Comrades I'm In Love But...

[4thInter]

Having autism (Aspergers) i'm above the average intelligence level of my peers, despite this I suffer learning anything that isn't Marx-Lenin theory, history or science, hence i'm in a room for kids with autism, dyslexia and many social disorders for 4/8 periods. In this room i've meet a beautiful girl with many of the same social issues has me, except worse. We get each other has we both have autism, she's even taken a likening to me :wub: . There's two catchs of this all, first she's already seeing someone, secondly she can be extremely sexually driven and i don't know if this is just all in a sex drive for her :homy: .

Years of social isolation has given me time to do independent research. A year before she moved here i was researching body language and from i've concluded she does has some affectionate towards me showing all the signs. But is this sexual, is it worth be in a type of Lynard Skynard Gimmie Three Steps situation. I really need an answer, only three months ago was i reading The Manifesto cover the cover, now my revolutionary ideas have completely halted. Help a comrade out?

I don't need her BF coming to my house with a shotgun... :unsure:

[Narodsky]

Comrade,

I've done some heartbreaking in my time and i've had my heart broken many many times. I don't have Aspergers so I'm not even gonna pretend like I know what that's like. All I can say is, from my experience, don't do it. I've been with girls who've had boyfriends, and, I'll tell you, you sure do feel like a real piece of shit afterwards. I don't do it anymore b/c I'm currently in a relationship and I guess I grew the hell up at some point, but, dude, there are plenty of girls you'll meet in your lifetime, some of whom won't have boyfriends! Also, yeah, getting used sucks pretty hard as well. Makes you feel really cheap. You're better than that, comrade. Keep your head up!

[Dialectical Wizard]

If she has a boyfriend, I think it would be better if you left her alone. Anyways I'm not really the guy you should ask about such matters since I’m pretty much indifferent towards women.

Are you Bolsickle btw? :grin:

[Hrafn]

Don't give me that schtick about higher intelligence, please. That's just something people with AS say to make themselves feel better about not being neurotypical.

I'd advise not attempting to overthrow the monogamous system before the Revolution with a capital R has come, or whatever. If she is really interested in you, regardless of it being sexual or emotional, and am in a dedicated relationship, she's gonna have to choose. Best of luck to you in sorting it out.

(Why do you have Trotskyist name if you're PSL?)

[Atsumari]

Bolshe always tries to pass himself as a Trotkyist in all of smurfs.
Pro-tip, next time you make an account, don't talk about girls and pretend to be something other than a Trot next time.

This would also be the perfect opportunity to ban this fuck in Chatango. His name is Lolpierandom.

[4thInter]

Don't give me that schtick about higher intelligence, please. That's just something people with AS say to make themselves feel better about not being neurotypical.

I'd advise not attempting to overthrow the monogamous system before the Revolution with a capital R has come, or whatever. If she is really interested in you, regardless of it being sexual or emotional, and am in a dedicated relationship, she's gonna have to choose. Best of luck to you in sorting it out.

(Why do you have Trotskyist name if you're PSL?)

The PSL I feel is more productive than most parties.

[Lynx]

You wish to discover whether it is an unrequited love...?

[MarcusJuniusBrutus]

Don't give me that schtick about higher intelligence, please. That's just something people with AS say to make themselves feel better about not being neurotypical.

How do you know? I happen to be in the same boat. I have a law degree and am close to finishing my master's in history. I'm a native English speaker learning Arabic. Frankly, most of my relatives by marriage or blood consider me the smartest person they know. Can't say the same for the other grad students since one has to be pretty smart for that anyway--and what a privilege it is to be around those young people!

Anyway, part of the definition of Asperger's is being smarter than typical. It is not a myth. Neither is the social isolation. I'm in my mid-40s and still cannot figure people out. I have learned a lot for observation and reading, but none of it comes naturally. Fortunately my wife is almost as odd as I am.

As practical advice for the original poster, if she has someone she considers to be her boyfriend, then she may be flirting with you with no intention of taking that any further than your class period. She probably likes you, but may not be interested in anything more than superficial friendship. It may be that she is simply keeping her options open, perhaps thinking that her current relationship may not last forever. Or she may be looking to replace the current relationship. I have no real way of knowing which if any of these options are right.

Unfortunately and paradoxically, active interest is a turn-off. The feeling seems to be that if no other woman is interested in you, then the one you want has no reason to be either. So, continue to be flirty and either something will come of it or else it will not.

[Hrafn]

There is nothing with autism that makes you intelligent. Get off the high horse.

Just because someone with AS is intelligent doesn't mean that correlates with their neuropsychiatric disability. The habit of those with AS to develop repetitive and obsessive interests in certain subjects, often gaining vast knowledge of them, is often confused with intelligent behaviour. Finally, it should be added there are many definitions of intelligence - those I use certainly don't apply here.

If you go onto, for example, Wrongplanet.net (a prominent forum for people with autism), you'll soon find massive amounts of people trying to make themselves feel better by espousing supposed positive effects of their disability. Frequently, this degrades into pure supremacism - there is ample discriminative behaviour towards the inferior "NTs".

[A Revolutionary Tool]

If she's in a relationship but she's all into you maybe she's not so happy in that relationship and is seeking someone better for her. I'd make a move but that doesn't mean he's not going to come to your house with a shotty. Yeah it would suck for that guy but if that's what she wants and what you want I don't see the big deal, being in a relationship doesn't make you someone else's property and if she really wanted to be in this monogamous relationship with him she wouldn't dump him or cheat on him with you(if she accepts you of course).

[4thInter]

Thank you comrade!:grin:

[Narodsky]

From my experience, if someone is unfaithful, then they probably won't be faithful with you. Yeah, she isn't that other dude's property, but if they're in a closed, monogomous relationship, then it'd be fucked up if you came in between that. If she wants you, then she should dump him. If she just wants to screw around, then I wouldn't do that. As I said earlier, I've done that and I felt pretty shitty about it afterwards and I wish I hadn't. Ultimately, you're gonna do what you wanna do. Whatever you do, best of luck comrade. To thine own self be true...
:)

[Sea]

Hi BolS. How pissed off would you be if I told you to follow your heart?

[Red Economist]

relationships are hard because society tries to put us in the straight jacket of monogamy. I've struggled with these things myself and I think everyone has. no matter what you decide 4thInter, I can only wish you the best of luck and no matter what happens, remember that we all deserve to be loved. ;)

[MarcusJuniusBrutus]

There is nothing with autism that makes you intelligent.

*sigh*

I didn't say Aspergers MAKES someone intelligent. It may simply be that those who naturally are somewhat about average also have slight autism. Those folks are described as having "Aspergers." It may also be that the reason we are so good at things like language and (not in my case) math or other abstract things is because the part of our brains that are usually used for social skills are being used for something else.

I can't speak to what other people are saying. I'm not them, so I would ask you not to reify all those with this particular affliction.

Again, I ask how you know? I'm reading some rhetoric from you, but not much neuroscience.

[Hrafn]

"Anyway, part of the definition of Asperger's is being smarter than typical."

That's exactly what you said. That having Aspergers means you're smarter than typical.

[Rosa Partizan]

he's been banned from chat?

Great progress.

[Atsumari]

Nah, if only though =/
I really wish I could come to irc, but Chrome has it blocked.

[Bad Grrrl Agro]

I do not have autism and part of my brain functions above average, the analytical side is below average. some of my close friends, past as well as present, had high functioning autism. What I noticed is that they aren't more intelligent but they seemed to all be better at analytical stuff than me, which balanced me out, because the other side of my brain was exceptional.

[BIXX]

No autism I'm a genius btw 9999 IQ lol


In all seriousness though can we drop the autism discussion and discuss what the point if this thread was? I.e. Banning bolsickle.

[Bad Grrrl Agro]

The PSL I feel is more productive than most parties.

:laugh::laugh::laugh: :tt2:

[MarcusJuniusBrutus]

In all seriousness though can we drop the autism discussion and discuss what the point if this thread was? I.e. Banning bolsickle.

Sorry, I'll blame my lack of social graces on autism. :)

What's "bolsickle?"

[Rafiq]

There's something deeply trivial about the concept of love.... Not to say that (romantic) love doesn't exist, it does. At least, it's what we call a phenomena that has real neurological implications, though make no mistake there is nothing mystical about this - similar effects can be obtained through other means.

Love withstands insofar as its poverty is not revealed, the cold truth is that it is a waste of powerful emotions on a single person which usually ends up in disappointment. Love is not simply to have affections for another, it regards your identity, it is the means by which you associate yourself wholly with another. Therein, all that your intimate preferences, desires, hobbies, aspirations, whatever are founded upon become devoured by this relentless destructive association of identity, your whole world is centered and reduced upon it. Though the reality is that love really isn't enough, you are still infinitely empty even if you have managed to trick yourself into thinking you've found your sole mate, and this emptiness manifests itself through a worm of doubt that everyone has. The sad truth is that way love is expressed reinforces existing social and sexual relations, and the deeper you fall in love, the more embedded in bourgeois ideology you are.

[Prometeo liberado]

The PSL I feel is more productive than most parties.

Unlucky in love, unlucky in politics it would seem. :(

[Lynx]

There's something deeply trivial about the concept of love.... Not to say that (romantic) love doesn't exist, it does. At least, it's what we call a phenomena that has real neurological implications, though make no mistake there is nothing mystical about this - similar effects can be obtained through other means.
What other means?

Love withstands insofar as its poverty is not revealed, the cold truth is that it is a waste of powerful emotions on a single person which usually ends up in disappointment. Love is not simply to have affections for another, it regards your identity, it is the means by which you associate yourself wholly with another. Therein, all that your intimate preferences, desires, hobbies, aspirations, whatever are founded upon become devoured by this relentless destructive association of identity, your whole world is centered and reduced upon it. Though the reality is that love really isn't enough, you are still infinitely empty even if you have managed to trick yourself into thinking you've found your sole mate, and this emptiness manifests itself through a worm of doubt that everyone has. The sad truth is that way love is expressed reinforces existing social and sexual relations, and the deeper you fall in love, the more embedded in bourgeois ideology you are.
If you're speaking from experience, then I believe you.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

What other means?

Garbage bags full of weed :wub:

[Lily Briscoe]

If you're speaking from experience, then

Haha

[#FF0000]

What's "bolsickle?"

Another name for the OP of this thread. 4inter's original account was Bolshevik Sickle and he was banned for a few reasons including hella questionable remarks about another member's sexuality and this and that

[Bad Grrrl Agro]

Garbage bags full of weed :wub:

I think I just fell in love.

[BIXX]

I think I just fell in love.


NO. ART IS MINE.

Shit those aren't gonna be in caps after I post this will they?

ETA: awesome they totally were.