So I've thinking about moving out

[BIG BROTHER]

So yea I've thinking of "running" away from home and start living on my own. The thing is, that unfortunately I was born into a religious family:bored: and even though my family sort of supports my activism, they still don't know am an atheist commie who wants to start a revolution:lol:

Anyways the only thing that's keeping me from doing that is that my mother already has to deal with my fucked up dad(well sometimes he can be cool and somewhat revolutionary) and I know if I leave she will be really devastated because again she will be shocked and think when I die I'll spent eternity in hell.

There's also the fact that I'm not sure how the laws work around here in the U.S. I'm 19 so I know I'm considered an adult but I think I'm still somehow tied to my parents until I'm 21, so if I run away from home will she be able to call the cops and make them look for me?

And does anyone have any good advice, has any1 been in my situation b4?

[which doctor]

There's also the fact that I'm not sure how the laws work around here in the U.S. I'm 19 so I know I'm considered an adult but I think I'm still somehow tied to my parents until I'm 21, so if I run away from home will she be able to call the cops and make them look for me?
No, she won't be able to make the cops come looking for you. Once you turn 18 you are legally considered an adult and therefore are not bound to your parents anymore. Feel free to run away and start a life of your own, your parents can't do a damn thing.

[Plagueround]

Excepting maybe the most hardcore World of Warcraft player who needs mom and dad's phat internet connection, most people reach a point where they want to get out and live on their own.
While it is difficult, especially in regards to the situation with your mother, you should not let their feelings on the matter get in the way of what you seem to know you must do.

Having said that, I would place an emphasis on trying to leave on as good of terms as possible. If you can, keep your parents in your life, even if it's a phone call or e-mail every now and then. I found getting out on my own to be much harder when I alienated myself from my parents and was rather lucky we eventually sorted out our differences. You never know when you might need them or vice versa.

I wouldn't worry too much about telling them the reasons for moving out being based on religion or politics or anything, just focus on the idea that you're "growing up" "becoming independent" and all those other cliches.

As for calling the cops to find you, they won't be able to call them and have them drag you home, but if you don't let them know what's up they may think something bad has happened to you and call them for that reason. If you do plan on cutting ties, a simple phone call or note to let them know this was a conscious decision and you are ok would work.
Good luck comrade!

[Peaceful Revolutionary]

You don't have to turn this into a big 'running away' thing. Like Plaugeround said, just leave a note that explains your decision to leave, and everything, or even better, just talk to your mom face to face and tell her how you feel that it's important for you to start learning to do things on your own, or whatever.

[Dr Mindbender]

my advice (and i'm speaking from my own mistakes) is if you are a getting a roof over your head, a warm bed and 3 squares a day make the most of it while you can. Life becomes 10 times harder financially when you have your own landlord and utility suppliers to deal with.

Finish your education, get a job, save up a nest egg and then move out when you got a bit of cash behind you.

[Led Zeppelin]

my advice (and i'm speaking from my own mistakes) is if you are a getting a roof over your head, a warm bed and 3 squares a day make the most of it while you can. Life becomes 10 times harder financially when you have your own landlord and utility suppliers to deal with.

Finish your education, get a job, save up a nest egg and then move out when you got a bit of cash behind you.

Completely agree.

I wanted to say the same thing; make sure you've finished your schooling and have enough of an income to move out before doing so.

[BIG BROTHER]

Yea I've been thinking about the financial issues too. Also if I leave I think I'll follow plague's advice just so they don't think I was deported or something like that. I still got a lot of thinking to do though.