Love... now that's original

[Kenji Hideyoshi]

When we meet someone, we develop an ideal image of that person in our mind.
It's only after getting to know that someone, that that person, or that image
of the person, is changed into a more accurate portrayal of the actual
person (as opposed to the image of that person)

this is why relationships fail.

[Led Zeppelin]

Oh really? I didn't know that! Thank you for enlightening my poor backward mind!

[LSD]

When we meet someone, we develop an ideal image of that person in our mind.

....sometimes.

Other times we keep an open mind; and other times we really couldn't give a fuck.

And in terms of whether a "conflict" between the "ideal" and the "real" is actually at the root of all failed relationships, frankly I think that that's a ludicrous oversimplification.

After all, many relationships fail years after the participants have completed the primary "getting to know" process. If your theory were correct, long-term relationships would never break down.

In reality, of course, personal relationships are more often than not affected by material specifics, not idealistic "laws".

Human interaction is just too complex to be so elementarily explained. ;)

[Chrysalis]

Originally posted by [email protected] 6 2006, 03:38 PM
If your theory were correct, long-term relationships would never break down.

In reality, of course, personal relationships are more often than not affected by material specifics, not idealistic "laws".


Yes, I agree.

And concerning the idealistic belief about relationship, some people say, the very high rate of people wanting to get married ignores the fact of the high rate of break-up: it tells us it's not very stable, statistics wise, yet in general people do want to get legally joined. Because I think we still cling to these idealistic ideas when we first get into a relationship only to admit later that we didn't reason very well in our decision.

[apathy maybe]

Watch this http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/tv/bodyhits/lovestory.shtml

It is all about biology. Which doesn't of course take away the magic, simply explains it.

(And possibly also see some of the other hits http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&q=b...y+hits+love (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&q=bbc+body+hits+love>)

[thisisfree]

You guys a ruining "Love". You're over analyzing it. I really think there are people out there who you can't help but fall in love with. Yeah, this shit sounds sappy and I don't know why we're talking about it on revolutionaryleft.com...but I've found that person, it sucks at times due to conflicts that come between us. You don't know what "Love" is until you find it, when you do it's fucking nuts, but it's better then going through life trying to find it and comming up with assumptions that kill...where was I going with this? Anyway, "Love" can't be found in a dictionary...well it can but not real "Love".

[Little brother]

Yeah i agree with thisisfree. It's not a complex thing love. It's a feeling you get when that one persons name comes into mind. When you feel like shit, then the person sends something simple like a text, you feel quesy, a stupid grin splits your sad mouth. You just wanna be with them, just to hold and never hurt. You'd feel stupid cause you want them forever but your ashamed to say it. You even say stupid things in your blindness for that person. You don't think straight, your like a dreamer.
Thats what love is.

[emma_goldman]

What happens when you still love them despite their quirks and ideosyncrasies? ;)
Oftentimes even our ideal image of someone can be surpassed, even by their faults.

[Erim]

"Sex is love, or it's nothing. It's not conquest, it's not achievement, it's not a contest. It's Love, an exchange. And love is a progressive thing, if you love something and you give it all your creativity, intellectual and emotional-sensual creativity, it expands, it keeps growing - and so will your sexual pleasure if you can understand this.

No matter how much I was ripped off by the society or individuals in it, I couldn't loose the enchantment, the glory of knowing another human being. When I couldn't associate with them personally I wrote about them as though they were great, as though they were magnificent. And though on so many levels the culture is set up to destroy nature and of course that includes us, bleeding us of our magnificense, the sexual appitite is slow to die, and we remain in spite of ourselves, attracted to other human animals. That's our destiny and no matter what you do you will not find enlightenment of fulfillment or any kind of lucidity if you try to circumvent your sexuality."

Quote by Wulf Zendik[/U]

[Ali.Cat]

What happens when you still love them despite their quirks and ideosyncrasies?
Oftentimes even our ideal image of someone can be surpassed, even by their faults.

Imperfections are absolutely perfect :wub: