Hurt feelings and wanting to hide

[Sinister Intents]

I'll elaborate more on this tomorrow. I'm feeling pretty upset right now though my girlfriend helped me feel better. I still can't help but feel painfully hurt and sad. My current question as it relates is should I just be banned from this forum? I just want to hide.

[PhoenixAsh]

Do not take this the wrong way and it may sound harsh but....

What you should do is stop asking for vague and especially negative self affirmation.


If life sucks simply say so and express your feelings. There is no limit of people being concerned, helpful or willing to lend a shoulder to cry on or simply listen.

BUT

Do NOT ask the community if you are a bad person, if you should be banned, if you made mistakes or what your perceived weaknesses are. These are negative attention seeking questions and people will eventually get bored and fed up with them. You do this quite often...and jokingly or not...these questions will turn on you.


Also do not apologize for making this thread or asking the question. There is no need for that. Simply accept the answer here as friendly advice.



There is nothing wrong with wanting to hide or shun others when you feel out of your comfort zone or when you feel miserable. It is perfectly natural especially if that feeling is caused by preceived rejection or loss of selfworth. Ask people to cheer you up. Or find somebody who you can relate to and seek comfort with. The feelings will eventually go away. And keep reminding yoruself of the positive things about yourself.

[Sinister Intents]

I posted this extremely triggered last night

[PhoenixAsh]

I posted this extremely triggered last night

I understand. What were you triggered about?

[Sinister Intents]

I understand. What were you triggered about?

Abuse

[#FF0000]

SI are you getting any kind of counseling or anything like that?

[PhoenixAsh]

Abuse

That is serious. Is this family related or in your social circles or..?

Is there anybody you can turn to?

[Slavoj Zizek's Balls]

Is it cyclical?

[exeexe]

So what im getting from this cryptic communication is that because you abused someone you are asking if you should be banned from this forum? I mean everyone is free to be here unless they have violated some kind of a rule ..

[Slavoj Zizek's Balls]

So what im getting from this cryptic communication is that because you abused someone you are asking if you should be banned from this forum? I mean everyone is free to be here unless they have violated some kind of a rule ..

I think you might have it the wrong way around...

[exeexe]

I think you might have it the wrong way around...
ok .. So how do you explain the "banning part" having a place into the topic?

[Sinister Intents]

That is serious. Is this family related or in your social circles or..?

Is there anybody you can turn to?

When I was younger I got severely bullied at school and my ex in my past relationship was abusive to me

With my current relationship my girlfriend is very helpful, loving and supportive, she helps a lot

[exeexe]

No you shouldn't be banned. We like you to stay and have good moments together! If you hide from us, people will be sad!

[Slavoj Zizek's Balls]

ok .. So how do you explain the "banning part" having a place into the topic?

Because when S.I. felt triggered, they wanted to hide and remove social contact, to just leave almost everything that means a lot to them in a cry of emotional frustration. Banning would be an act of severance done out of emotional grief and of course does not tie in well with S.I.'s desire to stay here when not feeling low. I think?

[Sinister Intents]

SI are you getting any kind of counseling or anything like that?

Zero help whatsoever save forums I don't gave professional help but I have talked to people in the past plus being in my current relationship helps a lot and I got severely triggered from being mistreated by someone I thought was a friend. Made up a lie and spit it in my face and treated me like shit like my ex


So what im getting from this cryptic communication is that because you abused someone you are asking if you should be banned from this forum? I mean everyone is free to be here unless they have violated some kind of a rule ..

Dude I was the one abused

[exeexe]

Dude I was the one abused
Im sorry to say but this whole thread has a big lack of assertive communication. But i understand now.

You should try and dig into that. With assertive communication people will stop bullying you. Its an important skill we are not being taught in our streamlined system of education because there is no room for social education (its all about money). And for those who fail to learn it in an ad hoc way or in an autodidact way, mostly of those will suffer from it.

[Rosa Partizan]

I always feel somehow bad when I read such thread, firstly for having such a privileged situation (of course, guilt is unnecessary in such a case), but much more for not being able to do or say anything smart that could help you out. And just saying "get professional help" is really something everyone said ad nauseam. Phoenix wrote a very good post. This is stuff that requires real life people to get you through. Maybe it comforts a lot of people to read about similar experiences, that's fully understandable, but it will take you a whole lot of support by your surroundings to deal with all that stuff. Don't know, that whole posting of mine sounds redundant, but yeah, blah blah, anyway. You're great.

[Slavoj Zizek's Balls]

I always feel somehow bad when I read such thread, firstly for having such a privileged situation (of course, guilt is unnecessary in such a case), but much more for not being able to do or say anything smart that could help you out. And just saying "get professional help" is really something everyone said ad nauseam. Phoenix wrote a very good post. This is stuff that requires real life people to get you through. Maybe it comforts a lot of people to read about similar experiences, that's fully understandable, but it will take you a whole lot of support by your surroundings to deal with all that stuff. Don't know, that whole posting of mine sounds redundant, but yeah, blah blah, anyway. You're great.

This. Just want to add that I would send you a private message saying "GOOD LUCK" in bold big letters... but I can't PM you. :(

[Sinister Intents]

Dude fucking accused me of hurting his dog and that never happened

[#FF0000]

Zero help whatsoever save forums I don't gave professional help but I have talked to people in the past plus being in my current relationship helps a lot and I got severely triggered from being mistreated by someone I thought was a friend. Made up a lie and spit it in my face and treated me like shit like my ex

100% try and make getting help your priority. See if you can find a therapist that operates on a sliding scale so it's affordable to you (since iirc you don't have insurance).

I think this is important because you would benefit more from professional help than just support from people you know/on forums. Plus, I think a lot of your own behavior is really self-defeating. Especially what looks like a lot of self-diagnosis to me. I mean, before you mentioned you had some learning disability that you couldn't remember and then acted as if it was a huge barrier to you understanding things -- which you couldn't possibly know. Behaving like this when you really don't know is shooting yourself in the foot and that behavior is much more of a barrier than the disability is.

So yeah definitely try to find professional help and don't be scared if you have to ask your parents or something to help get you it. That's easier said than done, I know, but a therapist would be a massive, huge help to you and the sooner you can find one, the better.