Help - I need help, no jokes

[Moskitto]

I appear to be trying to talk someone out of being suicidal. How do I do it?

[American Kid]

That's a tough one.

Just remember you're not a professional, so you're not gonna know all the right things to say. That's important. Seriously, no one would expect you to be able to pull off a succesful brain surgery either----and they're practically the same thing.

Rely on how long you've known this individual and EVERYTHING you know about them.

And just say whatever you have to. But remember you're not a doctor or a social worker, so if you have to, call in the fucking SWAT team. Seriously, be the one to call for help if you need to.

-AK

[Michael De Panama]

Whatever you do, don't ask Stormin Norman.

[Guest]

well im new here
just browsing through stuff, thought i would offer my opinion
im sure i will be ripped apart for it but really this is what i seem to think for some reason, if they want to do it, dont try and talk them out of it, thats what i think
i mean, you most likely dont want them to, but i would rather let my friend do what they wanted.

[American Kid]

Would you let them fuck your sister?

Would you let me fuck your sister? If you don't have one, how about your mom?

I heard your grandmother's a good lay.

Welcome to Che-lives. I'm the Kid. Run along now.

-AK

[PunkRawker677]

Make sure your one hundred percent positive, the least bit of negativity could fuel the depression or whatever else is causing this suicical episode. Like AK said, your not a professional, do what you can to get them to see one but don't push it too much cause you dont want them to think you are saying they are "crazy" which could make things worse. The fact is, there is no real answer to this. It works on an individual case-to-case basis so the only real answer is to for them to seek professional help. Do what you can, just be careful.

[Michael De Panama]

Very well said, capitalist pig. :)

[American Kid]

Thank you, boy :)

-AK

[Pinko]

Do they have family (that they don't hate)? I found when I was in a similar situation, that asking them how their family would feel after they killed themselves seemed to do the trick.
Some would call it emotional blackmail, but hey it worked.

[mujer revolucionaria]

Be as supportive and positive as possible......

My ex husband attempted suicide about 4 months ago, by downing a bottle of sleeping pills. He then called me and I listened to him fade on the phone. I kept saying I was going to hang up and call the ambulance. He said if I hung up he would slash his wrists immediately. It was a tough spot to be in. I kept him talking for awhile and then he faded out. I called the police.....they sent an ambulance and had to kick in his door. He is still alive.....

It is a very hard and painful position to be in. Just be a good friend, and listen.....if things get well out of control, call a parent or professional.

I did have a friend die from suicide, and it was very very painful.

[Moskitto]

She's ok now, she was just being a bit crazy at the time. I tried telling her that's she doesn't know how much see means to other people and that might have got through to her, but I was worried about her last night but I went shopping with her today and she was ok, I went into a stationarry shop and I saw some people from canoeing (where we both go) and when I realised it was them I said "you didn't see anything."

[Moskitto]

She started talking about suicide again.

I think i'm going to write her a massive email about why I didn't kill myself when I was 13.

[Anonymous]

Ask her why she wants to do it, it may help if she realises that shes just acting on her current feeling, if shes felt this way before it helps because she can remember how wierd it felt when she got through the depression

[Capitalist Imperial]

Rule 1: LISTEN

Rule 2: LISTEN

Rule 3: See rules 1 and 2

Usually (and thats a big "Usually") when someone suggests that they are contemplating suicide, they are merely crying out for help, and want someone else to understand their pain and struggle. What you will find is that if you perhaps just ask a few probing, but unthreataning questions, while maintaining positivity, your friend will find great therapy in venting their fears and problems to you. This venting will of course give you material for follow-up questions, wich will show you are listening, which is all most people need.

This kind of dialogue often is immeasurably effective in helping one deal with their depression and may contribute to alleviating thoughts of committing suicide.

[Moskitto]

Thanks CI, I'll try talking to her again.

[Moskitto]

I think she's unsure about her sexuality, I told her I went through the same and it's normal (hey, I did)