Record of Abuse

[TheGodlessUtopian]

Since there seems to be far too many people who believe that abuse suffered to women is not as widespread as it actually is,I thought it would be a good idea to make a thread for the female members of Rev-Left to chronicle their record of discrimination and abuse.

Use this thread to vent and detail all the ways in which Chauvinist society has wronged you. Every while I will tally the wrongs and give an updated total so that everyone can see what the actual statistics are. Hopefully this thread will give (male) sexists something to think about and how much they benefit from their sex.

[00001]

This is a really awful idea.

[Brosa Luxemburg]

This is a really awful idea.

I think it is a great idea...although I am a guy so I can't really participate in this, lol.

[Vyacheslav Brolotov]

This is a great idea, but I think that just because there are some people on RevLeft who do not put women's issues strictly above workers' issues (like myself), we are not male sexists. But despite all, I really like this idea and I will be checking up on this thread often. I wish the best for all women.

[Kitty_Paine]

I actually just responded in PYHO about a similar issue so I guess, while its on my mind, I might as well lay it down. Well, a few things.

- In middle school, specifically 8th grade, I was bullied for being poor mostly but also because I was flat chested and skinny. I was bullied by girls the majority of the time. They would torment me over the clothes I would wear, my shoes, etc. But when the boys would tease me it was usually over being flat chested and "under developed", simply put. It wasn't until 9th grade, when I developed, that guys actually started treating me more like a person. Making it seem as if my worth was be measured by the size of my chest. The girls on the other hand started respecting me when I started throwing punches, lol. So very generally speaking that sums up the bullying I experienced in middle school.

- About six months ago I was in a bar and talking to a guy who was interested in me. I had been talking to him for a while and I was playing along and flirting, etc. After a while I got a little bored/devious and started to mess with him. He caught on and became angry but I continued to tease him and undermine his confidence. I do admit I went to far and I should've just left. But I didn't and the intoxicated man decided to punch me in the face. To which, after my recovery, I responded with throwing a bottle at him, lol. I realize I provoked this, and I'm not saying I'm innocent in this event. Though he did punch me in the face... I'm 5' 7" and less than 112 lbs. lol, I'm not physically threatening. Anyway, count it if you want, or don't... up to you.

- More recently, this past friday I was being hit on by your standard preppy, muscle head (think frat boy, lol). He was walking next to me and trying to convince me that my life would be incomplete without getting with him and going to a party with him that weekend. I wasn't interested and I made that perfectly clear. After a few minutes I finally had enough and I told him to fuck off, very loudly. People stopped and looked and I think he was slightly humiliated. So what does he decide to do? He grabs me by my shoulders and slams me against the lockers. Gets in my face and starts telling me about how much a ***** I am and a lot of worse things. He held me there for several seconds before his friends got him off me. He was suspended but I don't think he got what he deserved.

I could probably give a couple more honestly...

[Brosa Luxemburg]

@ Kitty Paine

If a man ever hits you, make sure he is unconscious when you're done with him. That shit should never be tolerated.

[#FF0000]

This is a really awful idea.

I want to second this.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

If we're male can we tell the stories of abuse women we know who have been abused?

[Book O'Dead]

As a recovering male chauvinist I must say that my previous sexual and gender prejudices were beneficial to me, if only in the short run.

Over the years, and after several failed attempts at building a relationship with a woman of the opposite sex (he, he!), I've come to realize that all of the lousy things that I did to them and to myself were motivated by the irrational belief --conscious and unconscious--that I was somehow superior to them, only to discover that I was, in most important aspects their intellectual and emotional inferior.

I'm not saying that women are superior to men; I'm only stating that I though myself their better. What an ass I was!

[Rarikou]

@ Kitty Paine

If a man ever hits you, make sure he is unconscious when you're done with him. That shit should never be tolerated.
That's pretty dumb, that would just lead to further violence.

[TheGodlessUtopian]

If we're male can we tell the stories of abuse women we know who have been abused?

Yes you can.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

Okay a few instances I know of:
1) Growing up my parents argued nonstop it seemed though it never really got physically violent except for one time. One night they were yelling and screaming at each other and it was late and I needed to go to bed because I had school the next day. This was a regular occurrence but then there was some loud banging sounds so I went out to the living room where they were arguing only to find my dad on top of my mom choking her. So I yelled at my dad "what are you doing?" And he stopped and they both kind of looked at me embarrassed and started crying, then I cried, and we all hugged. He's told me many times that I saved her life that night.

2) My foster-sister had her face slammed into her car numerous times by her husband ON HER WEDDING NIGHT! And she stayed with him a little while after for some crazy reason only to be hit by him again. At which point she packed up all her belongings and my sister and I went and picked her up. Sucks that they have a kid together.

3) My aunt was married to a cop. One night they were arguing and he slaps her so she tries to push him away but he grabs her and punches her in the face, picks her up, and throws her up against the wall. She was trying hold onto him as he picked her up to throw her and when he threw her she tried to grasp onto him which ended up scratching him. She got up, took the phone, and ran to the bathroom and called the cops. Cops show up and what do you think they do? My aunt is bloodied up but the pig says to his friends "Look, she scratched me," and they lock my aunt up instead!

Funny part of that story is, because my aunt was married to a cop, she got put in a special part of the jail and Lindsey Lohan was also in the same area. So my aunt and Lindsey Lohan met in jail lol.