Contemplating

[Sinister Intents]

I've been contemplating dropping out of college? Is it worth it? My family wouldn't let me live it down if I did. I feel as if they'd bully and mistreat me over it. "you're a quitter" I'm tired of college. I don't want to go to college anymore and I actually never really wanted to. I got pushed into going by my parents and sister, because apparently you need an education or you're a dumbass/retard/et cetera.

That and suicide, but I'm working on self help stuff and I'm gonna be using a mental health forum for help with that.

I'm also heavily thinking of moving out. What are the benefits of that? I'm so fucking sick of living with my nuclear family with my patriarch father, oppressed mother, and my sister who just leeches off of everyone

[Rosa Partizan]

Dude, you should have some alternative or stuff. Not just dropping out. Or maybe change your subject. Having no education would make it just worse. I myself have been studying for quite a while 'cause I work a lot and I've also been thinking about dropping this shit, but everytime realized that I would gain shit if I did this.

When it comes to moving out, benefits are: more privacy, the relationship with your family improves in many cases, more independence, but also higher costs, more responsibility etc. You have to learn things you haven't been confronted with back then.

[Red Commissar]

Nowadays a lot of jobs except for real dead-end ones need a college degree. Even a few menial jobs are now requiring some sort of degree before they even consider you for a job. It's really hard to get back into college if you drop out, it's much easier to finish while you're still in the grind. Then break out on your own- even if your degree doesn't help it's still better than nothing when you're looking for a job.

If college graduates are having trouble finding work, then by virtue of that it stands to reason that people even further down on the educational ladder will have a worse time. Here in Texas we've been having the image of a economic boom, but most of jobs being created are those that have college requirements- the stuff left over are the usual things like big box retail, service, food, that you'll probably get driven mad by just as you are with your folks.

Is your family helping you with the costs of education? If they are, you should really take advantage of that while you can. Not a lot of people have that benefit and would kill for it. College costs even at a state institution can set you back because of loans you'll inevitably have to draw to cover costs (it is highly doubtful you'll have thousands on hand to pay), really only community costs are something you could possibly handle with a low-paying job with out setting yourself back too heavily.

[motion denied]

One word about moving out: loneliness. It may sound cool at first glance, but here's a tip: it's not.

[Landsharks eat metal]

I would recommend finishing school if at all possible, and making sure you have a good plan and plenty of money before moving out (i.e. don't look at what I had to do for my situation and think it would be best for yours as well because based on what I know about yoyr life, you can do better.)

Don't rush things, and please don't make plans or rash decisions when drunk or stoned.

[Ele'ill]

I dropped out, then dabbled in it here and there while moving around the country quite a bit. It's hard to go back at this point. Maybe if you get to a good stopping point stop and do something else for a while but make it intentional. If you aren't doing well right now, hate it, have nothing really going for you there, then maybe just quit until you find it in you again to continue. If you're going to move out consider a few years of life experience and maybe use that as your break because moving out for the first time and school at the same time can be rough.

[Leftsolidarity]

I can't really speak to the college part because I never went but there are a lot of advantages to moving out. If your parents are supporting you, though, I'd think a lot about if you can really support yourself and have a place you could afford to live. I never realized how much shit was involved in just being alive until I moved out and had to deal with all of it myself.

That said, though, it's fucking fantastic to get out of your folks' home if you don't get along with them. I moved between my parents and never got along with any of them until I moved out and didn't have to deal with each other every day. You finally get that "your own life" thing and realizing you can do whatever the fuck you feel like is pretty great.

[Skyhilist]

What year are you in in college? Do you have a lot of time left? And also, is it just the work in general that you don't like in college regardless of interest, or do you just not find the subject matter interesting (and perhaps could be in a better major)?

[Rugged Collectivist]

I dropped out. The main drawback for me is that I really wanted to go but you said you were pressured into it so I don't think that would be a problem for you. If you decide to drop out I urge you to at least finish the semester. I dropped out halfway through my first semester. I received credit for a half semester course but I failed my other two courses and am now on academic probation. At the time I thought "fuck it. I'm not going back so what are a few F's?" but then I started to have doubts and regrets and now if I do go back it will be significantly harder.

As someone else said, it's important to consider how close you are to finishing. If you're on your third or fourth year I would recommend staying as you've already invested a ton of money and you might as well press on and get the degree at that point. fear of debt was a big part of the reason I left so I can sympathize with you on that front. If your parents are paying then you ought to take advantage of that.

[Os Cangaceiros]

It's not that big of a deal DEPENDING. Key word is "depending". I dropped out of college for about four years. Now I'm going back, with my degree in sight.

The time immediately following college was very strange for me, though. All of my life I had structure to my life...school for most of the year, and (from about 14 onward) work during the summer months. Suddenly I had NO structure at all (I was unemployed and living on the other side of the country from where I grew up). That isn't exactly healthy for someone with my personality type. So that's something to consider.