The Dating thread

[Dominicana_1965]

Thought I start a thread about dating...how often do communists date?
Whats interesting is that I'm quite attractive but for some reason can never ask a girl out (even if she likes me) I fear that im going to be alone for quite some time due to my own picky tendencies and general lack of knowledge of dating

share tips or something..ugh i need a drink
Let me hear about your successes or failure in your love life dammit!

[Let's Get Free]

Can't help you here, I have yet to go on a date myself.

[Dominicana_1965]

Can't help you here, I have yet to go on a date myself.

Is is something you think about often? or have you banished it to the realms of bourgeois decadence lol?

[Ostrinski]

I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything. I know I am young yet - I am only 19 but I've already been through my first semester of college and each day that passes by feels like a smaller and smaller chance that I will ever be able to accomplish any of this. Because it's not as if it's getting easier to talk to people, it's getting harder! My social skills are deteriorating as people get more and more mature and I don't. It's something I think about everyday and causes a lot of anxiety and stress.

I suppose I could try online dating but I would never want to put anyone in the awkward position of having to meet me in real life. Besides, I don't even have a fucking car, a fucking place of my own, or a fucking job. I feel like a fifteen year old inside a nineteen year old's body. My shyness will never let me have a happy life.

[Let's Get Free]

Is is something you think about often? or have you banished it to the realms of bourgeois decadence lol?

Yeah, I feel a lot like Ostrinski. I just feel disconnected from mainstream society. It's not like I want it to be that way, but that's just how it is.

[Geiseric]

Maybe you feel disconnected because of all the time you guys spend on the internet? :confused: If you're in college just talk to girls and try to study with them or whatever. Pretend you're talking to one of your friends, and don't make it seem like you like them.

[human strike]

Looks like me and my ex are gonna try and work things out and get back together... which is terrifying but less terrifying than the alternative. heh


I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything. I know I am young yet - I am only 19 but I've already been through my first semester of college and each day that passes by feels like a smaller and smaller chance that I will ever be able to accomplish any of this. Because it's not as if it's getting easier to talk to people, it's getting harder! My social skills are deteriorating as people get more and more mature and I don't. It's something I think about everyday and causes a lot of anxiety and stress.

I suppose I could try online dating but I would never want to put anyone in the awkward position of having to meet me in real life. Besides, I don't even have a fucking car, a fucking place of my own, or a fucking job. I feel like a fifteen year old inside a nineteen year old's body. My shyness will never let me have a happy life.

I used to feel like this. But then sexual and romantic experiences just sort of snuck up on me and took me by surprise. These things happen sooner or later and usually sooner than you think. It's best not to stress about it. :)

[Vanguard1917]

These things happen sooner or later and usually sooner than you think. It's best not to stress about it. :)

Hear, hear.

[Art Vandelay]

I've been dating the same gorgeous gal for almost 4 years now. Before that I had a few different relationships, but mostly just dumb highschool ones. I'm 20 and have been with my girlfriend since I was 16, so I don't really have much advice. I've forgotten what it is like to be single.

[Art Vandelay]

I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything. I know I am young yet - I am only 19 but I've already been through my first semester of college and each day that passes by feels like a smaller and smaller chance that I will ever be able to accomplish any of this. Because it's not as if it's getting easier to talk to people, it's getting harder! My social skills are deteriorating as people get more and more mature and I don't. It's something I think about everyday and causes a lot of anxiety and stress.

I suppose I could try online dating but I would never want to put anyone in the awkward position of having to meet me in real life. Besides, I don't even have a fucking car, a fucking place of my own, or a fucking job. I feel like a fifteen year old inside a nineteen year old's body. My shyness will never let me have a happy life.

Perhaps you could find someone in your class to study with? I feel like if you met up with a girl in one of your history classes, you could probably impress her with your intelligence. I can almost guarantee that no one considers you as awkward as you do.

[Comrade Jandar]

The thing is even if you do manage to get a date it doesn't mean anything. Most likely it will go no where. I'm 19 and I've had one girlfriend. Dating and actively pursuing a partner for a relationship is not worth it.

[Trap Queen Voxxy]

I date constantly but mainly stupid, little brief things, very rarely serious but when so, very. Dating is extremely fun to me, I'm a social butterfly.

[Comrade Jandar]

"Introverts of the World Unite!"

[Jack]

The thing is even if you do manage to get a date it doesn't mean anything. Most likely it will go no where. I'm 19 and I've had one girlfriend. Dating and actively pursuing a partner for a relationship is not worth it.

This.

You're young, have fun, get laid, don't worry about a committed relationship until you're like 25 at least.

[Landsharks eat metal]

I had a boyfriend once. It sucked, so I dumped him after a month. I want to see if I can ever try dating someone I'm actually attracted to.

[TheRedAnarchist23]

Whats interesting is that I'm quite attractive but for some reason can never ask a girl out (even if she likes me) I fear that im going to be alone for quite some time due to my own picky tendencies and general lack of knowledge of dating


Asking girls out is actualy quite easy, but maybe that is my mediterranean blood talking.
I she is avaliable, and has no other commitments she will prefer going out with you to being alone. Even if the girl is not interested in you she will not reject you unless she has another commitment. How would you react if a girl decided to ask you out?

[#FF0000]

I she is avaliable, and has no other commitments she will prefer going out with you to being alone. Even if the girl is not interested in you she will not reject you unless she has another commitment. How would you react if a girl decided to ask you out?

yeah this is p. much true actually. In high school i thought dating was a big deal in that it was really hard to do or whatever. It's not. All you have to do is talk to strangers, which is a tough hill to climb sometimes if you are hella introverted.

[Il Medico]

Maybe you feel disconnected because of all the time you guys spend on the internet? :confused: If you're in college just talk to girls and try to study with them or whatever. Pretend you're talking to one of your friends, and don't make it seem like you like them.
This is terrible advice. Being dishonest and trying the 'make friends first' approach never works, trust me I've fallen for that trap more than once.

If you fancy someone ask them to drinks or something. The worse thing that could happen is a total stranger tells you no. If you invest tons of time and effort to build a relationship with that person in the hopes they'll fall for you, you're just setting yourself up for a bad rejection when you finally do ask them out.

[Dominicana_1965]

Asking girls out is actualy quite easy, but maybe that is my mediterranean blood talking.
I she is avaliable, and has no other commitments she will prefer going out with you to being alone. Even if the girl is not interested in you she will not reject you unless she has another commitment. How would you react if a girl decided to ask you out?

Well all my past relationships have been initiated by females and not by me. Usually when a girl approaches me it works, but when I do it, it doesn't..there is obviously something I'm missing in this psychological game :confused:

[A Revolutionary Tool]

I haven't dated anybody in a while, more than a year, but I've had a few one night stand type things and some really awkward situations where older women really want me. And I mean like 51 years old...

[Comrade Jandar]

I haven't dated anybody in a while, more than a year, but I've had a few one night stand type things and some really awkward situations where older women really want me. And I mean like 51 years old...

Go on...

[hetz]

I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything.
I know a chan where most users are just like you.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

Go on...

Like when I go to my friends house and his mom is always talking about sexual stuff, she tells me she'd let me move in rent free and she'd pay my phone bill, told me that she needed company when her husband went to Afghanistan. All of this right in front of my friend. Awkward as fuck. The idea of paying rent and bills with sex isn't the worst thing for me but it's still kind of weird considering this is my friends mom...I just realized I'd basically be a prostitute o_0

[#FF0000]

I know a chan where most users are just like you.

you're talking about every chan.

[Comrade Jandar]

Like when I go to my friends house and his mom is always talking about sexual stuff, she tells me she'd let me move in rent free and she'd pay my phone bill, told me that she needed company when her husband went to Afghanistan. All of this right in front of my friend. Awkward as fuck. The idea of paying rent and bills with sex isn't the worst thing for me but it's still kind of weird considering this is my friends mom...I just realized I'd basically be a prostitute o_0


Do you find her attractive despite the reservations?

[bcbm]

i date people, its cool

[Quail]

I haven't really been on many "dates" to be honest. A couple of times I got people's numbers on a night out and then met up with them once afterwards for an awkward evening, but I don't think that "dating" is really the best way to meet people if you're looking for a proper relationship. Most people I get with are friends or friends of friends before I start feeling attracted to them and anything happens.

I think actively seeking out romantic relationships is probably just going to make you feel unhappy and inadequate. In my experience romantic stuff happens randomly and by accident, so you should just be patient and wait. Besides if you worry about it too much you're going to come across as desperate, which I don't think many people find attractive.

[#FF0000]

I haven't really been on many "dates" to be honest. A couple of times I got people's numbers on a night out and then met up with them once afterwards for an awkward evening, but I don't think that "dating" is really the best way to meet people if you're looking for a proper relationship. Most people I get with are friends or friends of friends before I start feeling attracted to them and anything happens.

I think actively seeking out romantic relationships is probably just going to make you feel unhappy and inadequate. In my experience romantic stuff happens randomly and by accident, so you should just be patient and wait. Besides if you worry about it too much you're going to come across as desperate, which I don't think many people find attractive.

this is p. much exactly what i've done. but at the same time, I think it's a good idea to put oneself out there. give out your number. take chances. worst someone can do is say no.

[Ostrinski]

No way I would ever approach anyone I didn't know.

[Os Cangaceiros]

Well all my past relationships have been initiated by females and not by me. Usually when a girl approaches me it works, but when I do it, it doesn't..there is obviously something I'm missing in this psychological game :confused:

Yeah, it's the same way with me in the few relationships I've been in. Girls would have to make it pretty clear to me that they wanted me. And let's be honest, who wouldn't.

In all seriousness I'm baffled at what they saw in me. IMO I don't have a lot of redeeming characteristics at all. Add to that the fact that I have a real hatred and bitterness towards the direction I see the world heading in...it's just been poisoning my mind, honestly (though this is a more recent thing in my life). I'm not a good person and I have problems.

Considering those facts I don't think I'm going to be in another relationship anytime soon. It's not something that I particularly like about my life (despite all the bitterness and anger I have, I've never abandoned humanism and I enjoy having other people in my life) but it's not something I'm sure how to change. I'm going back to school to finish up my degree this spring, though, so maybe I'll get some opportunities.

[Rugged Collectivist]

Damn it Ostrinski! Stop being so hard on yourself! You seem like a decent person so I don't think you should be so pessimistic.

To be fair I'm probably not in a good position to be giving you advice. I dated one girl in eighth grade and lost my virginity to another girl but neither of these situations involved any effort on my part. The girl I dated was asked out on my behalf by my best friend (who was also her friend) behind my back. If it wasn't for him it never would have happened. She ended up leaving me because I was an awkward coward (I like to think I've changed a bit though). The other girl was a friend of my sister, who decided to have sex with me like 3 days after I met her because that's how she rolls.

I've tried online dating and it isn't much better. Usually I'll message a girl and she won't respond. Or she'll look at my profile and won't respond. Or she'll respond and find out I'm really shitty at maintaining conversations and will stop responding.

I wonder why Revlefters are so universally shitty at dating.


In all seriousness I'm baffled at what they saw in me. IMO I don't have a lot of redeeming characteristics at all. Add to that the fact that I have a real hatred and bitterness towards the direction I see the world heading in...it's just been poisoning my mind, honestly (though this is a more recent thing in my life). I'm not a good person and I have problems.

Yeah, I can relate. Talking about politics probably drives people away from me because I come off as a crazy, bitter, zealot. It's one of the few things I'm passionate about though. :(

[Quail]

I think most people find dating/relationships difficult or awkward. Also, the age demographic of revleft is mostly teenagers.

[#FF0000]

I wonder why Revlefters are so universally shitty at dating

I would be surprised if it were any other way

[Dominicana_1965]

I would be surprised if it were any other way
lol Che was pretty successful at dating :lol:

[A Revolutionary Tool]

Do you find her attractive despite the reservations?

Not the slightest bit.

[#FF0000]

lol Che was pretty successful at dating :lol:

And you didn't see him arguing on the internet all day!

[Quail]

And you didn't see him arguing on the internet all day!
We don't all argue on the internet all day. Maybe most of it, but I still have a little time for my partner, provided nobody is spectacularly wrong at bedtime.

[DasFapital]

word of advice: don't bring up trotsky or the holodomor on the first date. That's more of a third or fourth date kind of thing.

[Goblin]

I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything. I know I am young yet - I am only 19 but I've already been through my first semester of college and each day that passes by feels like a smaller and smaller chance that I will ever be able to accomplish any of this. Because it's not as if it's getting easier to talk to people, it's getting harder! My social skills are deteriorating as people get more and more mature and I don't. It's something I think about everyday and causes a lot of anxiety and stress.

I suppose I could try online dating but I would never want to put anyone in the awkward position of having to meet me in real life. Besides, I don't even have a fucking car, a fucking place of my own, or a fucking job. I feel like a fifteen year old inside a nineteen year old's body. My shyness will never let me have a happy life.

Same here. Im 19 and i have never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or been on a date.

[Let's Get Free]

Who needs dating anyway? Girls are icky.

[bcbm]

I would be surprised if it were any other way

speak for urself

[#FF0000]

oof

[Dominicana_1965]

uuuuuuufffffff i just dont understand this shit lol
im attractive, well built, intelligent and clean cut but once i open my mouth i lose all of that

[GoddessCleoLover]

I'm a homosexual female, aged 15 (I'll be 16 in a month) haven't had a partner since I came out (2 years ago) Never had a female partner. I've had maybe 3 dates all with the same girl who just stopped talking to me after an uncomfortable, mild, short, 3 minute, embarrassing, and awkward sexual encounter (I can hardly classify it as such) That did more harm than good. I've been dragged around four times this year.(meaning four different girls) Girls just want to break my heart. I can't even get a 1 night stand, I'd rather have a girlfriend but I'll take it.:(

Everything gets better with age. Adolescence has always been betwixt and between childhood and adulthood, and therefore a kind of temporary hell. Keep the faith and hang in there.

[GiantMonkeyMan]

I would suggest joining a club or something. Even if it's not exactly full of the type of people you want to have a relationship with it'll help build your confidence talking to groups of people about shit and also give you something to talk about with prospective partners. It sounds mainly like people here lack confidence yet, from your posts, it's clear you can hold decent conversations. You just need to translate that into real life situations and not just the sort of delayed convos on the internet.

[Sinister Cultural Marxist]

I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never kissed a girl or anything. I know I am young yet - I am only 19 but I've already been through my first semester of college and each day that passes by feels like a smaller and smaller chance that I will ever be able to accomplish any of this. Because it's not as if it's getting easier to talk to people, it's getting harder! My social skills are deteriorating as people get more and more mature and I don't. It's something I think about everyday and causes a lot of anxiety and stress.

I suppose I could try online dating but I would never want to put anyone in the awkward position of having to meet me in real life. Besides, I don't even have a fucking car, a fucking place of my own, or a fucking job. I feel like a fifteen year old inside a nineteen year old's body. My shyness will never let me have a happy life.

I've been there. One of these days you'll realize that you are at minimum as smart and intelligent as the boys who are getting all the girls and that girls over the age of 18 value that more and more as time goes on.

The best advice I could give to people in this kind of situation:

(1) Find something awesome and interesting you've done or a cool place that you've been to that you can talk about with girls to make them interested, but mention it offhand. Some of the more intellectual girls might find it intriguing and want to learn more about it.

(2) Find something interesting that the smarter girls in you area like that you know a lot about, and ask her questions about it. My knowledge of Latin America is not the deepest but what I do know makes it easy to have good conversations with activist Chicanas. Knowledge of things studied in class is good too because this gives the opportunity to go to coffee shops and study, and for every hour of studying you'll manage to get at least a little bit of chit-chat.

(3) Don't be afraid to look at girls in the eyes and on occasion reveal that you're just a little interested in them. I know it's hard when your shy but girls don't mind it when guys find them attractive, what they don't like is guys ogling them or hitting on them constantly.

(4) Don't be too afraid of rejection, just be nice to girls then there won't be any hard feelings in the rejection.

[NewLeft]

uuuuuuufffffff i just dont understand this shit lol
im attractive, well built, intelligent and clean cut but once i open my mouth i lose all of that
voice matters, but also the way you say things.

[Jack]

Same here. Im 19 and i have never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or been on a date.

Spoken like a true Trot.

[Landsharks eat metal]

Spoken like a true Trot.
ANd that comment was totally relevant and necessary.

[Quail]

I'm a homosexual female, aged 15 (I'll be 16 in a month) haven't had a partner since I came out (2 years ago) Never had a female partner. I've had maybe 3 dates all with the same girl who just stopped talking to me after an uncomfortable, mild, short, 3 minute, embarrassing, and awkward sexual encounter (I can hardly classify it as such) That did more harm than good. I've been dragged around four times this year.(meaning four different girls) Girls just want to break my heart. I can't even get a 1 night stand, I'd rather have a girlfriend but I'll take it.:(
Teenage sex is always awkward. It'll get better :)

[#FF0000]

uuuuuuufffffff i just dont understand this shit lol
im attractive, well built, intelligent and clean cut but once i open my mouth i lose all of that

Yeah as cliche as it is, just be yourself. I remember hearing that and thinking "BUT MY PERSONALITY IS NOT CONDUCIVE TO SUCCESSFULLY ENGAGING WITH OTHER PEOPLE" but this is virtually never true because people always sell themselves short and don't notice the things that other see in them and like.


words

Yeah pretty much what Quail said. that is the teenage experience and you have plenty of time to meet people and stuff so don't sweat it (college will probably be great don't even worry)

[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

went out with a girl today. she was pretty cool.

[Dominicana_1965]

What do you guys think about this whole idea of presenting yourself (as a male, I'm assuming) as confident and engaging in an almost programmatic way similar to pick-up artist?

[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

What do you guys think about this whole idea of presenting yourself (as a male, I'm assuming) as confident and engaging in an almost programmatic way similar to pick-up artist?

pick up artists are disgusting because they treat women as objects, objects they merely want to fuck, pick up or whatever.

I don't think there's anything wrong, however, especially if you're nervous/new to dating, of having a few lines (like, not cheesy pick up lines but just intros and shit) ready, or a few jokes or whatever to fall back on if you're nervous, or a way of presenting yourself.

I think though, it's just an age/experience thing. I used to shit myself at the thought of approaching girls, asking them out or going out on a date, but now it's just something i'm more relaxed about and I seem to do alright.

[Goblin]

Spoken like a true Trot.

Go fuck yourself

[Geiseric]

Spoken like a true Trot.

Whoa everybody look at the internet tough guy! :laugh:

[Sea]

uuuuuuufffffff i just dont understand this shit lol
im attractive, well built, intelligent and clean cut but once i open my mouth i lose all of that

Try dressing up like this stud (https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bd/Soviet_soldier_DN-SC-92-04942.jpg), have some vodka, and go around asking people if they want to preform mouth-to-mouth agitprop.
went out with a girl today. she was pretty cool.Hypothermia is no laughing matter, Boss.

[#FF0000]

What do you guys think about this whole idea of presenting yourself (as a male, I'm assuming) as confident and engaging in an almost programmatic way similar to pick-up artist?

Nah pick up artists are lame and creepy and the way they treat relationships and dating and casual sex is fucked up and unhealthy for all parties involved.

Working on your confidence is one thing (tip: literally everyone fakes it so fake it). Working on being an engaging person is another (tip: have hobbies and interests). Practicing weirdo creeper hypno magic to try and trick a woman into having sex with you is not only creepy as fuck and ethically questionable (to say the least) but also a great way to cheat yourself out of the benefits of actually being a confident and engaging person.

[#FF0000]

Go fuck yourself


Whoa everybody look at the internet tough guy! :laugh:

i don't think he was being especially serious guys c'mon

[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

Hypothermia is no laughing matter, Boss.

Haha, dreadful.

[Yet_Another_Boring_Marxist]

This thread is emblematic of the problems facing the left today: How are you going to engage the revolutionary masses if you can't even get a date?

[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

This thread is emblematic of the problems facing the left today: How are you going to engage the revolutionary masses if you can't even get a date?

Surely dating is just a distraction from the tasks of the professional revolutionary?

You know, like smoking weed and erm, jungle music apparently.. *waits for Ismail's entry to teh thread*.

[xvzc]

RevLeft goes full bro!!


Who needs dating anyway? Girls are icky.

Why are you posting this...???

[La Guaneña]

Most of the posts I read are of heterosexual men, so I'll talk about what I have experience.

Women don't like to be treated like some exotic and delicate animal, or like the holy grail. Just treat them as you would treat a friend. I know this is cliche and shit, but be honest about yourself, it's impossible to keep up a persona for enough time to make someone fall for your or something like that.

Also, friendzone doesn't exist, and there is no better way to get close to someone sexually than being friends, from my experience.

Just remember: women are normal human beings, like us. In general, they like to eat, they like movies, they like to dance, they like to drink and they feel attraction and also even like sex! Of course that exceptions exist to all of these, just like in men.

And most times women want to ask you out or something, but are repressed by the social norms that also prevent women from taking iniciative in various sexual and relationship issues, so most will enjoy it if you leave space for their iniciative.

Have fun, and If you get to bed with them, remember that women also can enjoy sex and have many orgams. Not too many guys remember that part, and I think that we should.

[Bright Banana Beard]

One of the long article that explains against going PUA's route ; http://www.therawness.com/reader-letters-1-part-4/

[Forward Union]

Drink more

[Honggweilo]

Also, friendzone doesn't exist, and there is no better way to get close to someone sexually than being friends, from my experience.


yeah it usually doesnt work that way, people in general dont see the things they take for granted and befriending someone is either a risk or a way to desexualize yourself as a potential love interest. people get bored quickly, thats a fact, and the only logical conclusion is just to stop trying in a game that has no pre-defined rules.

[Comrade Nasser]

Thought I start a thread about dating...how often do communists date?
Whats interesting is that I'm quite attractive but for some reason can never ask a girl out (even if she likes me) I fear that im going to be alone for quite some time due to my own picky tendencies and general lack of knowledge of dating

share tips or something..ugh i need a drink
Let me hear about your successes or failure in your love life dammit!

I used to be in the same boat but I have a GF now. I know I'm very attractive but I used to hate the women around me because of how materialistic and dumb they were.

[smellincoffee]

I've never had a love life: I was raised by Puritans, and during my high school days single-handedly revived the tradition of Courtly Love in which I pined after a girl for..SIX YEARS, content to bask in being hopelessly devoted to her while never pursuing a relationship. Not that there would have been anything to pursue, given that she's..not that terribly interesting a person. I found this out when she friended me on facebook. Anyway, she's married now, but when she moved away to get hitched I realized holy shit, I'm wasting my life, and it was there I left religion, left conservative/reactionary politics, went to college, lost 150 pounds, and made a new man out of myself. But I've still never dated, because I'm a Portland, Oregon kind of guy living in a small southern town. I suppose I could always move, but I don't like the idea of not watching my niece and nephew continue to grow up.

[Rusty Shackleford]

Abstinence Only

[MP5]

Just i dunno talk to the fucking woman it's not that hard lads. Just be natural but don't come off as some desperate creep or anything either or some weirdo. It's only okay to start talking weird shit if your both fucked on acid or E. Also it may be rather bourgeois but dressing good like a good looking jacket (i have a leather one), a decent shirt that looks like it may have cost more then $20 and a good pair of pants and jeans does help. That is unless your like going to a rave or something then wear appropriate attire. Oh and don't get all nervous :grin:

I am unfortunately stuck for the moment in a town where any woman i would date is long since gone. So the only time i actually get women is when i go to the city for a few days. The last g/f i had was a few years ago. Took me a year to get over the horror of her :sleep:

[Comrade Samuel]

This thread is emblematic of the problems facing the left today: How are you going to engage the revolutionary masses if you can't even get a date?

While I agree with this sediment entirely I can't help but feel that being completely alienated from most people gives me the perfect opportunity to develop talent, character and intellect.

....or spend my free time on reddit. :crying:

[Crixus]

This is terrible advice. Being dishonest and trying the 'make friends first' approach never works, trust me I've fallen for that trap more than once.

If you fancy someone ask them to drinks or something. The worse thing that could happen is a total stranger tells you no.


Just don't do that to Rebecca Watson in an elevator or on the street or in a bus or anywhere unless she's actually in a place that serves drinks because the implication is you're objectifying her and or are a potential rapist and then women are unsafe and subsequently need to walk in pairs at atheist conventions because women are in danger of being groped and potentially raped due to the fact she was asked to a persons room for coffee.

Hey Alex, I'll take the act like friends with no sexual or intimate/emotional interest for 400 because otherwise my sanity might be in jeopardy. Thank you.

[Crixus]

I go on "Christian Mingle dot com" because I need to find the one God intended for me. I mean, if Jesus doesn't approve of her and god doesnt give his blessing we all know how that works out. Straight up Satanism. You might end up with Lilith in lieu of a nice submissive Eve. Our heavenly father made woman from mans rib so that she would understand her role in love is to support (Eve) and not question (Lilith) the mans natural and divine leadership of the family unit.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

It kind of sucks that I keep running into women I start to get interested in who turn out to be lesbians. Not that I have anything against lesbians but obviously they're not going to be interested me. I'm now friends with a few of them but I wish we could be more than just friends :(

[Slippers]

BF broke up with me recently. Short reason why: because I am trans.

The greatest "high" I've ever, ever felt was the feeling of being loved and in love, even if it didn't work out. I want to feel like that again. I don't want to be desperate, but I kinda am. Just try to hide it.

[∞]

I always wondered if I was good looking or not. Never knew.

[Brutus]

I always wondered if I was good looking or not. Never knew.

My narcissism means I think I'm good looking.

[Vanilla]

I always wondered if I was good looking or not. Never knew.

Same. I'm a girl, and other girls I'm friends with will occasionally tell me that I'm pretty, but i don't know if that is just girl friends being nice or if they are being honest. But when I look at myself in the mirror I don't know whether or not to think I'm attractive.

As for dating, I've never really done it. I'm kind of shy in real life and no one has ever seemed to express any ~romantic~ interest in me :P

[Quail]

I think people worry way too much about the way they look. I don't know about you guys, but I can find at least something attractive in pretty much everyone.

[Ele'ill]

online dating is the worst thing ever

[Bostana]

This is fun :D

[mew]

I'm attractive i think (modeled in magazines etc) and I'm decently charming or something... But I'm quite picky and when I do find the rare man I like he generally has a lot of baggage etc. I seem drawn to neurotic men and living in NYC of course the majority of men are neurotic...
I don't know how to tell you how to meet girls... Show interest and take initiative (ask her out/on a second date etc) but don't show too much interest. Generally I figure you should focus on being an interesting person with an interesting life then girls will naturally be attracted to you.

[Slippers]

online dating is the worst thing ever

It is. Especially if you're trans. Unfortunately I don't really have an alternative. Not sure what to do. I am so tired of my loneliness.

[∞]

Date me I have a big pee pee.

[Rugged Collectivist]

It is. Especially if you're trans. Unfortunately I don't really have an alternative. Not sure what to do. I am so tired of my loneliness.

This. Except I'm not trans.

I'm trying to message a girl but I'm debating whether or not I should wait until I get this job I interviewed for (I'm pretty sure I'm gonna get it) because no one wants to talk to unemployed people.

[cyu]

no one wants to talk to unemployed people

There is some truth to that, but on the flip-side, if she'll only go out with you if you first get a job, that's probably the type of materialistic personality that will lead to a lot of conflicts with your politics.

Imagine if you lost your job, will she leave you? If so, better to not take her too seriously.

[Paul Pott]

How would I have a chance with a girl who is an evangelical Christian of sorts? I've known her since elementary school and we just recently got back in touch. She's always been a friend.

She doesn't know anything about my politics or views on religion. I don't know how that would affect things, probably negatively, but I mentioned something about being agnostic a while back and she keeps picking on me about that. I'm not really agnostic.

[Rugged Collectivist]

There is some truth to that, but on the flip-side, if she'll only go out with you if you first get a job, that's probably the type of materialistic personality that will lead to a lot of conflicts with your politics.

Imagine if you lost your job, will she leave you? If so, better to not take her too seriously.

I see where you're coming from, but on the other hand what if she wants to see me and I don't have gas money? Or what if we go out somewhere and she has to pay all the time? It can strain a relationship.

[∞]

There is some truth to that, but on the flip-side, if she'll only go out with you if you first get a job, that's probably the type of materialistic personality that will lead to a lot of conflicts with your politics.

Imagine if you lost your job, will she leave you? If so, better to not take her too seriously.

Sorry but she has every right to think like that. Why would you be more worried about relationships than finding a job?

[The Douche]

Stop trying to date people and go have fun.

[melvin]

is taking someone on a real "date" even very common anymore? I don't really know anybody who does that.

[cyu]

what if we go out somewhere and she has to pay all the time?

Depends what she loves about you I think. One might argue that if she truly loved you, who pays would only be about as important as whether she walks on your left side, or walks on your right side. If you get married and she says "for richer or poorer" - does she really mean it - or would she run off with the first trust fund baby that offers her a ride in one of his BMWs?



she has every right to think like that.


Everyone has a right to their own preferences, but when judging if that personality will make you happy or ultimately hurt you, not all types of people are going to be compatible with you.


Why would you be more worried about relationships than finding a job?

Maybe. If you're near poverty, then you do what you can to survive - whether it's becoming a capitalist's servant, working for a cooperative, taking over your workplace, or burglarizing the Federal Reserve chairman ;) But would your dream job make you happier than your dream girl? Or are you only taking a temp job and a temp girl? All things to consider in these decisions =]

[MarxSchmarx]

How would I have a chance with a girl who is an evangelical Christian of sorts? I've known her since elementary school and we just recently got back in touch. She's always been a friend.

She doesn't know anything about my politics or views on religion. I don't know how that would affect things, probably negatively, but I mentioned something about being agnostic a while back and she keeps picking on me about that. I'm not really agnostic.

It depends on the person, but my first long-term partner was one of these deeply religious folks. The first thing I did was genuinely try to understand just where they are coming from. I joked with them about their religious views, eventually we got to the point where they could joke about me going to hell. But I also tried to introduce them to Christian Socialism, and explain the history of people like Tolstoy who saw their religion as the bedrock for their political views.

It didn't end well. After everything they went to study to become a priest.

But when you're in love, better to have...

[Rugged Collectivist]

Why would you be more worried about relationships than finding a job?

I can do both


Stop trying to date people and go have fun.

I can do both

[cyu]

I can do both
I can do both


Well said =]

[Comrades Unite!]

Closest thing to a date in the last 5 months ending in me being punched by her ex.
Strangely enough I really don't care anymore my love life is more boring than the Amish and thats saying something!

[Slippers]

I am afraid of relationships. They often end with a lot of hurt. Every single one I've ever had anyway.

I'm really close to a guy and I think things are moving quickly. I do like him, but I don't know if this could be a forever sort of thing and I don't want to hurt him. He's sweet and cute and it's not common that people seem to like me but... but we don't have a ton in common really.

I feel like someone will be hurt if it gets more serious.

[∞]

I'm down to just fuck one of you.

[The Douche]

I'm down to just fuck one of you.

Of course you are, you're a teenager.

[cyu]

I feel like someone will be hurt if it gets more serious.


If you don't think it will last, teach him to attract the type of person he likes - in a http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_%28play%29 kind of way :grin:

[∞]

Of course you are, you're a teenager.

barely.