I need dating advice

[The Dark Side of the Moon]

I know absolutely nothing about dating.(that is the easiest way to get my point out)

[Thirsty Crow]

You see a person you're attracted to, walk up to them and say "hi, I'm X, and what's your name?", and then you watch for the signals. If the person squirms and shows signs of being uneasy, you might proceed in two ways:

1) try to find a common topic of conversation - for instance, you notice the person wears a Green Day patch, and you swallow your disgust at the band (I should hope so) and comment on the excellent way the patch is incorporated into the overall aesthetics of their clothing

2) the GTFO route - just mumble something and get the fuck out of that awkward situation

Repeat ad nauseam until you stumble across a person showing good signs, and then:

1) the subtle and mysterious route - produce a witty comment on just how you'd like to continue the interaction in a way or another, but DO NOT ask for a number or give yours (this, of course, depends on the information you were provided with, and if you have an idea of where can you see the person, for instance, regular places of visit like cafes, then and only then this route is an option), and an appreciative comment, alongside the expression of a wish to see the person again, is obligatory when you say that you gotta go now. I should also note that this route also depends on your physical appearance.

2) gimme yer number route - but be careful not to be pushy, you can use language to your own advantage and say something like "I was wondering whether you'd like to go for a cup of coffee or something, but then I'd be needing your number lol".

There is more advice, and you'll get it soon.

[TheGodlessUtopian]

When on a date be yourself and do not try too hard. Usually is you do you will mess up and say/do something which throws the other person off.When doing activities that cost money consider splitting the bill soas not to enforce gender stereotypes.For a date activity something simple like a movie,bowling,or physical activity.Humor is good but don't venture into controversial waters until you get an understand of where the other person stands on issues (though jokes could be good way to find out, albeit risky).

Try and make sure your date last for a couple hours, otherwise I do not believe you will have much time to make much of a connection or to understand that person even superficially.

[Nox]

or physical activity.

seks!!!!

[TheGodlessUtopian]

seks!!!!

Not what I meant.lol

[citizen of industry]

My advice, just use your best judgement and try your best. Don't overthink it. I'm akward, too shy, and not especially attractive, but I still managed to have girlfriends, eventually got married and had kids, etc. Good memories! Just be yourself, don't try to be a charming, sexy comedian like on television, because people aren't really like that. They are mostly ugly and crazy. Even the guy/girl you like, they probably cover it up with fashionable clothing, make up, etc. and hide their craziness, but actually they are probably ugly and crazy.

[Lenina Rosenweg]

Keep things low key. Don't look at a person you are attracted to as a potential sexual/romantic partner but rather as someone you want to get to know better.

"Hey, you wanna get together some time?" may be a good way to ask someone out. If this is possible a lunch or coffee date may be easier.

Just relax and have a good time.

[The Dark Side of the Moon]

IT have decided I have another question. Where/what do I go/do on a date?
Good stuff so far. If I actually ask this girl out it will really help my view of myself.

This seems like a really stupid question from my end, so thank you for the info so far

[Lobotomy]

IT have decided I have another question. Where/what do I go/do on a date?
Good stuff so far. If I actually ask this girl out it will really help my view of myself.

This seems like a really stupid question from my end, so thank you for the info so far

It's not a stupid question. Many people feel awkward about dating, but most are just good at hiding it.

As far as what to do on a date, I know a lot of people choose to do this, but in my opinion you should never go out to a movie on a first date. You can't really talk to the person or get to know them at all.

[Le Rouge]

Yeah, going to a movie or going eating is too formal for a first date.

[Lenina Rosenweg]

IT have decided I have another question. Where/what do I go/do on a date?
Good stuff so far. If I actually ask this girl out it will really help my view of myself.

This seems like a really stupid question from my end, so thank you for the info so far

It might depend on mutual interests. What are you and your date interested in?


Anyway some ideas could be a coffee shop, have coffee and chat for a while. Maybe browse in some offbeat store or shop afterwards.If you have similar interests in music maybe browse in a music store or a used record store-it can be fun to look up obscure bands.

Sometimes larger bookstores have talks or musicians play.That could make for an ideal cheap date.

A visit to a zoo might be interesting although this may depend on how you or your date feel about zoos. An amusement park, as cheesy as it sounds, can be a lot of fun.

A movie and a cheap dinner afterwards might not be a bad idea, although if you feel a bit shy or awkward at first you can save that till later.The good thing about a movie is that you don't have to say much, just watch the movie and occasionally comment.

A lot might depend on mutual interests but if you live in a city, especially one with a university or college, its easy to find cheap things to do. Suburbs and small towns can be difficult but even here its possible to find something.A lot of small towns have interesting community theater.

Keep things low key and have fun. Of course its hard to generalize but girls often like guys with a sense of humor. Enjoy yourself and try to get to know the other person.

[¿Que?]

Let me just say this. Some people don't drink. Fair enough. But drinking is a great way for two people to lower their defenses and loosen up with each other.

You don't like drinking. Fine. But that's the truth. Not a whole lot, but a little. Two or three.

If that's impossible, then somewhere or something that will produce the same effect. Lowering your guard, loosening up with each other.

[PC LOAD LETTER]

I second the grabbing a drink idea.

If you don't drink, and he/she doesn't drink ... where's the fun in that?

[Shotgun Opera]

Best advice regarding women/dating I have ever received;

"Dont overstretch your abilities to impress someone; they're going to expect that to be the norm."

"Dont lie to women, men suck at it. If you're a man and you think "No I dont", you suck at it worse than other men."

"Someone willing to cheat with you is probably willing to cheat ON you."

"Sometimes you just need a night that leaves heel marks in the refrigerator door."


I've found these to be sage advice when it comes to interacting with my lady friends, I'm polyamorous so I get a little more practice.

[The Dark Side of the Moon]

I'm 15 and I don't think she would enjoy drinking very much.

I'm Enjoying reading. Thank you so far

[TheGodlessUtopian]

I don't think there is really anything too formal or informal but if you want something simple maybe hang out at one of your houses and watch a movie? A good snack and mild conversation will crack the ice a bit.

[NoOneIsIllegal]

Don't do a movie on the first date. If you're going steady with someone, movie-dates are fine, but if you're trying to know someone or get acquainted, movies aren't a good idea. Save this for a few dates later.

Find a right balance between serious and fun/funny. Or at least, that's what I think girls, and I myself (a male), tend to like. People like to goof around and be casual, it helps loosen the mood. However, a person also needs to find someone they can confide in and know they're there for them. Find a decent balance, don't ever take yourself too seriously except when the situation calls for it. They need to know when you can be there for them.

[NewLeft]

Oh don't do movies, that's overdoing it. play it chill, go to some gathering

[Nox]

What should you talk about on the first date? I can hardly keep a conversation for 2 minutes let alone 2 hours.

[Le Rouge]

The thing with going to see a movie is that you won't have much time to talk to/know her/him. During the movie his/her attention will be on the movie, not on you.

Well, all this is badly written but you get the point.