing pride of the immortality in dieing for your nation that such ceremony idealises.
Very well said!
Last year, at least here in Canada, there was a big fuss over some people wearing white poppies as an alternative symbol of remembrance with apparent 'anti-war' connotations. Even so, the poppy remains generally regarded as a symbol with the connotations you described, and it makes more sense to question than to try to appropriate that symbol.
"I'm a pessimist because of intelligence, but an optimist because of will." - Antonio Gramsci
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- J.A. MacGuigan in Roach v. Canada, 1994