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Wanted Man
13th July 2007, 18:12
New York Pride Day
Lesbian ejected from restaurant
By Brenda Ryan
Published Jul 12, 2007 10:34 PM

Khadijah Farmer felt safe. She was in the heart of Greenwich Village, historically a center of New York’s lesbian, gay, bi, transgender communities. And it was Pride Day, the annual event celebrating the LGBT movement and the victories it has won against bigotry and oppression.

So Farmer, a Black lesbian, was stunned when a bouncer at a local restaurant ejected her from the bathroom and demanded that she and her friends leave the premises. Why? Because, said the bouncer, she looked like a man.

Farmer and her fiends had gone to Caliente Cab Company, a restaurant in the Village, after the June 24 LGBT Pride march. While she was in the bathroom the bouncer burst in and banged on the stall door, telling her that a customer had complained that a man was in the women’s room.

Farmer her friends offered to show him her driver’s license as proof. He responded, “That is neither here nor there,” Farmer told the New York Blade. He then ordered Farmer and her friends to pay the bill for their meal and ejected them from the restaurant.

Farmer—together with her mother and the Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund—held a news conference July 2 conference outside the restaurant, announcing that they had demanded that the restaurant take action to prevent such discrimination in the future.

“I felt violated,” Farmer was quoted in the Daily News. “I really thought that especially in New York City, especially in the heart of the Village, things like this had stopped happening.”

TLDEF has filed a lawsuit against the restaurant demanding that it enforce a policy prohibiting discrimination on the basis of gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation; train its staff to comply with laws protecting lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people; and compensate Farmer for the violation of her civil rights.

The legal group won a similar battle against New York’s Metropolitan Transportation Authority last year. Helena Stone, a 70-year-old transgender woman, had been arrested three times by the MTA for entering the women’s restroom. In October, the MTA settled the lawsuit TLDEF brought on Stone’s behalf, agreeing to allow people to choose the restroom that is consistent with their gender expression, to conduct gender training and sensitivity programs for its employees, and to pay Stone $2,000 in damages.

Farmer’s experience in the Village comes at a time when the area is undergoing gentrification. People of color, homeless and transgender communities have faced curfews and police brutality. Last year after the Halloween parade New York City police beat and arrested several people of color in sweeps on Christopher Street.

And it is in the West Village that a man attacked a group of African-American lesbians when they rebuffed his advances. The young women defended themselves and two men subsequently ran over to help them. At some point in the struggle the attacker was stabbed in the abdomen and subsequently underwent surgery. The women, rather than their attacker, were prosecuted, and in June, four of them—now known as the Jersey 4—were convicted and received sentences of from three-and-a-half to 11 years in prison.

These cases show that despite the many victories of the LGBT community, bigotry and violence have not been eradicated. The struggle has won the enactment in many states of laws that make it illegal for companies to fire, or refuse to hire or promote someone based on sexual orientation. However, only 17 states and the District of Columbia protect gay and lesbians in the work place and only 10 states provide protections based on gender identity.

While New York does not have such a law on the books the New York City human rights law bars transgender discrimination.

There is no federal law barring discrimination against lesbian, gay, bi or trans people. In April, members of the U.S. House of Representatives introduced the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, which would outlaw workplace discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. A similar measure was introduced in 1994 but failed to pass.

June Brown, communications coordinator of the Sylvia Rivera Law Project in Manhattan, told Workers World: “The law as it stands protects people regardless of their gender identities to use the bathrooms of their choice. For someone to deny a person this unalienable right to use the bathroom based upon an assumption is an inhumane and ignorant act that should be dealt with immediately.”

SRLP is a legal advocacy organization created and run by trans attorneys and activists who have been at the forefront of fighting discrimination against people of color who are trans, intersex or gender non-conforming in New York City.

Farmer’s experience shows that it is only by fiercely mobilizing to demand justice that laws will be enacted and enforced to prevent the discrimination and humiliation she endured.

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Pretty self-explanatory, I think. It seems that even at "a center of New York’s lesbian, gay, bi, transgender communities" on Pride Day, a lesbian woman cannot use a restaurant without interruption from some asshole who thinks that she "looks like a man". Disgusting, or what?

counterblast
30th July 2007, 03:59
I really wish more establishments would just adopt a single unisex restroom. Then all of these transphobic/sexist/homophobic situations could be avoided.

midnight marauder
30th July 2007, 04:29
Very disgusting.

Something similar happened in my city a few months back at an IHOP. There were protests and limited media attention, but the best that came out of it was a similarly repulsive nonpology (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=nonpology) that only escalated the matter.


This Friday, March 23, at 5:30PM, a demonstration will be held near the Grandview International House of Pancackes (IHOP) in response to their corporate brush-off after four lesbians were asked to leave their restaurant because of their sexual orientation.

A peck on the cheek that caused these individuals to be asked to leave would not have been considered inappropriate if the couples were heterosexual.

As the vice-president of franchises stated today, "All I can do is apologize that you feel you were treated differently."
source: http://www.infoshop.org/inews/article.php?...070323093004805 (http://www.infoshop.org/inews/article.php?story=20070323093004805)

Cheung Mo
30th July 2007, 11:45
If she was meek enough to pay her bill, I would have to question her mental health.

Cheung Mo
30th July 2007, 11:47
Originally posted by [email protected] 30, 2007 03:29 am
Very disgusting.

Something similar happened in my city a few months back at an IHOP. There were protests and limited media attention, but the best that came out of it was a similarly repulsive nonpology (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=nonpology) that only escalated the matter.


This Friday, March 23, at 5:30PM, a demonstration will be held near the Grandview International House of Pancackes (IHOP) in response to their corporate brush-off after four lesbians were asked to leave their restaurant because of their sexual orientation.

A peck on the cheek that caused these individuals to be asked to leave would not have been considered inappropriate if the couples were heterosexual.

As the vice-president of franchises stated today, "All I can do is apologize that you feel you were treated differently."
source: http://www.infoshop.org/inews/article.php?...070323093004805 (http://www.infoshop.org/inews/article.php?story=20070323093004805)
They should have killed the fucker. People like that would justify reopening Stalin's gulags.

Comeback Kid
25th January 2008, 02:06
They should have killed the fucker. People like that would justify reopening Stalin's gulags.

*bangs head against table*

For fucks sake mate. Request warn.

The general public are a bunch of racist, homophobic, sexist, xenophobic, ageist ****s. Thats the fact of the matter, not because they are bad people, not because they lack mental capacity, but because that was simply the way they were brought up.

You going to kill small children for believing in the easter bunny? They dont know any better, its what they've been told all their lives.

jake williams
25th January 2008, 02:33
I really wish more establishments would just adopt a single unisex restroom. Then all of these transphobic/sexist/homophobic situations could be avoided.
I have to agree. I don't think there's any real way we can avoid these sorts of gender issues without doing that. Even then though, it's tricky.

lvatt
25th January 2008, 03:24
not because they are bad people, not because they lack mental capacity, but because that was simply the way they were brought up.

Well be that as it may... I can't forgive someone for being a racist/homophobic bigot just because that was the way they were brought up. My parents were fascists and I grew up hearing about how great of a hero Mussolini was, but that didn't prevent me from completely rejecting that crap when I was old enough to understand it

People who are old enough to make a choice should be held accountable for their actions. "Freedom" doesn't mean "freedom to make other people feel like sub-humans just because you feel superior to them."

Maybe I'm just speaking nonsense... but I would certainly consider a "bad person" someone who makes the choice to discriminate for race/sex/etc. They know they are hurting innocents by their actions, but that doesn't stop them from doing what they're doing. How can we condone that or make excuses for them? I'm just unable to.

This may sound a bit naive though, but I also believe that if you sit down with a homophobe or racist or whatever, its possible to make them see what dicks they are and get them to change. Maybe it isn't, but I like to think that it can be done. I really like to think that those attitudes can be changed with proper education. I think everyone has the potential to become sensible to such things. Maybe I'm just being delusional. Whatever.

Labor Shall Rule
25th January 2008, 06:16
Out of curiosity, are you legally allowed to 'integrate' the bathrooms? I wonder how the practice even started...

spartan
25th January 2008, 14:45
This woman must have felt really embarrassed with the whole situation.

Such a shame that women are still judged on appearences.

Neutrino
27th January 2008, 02:08
Out of curiosity, are you legally allowed to 'integrate' the bathrooms?

I would certainly think so. Unless there's a law somewhat that says certain establishments must have bathrooms, in which case the text of the law may imply the illegality of unisex bathrooms, but only in the absence of segregated ones.

Comrade Rage
27th January 2008, 02:17
I would certainly think so. Unless there's a law somewhat that says certain establishments must have bathrooms, in which case the text of the law may imply the illegality of unisex bathrooms, but only in the absence of segregated ones.In America is usually depends on municipal ordinances whether or not different kinds of establishments have bathrooms. Across the board-all multiple occupancy bathrooms MUST be segregated. Single occupancy ones that you go in and lock can be unisex.

Luís Henrique
27th January 2008, 02:17
They should have killed the fucker. People like that would justify reopening Stalin's gulags.

y=1/x

Luís Henrique

black magick hustla
27th January 2008, 07:47
y=1/x

Luís Henrique

if you integrate that, from x=1 to x=x, you will get lnx

F9
27th January 2008, 12:36
kill fucking rascists!

Fawkes
27th January 2008, 15:38
I have to agree. I don't think there's any real way we can avoid these sorts of gender issues without doing that. Even then though, it's tricky.
Can you imagine being a girl at a nightclub and having to deal with drunken asshole guys while you're taking a piss?

Module
29th January 2008, 02:09
Can you imagine being a girl at a nightclub and having to deal with drunken asshole guys while you're taking a piss?
Agreed.
I'd think that, at the moment, integrating bathrooms will do anything but avoid gender issues.

Qwerty Dvorak
29th January 2008, 02:11
if you integrate that, from x=1 to x=x, you will get lnx
QFT

Fawkes
29th January 2008, 02:24
I just realized how amazingly old this thread is.