PhoenixAsh

okay, you know what? If a guy thinks that when a woman says "I'm direct, I don't play games, that's why I step up", that this means she wants only sex and that playing stupid games and acting unreachable means "honest" interest, then this guy can go fuck himself and this patriachal stupid fucked up bullshit, cause he's full of shit anyway. However, I never made such experiences with guys that held a healthy, reasonable image of women in general.

I would just like to understand the difference between "let's have a drink" and "let's have a drink, I wasn't sure if you were looking at me or my friend".

so you think because I showed interest it's clear it's only about fucking?

yeah, considering that huge cultural gap between Germany and the Netherlands...uhmmm...no. But I already expected some lame excuse like that.

is this kind of a misunderstanding? I told him I wasn't sure if he was looking at me or my friend, so what? If I had asked him just for a drink, he would've known anyway that I'm interested and it would be up to him to meet, so he would hold the cards anyway.

and how else should I have managed to meet him? This is easily said when the only alternative would've been that he walked away and I'd probably never seen him again.

and what's so bad about the fact that I told him?

And if that is wise is perhaps debatable.

why?

It sounds so immature and just TOO open, like, exposing the insecurity whether he looked at me or not. Don't know, just not the right way to get a flirt started. I feel stupid although it worked out.

srsly, you're mean.