Is going to prom worth it?

[Skyhilist]

So I'm a senior this year in high school. Everyone is pressuring me to go to senior prom later on in the year including both my classmates and my parents.

I really don't see the point. Here is how dances work at my high school: there is a terrible DJ who plays mostly mainstream hip hop almost the entire time and then throws in a few mainstream pop songs because he figures "that's what white people like". I listen to metal and punk and don't enjoy very much music outside of those genres, let alone the music that I know will be played there.

So why would I want to go to a dark room that plays horrible music to hang out with a bunch of people who I mostly don't like anyways? I have some friends but most people at my high school talk about the most utterly banal bullshit and/or are very reactionary. Why should I spend something crazy like $80 for this, when I could easily spend that money on seeing a concert with my friends instead (which I would enjoy a lot more)?

Is there any real reason for me to go to prom? As far as I've seen people like me (introverts) generally only go because of social pressures. I'm facing a lot of social pressures. My parents will think I am some type of loser if I don't go, and think that I have no friends and am just a complete reject. My mom already says that she's "worried about me" because I don't like to socialize all that extensively outside of school usually.

Is there anything I'm missing out on here? Are there any actual logical reasons to go to something as silly as prom? And if not, should I still go anyways to avoid the social results of not going and the way that I'll be viewed given that everyone goes to senior prom?

[slum]

don't go if you won't enjoy it, especially if it's costing you so much money.

it's easier to be introverted (meaning less people give you shit for it) once you get out of high school, but there's no reason to make yourself miserable to fulfill other people's expectations of what you "should" enjoy. most of the time people who harp on introverts and loners are either honestly unable to understand that you don't enjoy x activity, or they're trying to re-live their childhood and opportunities they think they missed through you. either way, if you know you're not missing out on anything (and it sounds like you do know), just do you and go to a punk concert or read up on amphibians and have a nice night on your own.

[bcbm]

when i was in high school i basically felt how you do and never wanted to attend any of the school dances and especially not prom, basically for the reasons you list (expensive, shitty music, stupid people...). it ended up that my girlfriend and i just told our parents we were going, let them take some pictures and we went out to dinner, then just skipped the dance and fooled around in the car or something. i don't regret not going.

[Skyhilist]

Thanks for the advice guys. I think I definitely wont go.

[Ceallach_the_Witch]

I can sympathise. I managed to miss the one I was supposed to go to leaving secondary school without any problems(I saw Iron Maiden instead :> ) but a few years later when I was leaving 6th form I had people I barely knew trying to talk me in to going to that prom like I was some kind of socially stunted charity case. I guess I appreciate the effort they made, mistaken as it was, but they really wouldn't listen to me when I said I'd rather not spend £45 on something I wan't interested in :rolleyes:





Unsurprisingly, I spent that night in the pub with my friends.

[The Garbage Disposal Unit]

My girlfriend at the time, myself, and five or six of my friends put on prom-fancy clothing and hung out in one of our friend's parents' basement. I think we maybe ordered pizza and watched a movie or something. It was really nice. Almost a decade later, I have no regrets about my decision.

[Trap Queen Voxxy]

I would totally go, I mean, why not. Buy a suit from goodwill, cop some flasks and booze, get fucked up with your pals, go dance and do whatever, it's one of your last HS experiences, why not? Fuck it. That's what I'd say, you can make nearly anything like that fun. Drop some acid or something.

[BIXX]

I'm not going to prom, unless my girlfriend wants to go. If she doesn't we will probably go get smashed and wonder what the fuck happened the next morning.

[bcbm]

Drop some acid or something.

maybe with a little molly. this is sound advice

[#FF0000]

i went to prom

twice

it was w/e but i didn't hate it.

[Comrade Jacob]

Don't, it's a liberal conspiracy.

[cyu]

If you hang out with people you like or go where there are people you like, your life will be happy.

If you hang out with people you don't like or go to places filled with people you don't like, your life will not be so happy.

...I should follow my own advice :lol:

[Tifosi]

After party! That's what I did. Hit the drink early.

Instead of buying or renting a kilt (you should do for that even if you don't go lol) I got a lot of drink. Me and a mate finished that off, then meet up with everyone else in my year later to keep going. It a win - win situation. No tedious hanging around with teachers and more money channeled into the right area.

[Comrade Samuel]

Got mine coming up soon as well....hell if I know what I'm doing at this point I guess I'll just cross that bridge when I come to it.