I need to make up for cheating

[Leftsolidarity]

I cheated on my girlfriend and need to make it up to her by doing something nice.

What is something nice I could do for her to make it up and show her I'm sorry?

[PC LOAD LETTER]

Pic-nic?

[sithsaber]

I cheated on my girlfriend and need to make it up to her by doing something nice.

What is something nice I could do for her to make it up and show her I'm sorry?

Watch her have revenge sex. Twice

jk you're fucked

[Ostrinski]

cunnilingus
cook for her
take her somewhere nice
write a song for her

possibilities are endless

[Leftsolidarity]

Watch her have revenge sex. Twice

jk you're fucked

Well I told her I cheated and she was upset for a little bit but just told me I need to make it up to her.

I have written a song before so that's out.

Is there anything that is relatively easy on the wallet?

[Ostrinski]

Is there anything that is relatively easy on the wallet?
nop sorry

[PC LOAD LETTER]

Well I told her I cheated and she was upset for a little bit but just told me I need to make it up to her.

I have written a song before so that's out.

Is there anything that is relatively easy on the wallet?
A pic-nic is

I don't mean like 'carry a basket and blanket out' and all that, but make sandwiches and spend a day out in the park or by a river or something. Feed the ducks while you're at it.

[Leftsolidarity]

nop sorry

fuck. i have like no cash. i would like to take her out to a nice meal or something though.


A pic-nic is

I don't mean like 'carry a basket and blanket out' and all that, but make sandwiches and spend a day out in the park or by a river or something. Feed the ducks while you're at it.

This is a good idea too. It's getting warm so that might work.




I just remembered that she's been wanting to see The Lorax with me since my birthday. What if I took her out to The Lorax and a cheaper dinner? Is that a good "I'm sorry I fucked up." thing?

[TheGodlessUtopian]

Not cheating?

To be honest if she is angry with you and doesn't want much to do with you there isn't much you can really do to make things right. If all things fail try a romantic dinner (some cheap candles, food and sensual musings will do a lot).

[Leftsolidarity]

Not cheating?

To be honest if she is angry with you and doesn't want much to do with you there isn't much you can really do to make things right. If all things fail try a romantic dinner (some cheap candles, food and sensual musings will do a lot).

She's not like super pissed or anything. She has been in a worse mood toward me which lead to some fights but we're actually pretty good at the moment. She just told me that if I want to have sex with her again I need to make it up by doing something nice.

Funny thing is, I don't want to have sex with her next time we hang out. We have literally had sex all but like 2 times we've been together. I want to make sure this isn't all about sex and I feel like an ass for having sex with the other girl. I also wanted to make it up but like is shown, I have no idea how.

[¿Que?]

Be her butler for the day. "But he's myyyyy butler!" :laugh:*


*Very obscure reference...

[sithsaber]

I don't want to have sex with her next time we hang out.

:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused: :confused::confused::confused::confused::confused: :confused::confused::confused::confused::confused: :confused::confused::confused:

It seems that this relationship is merely physical. Enjoy while it lasts (or until you catch a std

[Prometeo liberado]

Ahh! Take a look at that guy laughing and holding hands, cus that was you. Now say goodbye. You wanna go back in time, but be easy on the wallet? Make it nice. Nice? Make up for what you did? How 'bout you figure out how to turn sand into gold first. It's much easier than what your currently trying to do. Women don't ever, ever, ever forget this shit. She'll tell you she does but you'll find out that it will never be the same.

[PC LOAD LETTER]

Ahh! Take a look at that guy laughing and holding hands, cus that was you. Now say goodbye. You wanna go back in time, but be easy on the wallet? Make it nice. Nice? Make up for what you did? How 'bout you figure out how to turn sand into gold first. It's much easier than what your currently trying to do. Women don't ever, ever, ever forget this shit. She'll tell you she does but you'll find out that it will never be the same.
Well aren't you just shitting rainbows this evening :lol:

[Prometeo liberado]

Well aren't you just shitting rainbows this evening :lol:

I had a snow cone for dinner, might be that.:(

[#FF0000]

Is she actually giving you a second chance?

If so, you go out of your way every chance you get basically. You pretty much demolished her trust and whether that's a big deal or not is sort of up to her.

Shit dogg, she could want to give you a second chance but simply not have the ability to forgive you or trust you again.

So, you just do the best you can for her and hope against hope she can forgive you and figure out how to trust you after that.

[Искра]

Don't do anything. Ass kissing isn't anything "good" anways.

[sithsaber]

Don't do anything. Ass kissing isn't anything "good" anways.

Says the obviously single person

[Искра]

Says the obviously single person
It's better to be single than in shit relationship. Save your nerves for real ones ;)

[Prometeo liberado]

And at 21:56 this thread begins its ugly turn.

[dodger]

Why don't you suggest a 3-some on the pic-nic, that way the girls can get to know each other better. Then maybe some 3-way fun, an end to a perfect day!!

What could possibly go wrong?:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:





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[Prometeo liberado]

Why don't you suggest a 3-some on the pic-nic, that way the girls can get to know each other better. Then maybe some 3-way fun, an end to a perfect day!!

What could possibly go wrong?:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:





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When this is all over the poor guy wont have a girlfriend or any friends for that matter. Should never have told her or us. Poor guy.

[dodger]

When this is all over the poor guy wont have a girlfriend or any friends for that matter. Should never have told her or us. Poor guy.

Short of contracting a sexually transmitted disease(PARTNER WILL NEED TO KNOW)-------------OTHERWISE.........

SILENCE is GOLDEN!! :cool::cool::cool::cool::cool:

[Ostrinski]

dodger have you ever cheated on wifey

edit: Kontrra owns

[Prometeo liberado]

dodger have you ever cheated on wifey

edit: Kontrra owns

Silence dodger! Its a trap. For the love of god man, don't do it!

[Ostrinski]

Either he's ignoring me or working on one hell of a response

[dodger]

dodger have you ever cheated on wifey

edit: Kontrra owns

NOT A CHANCE.........I respect Wifey...besides she expected until very recent(change of life) 4 nights attention....1 night rest. That certainly kept me fit. Unlike a lot of guys my age I can look down and see my genitals, without recourse to a mirror. I get regular offers, but although I am no saint...I walked away. A raised penis as we both know has no conscience. Some of the students get 3 day crushes...all harmless fun. No Dodger would not be happy in a silly situation. I am blessed with a loving Wifey no man could want for better.

Besides Dodger has to sleep sometimes....and her Bolo is razor sharp.:scared:

In addition it must be said that when'single' Dodger is a shameless slut. Then of course ,'they' all knew that.:blushing:


**************

[Prometeo liberado]

A part of me died after reading your last post dodger. Was it the shameless description of your nether region or the razor sharp reference? I don't even want to explore it further. You'll find me whimpering alone next to the toilet until this all blows over. Brospierre I hold you and you alone responsible for all of this.

[Lobotomy]

I like to imagine dodger with an extremely thick cockney accent, I don't even care if it's incorrect.

[#FF0000]

I like to imagine dodger with an extremely thick cockney accent, I don't even care if it's incorrect.

Same.

Either that or he a scottish one a la Bigsby from Trainspotting

[dodger]

i like to imagine dodger with an extremely thick cockney accent, i don't even care if it's incorrect.

....just thick

[Prometeo liberado]

....just thick

See?!! This is what I'm talking about! WIFEY!!! Put dodger to bed already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:scare d:

[o well this is ok I guess]

Guy's it's tuesday
last call man, last call.

Regarding cheating, isn't this the sort of thing you ought to talk about with her or some shit, rather than showing her a night on the town or something?

[l'Enfermé]

Keep your dick in your pants it's pretty fucking simple man.

[#FF0000]

yo if you have a time machine then that is great advice, borz you silly motherfucker

[black magick hustla]

dont be the white kid with dreads or paint your long hair blue like an anime or join the roleplaying dictator bootlicker club called the psl idk what this has to do with relationships but this tips will surely help you in life

[hatzel]

Keep your dick in your pants it's pretty fucking simple man.

But then you'll eventually end up pissing all over yourself...

[Thirsty Crow]

I cheated on my girlfriend and need to make it up to her by doing something nice.

What is something nice I could do for her to make it up and show her I'm sorry?
Arrange for her to cheat on you with someone really nice and good-looking.

[Nox]

Well I told her I cheated and she was upset for a little bit but just told me I need to make it up to her.


Huge mistake. Your relationship will never be the same again, she will never fully trust you again. Sucks but it's the truth.

Anyway, I guess you could take her out, write her a handwritten love letter, there isn't really much you can do tbh...

I don't want to stir things up here, but the likelihood of her cheating on you at some point has just drastically increased.

[Zealot]

^Lost his virginity and thinks he's an expert. Rofl.

But I agree with the love letter thing :p Except for the part about the relationship never being the same again. It can work if both parties really want it to but I get the impression she isn't that concerned.

[Left Leanings]

Well the fact that she wants you to make it up to her, is a positive sign I suppose. Cos it would appear she's giving you another chance. Unless her intention is to make you work your ass off to please her - and then fuck you off anyway haha.

There are plenty of good suggestions on here, like the picnic for example. It's often the little things that count in relationships. Just be sweet with her: and don't shag around behind her back again yeah :)

[Leftsolidarity]

Most of you suck at giving advice haha Thank you to everyone who didn't just tell me I'm fucked.

Take it as this, she DOES want to still date me and she does understand that it was a mistake. She just wants me to do something nice for her to make it up.

I think I got this, I take her to see The Lorax and then on a picnic. Yeah? Combining ideas here.

[Искра]

You're a drama queen.

[Franz Fanonipants]

be a fucking adult and break up with her

you don't cheat on people you want to be with

[Leftsolidarity]

You're a drama queen.

Chyeah? I don't see this bein drama queen shit. This is just, you got any advice kind of shit. If you don't that's cool. I've never been in this situation before so I figured maybe someone knew a good idea.


be a fucking adult and break up with her

you don't cheat on people you want to be with

Thanks for the opinion. I disagree.

[Franz Fanonipants]

Thanks for the opinion. I disagree.

i've done more cheating, treating women badly, lying, etc. than i think you have, judging by the fact that you're making this big of a deal of it.

you can fool yourself all you want, but actually fucking someone else without prior discussion with/consent from your significant other means you don't want to be in that relationship.

[Leftsolidarity]

i've done more cheating, treating women badly, lying, etc. than i think you have, judging by the fact that you're making this big of a deal of it.

you can fool yourself all you want, but actually fucking someone else without prior discussion with/consent from your significant other means you don't want to be in that relationship.

I'm not making a big deal of what I've done. Shit's done. Not a massive deal.

This is a discussion of me asking if anyone has advice on how to make it up to someone. That's it. If you have good advice, I'd like to hear it. If you don't, fine.

[Искра]

I'm not making a big deal of what I've done. Oh, please.... You made a thread on revleft. I've cut myself open and tried to strangle myself with my guts, but I didn't make a thread about that, because that's my usual behaviour.

[Renegade Saint]

Putting on mismatching socks is a mistake.
Singing karaoke is a mistake.
Putting your penis inside someone else's body is not a "mistake".

Out of curiosity, why did you tell her?

The Seinfeld butler-for-a-month thing might be cheap and good I guess.

I think her having sex with someone else as a way of 'making things even' is a terrible idea.

[Leftsolidarity]

Oh, please.... You made a thread on revleft. I've cut myself open and tried to strangle myself with my guts, but I didn't make a thread about that, because that's my usual behaviour.

Sorry to hear that. This isn't for me to whine and cry, this is for me to ask if anyone has some good advice. If you don't have advice then move on. I doubt I'm the only one who's ever been in this situation before so I'd like to hear what they have to say about it.

If you don't like the thread then unsubscribe. Simple as that.

[Leftsolidarity]

Out of curiosity, why did you tell her?


PYHO has some convincing posters lol
It was better to just be honest. It worked out well too. Now I just need to make it up to her.



The Seinfeld butler-for-a-month thing might be cheap and good I guess.


I don't watch Seinfeld. Can you explain that?


I think her having sex with someone else as a way of 'making things even' is a terrible idea.

Her and I feel the same way. I think it's just a bad way to approach something like this.

It should be an apology and a way to show that you're sorry and that you fucked up, not revenge and letting them do the same mistake.

[Decolonize The Left]

Sorry to hear that. This isn't for me to whine and cry, this is for me to ask if anyone has some good advice. If you don't have advice then move on. I doubt I'm the only one who's ever been in this situation before so I'd like to hear what they have to say about it.

If you don't like the thread then unsubscribe. Simple as that.

Look, you fucked up big time (pun rightfully intended). So let's be clear about a couple things: you took a big shit on your relationship; you disrespected your girlfriend; you disrespected yourself; you disrespected your relationship. You effectively broke whatever trust you and her may have had. Accept it. It's not a little thing, it's a big fucking deal and it sucks. Ok.

Now she said it's cool but you have to make it up to her if you wanna make panky again. It isn't cool. She's just cool and so she's letting you off lite because she probably loves you - but it isn't fucking cool. In fact, it's majorly fucked up because now she's gonna wonder every time you have sex what it was like when you had sex with some other chick.

So what can you do?

I agree with Franz that you may consider separating because you obviously are willing to disrespect your partner BUT I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because I've cheated before although I had the excuse of being immensely drunk and on a whole lot of cocaine (note: not a good excuse).

So you should talk to her and figure out how she really feels about what you did. Then you should explain yourself and your stupid infantile actions and beg for forgiveness.
Then you should take her to the movie, have a nice dinner, and apologize some more. Maybe give her a non-sensual massage, maybe go for a walk, pick her flowers, whatever you think she'd like.

Don't ask us, we don't know her. But we do know that she's more pissed off than you think and you should really consider why you're in this relationship and have an open and honest discussion with your partner about commitment and the future.

And don't do cocaine.

- August

[The Young Pioneer]

If you cheated on her, you obviously had -temporarily at least- the idea that you'd do better by being with someone else.

If she forgave you so easily, she either has shit self-image (and believe me you don't wanna stick around that) or is so detached from you already she doesn't care what you do and will probably end up leaving you regardless of your actions.

[Leftsolidarity]

Look, you fucked up big time (pun rightfully intended). So let's be clear about a couple things: you took a big shit on your relationship; you disrespected your girlfriend; you disrespected yourself; you disrespected your relationship. You effectively broke whatever trust you and her may have had. Accept it. It's not a little thing, it's a big fucking deal and it sucks. Ok.

Now she said it's cool but you have to make it up to her if you wanna make panky again. It isn't cool. She's just cool and so she's letting you off lite because she probably loves you - but it isn't fucking cool. In fact, it's majorly fucked up because now she's gonna wonder every time you have sex what it was like when you had sex with some other chick.


Agreed.



So what can you do?

I agree with Franz that you may consider separating because you obviously are willing to disrespect your partner BUT I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because I've cheated before although I had the excuse of being immensely drunk and on a whole lot of cocaine (note: not a good excuse).


That was my situation too. Extremely drunk and high. Still not an "excuse" though.




So you should talk to her and figure out how she really feels about what you did. Then you should explain yourself and your stupid infantile actions and beg for forgiveness.
Then you should take her to the movie, have a nice dinner, and apologize some more. Maybe give her a non-sensual massage, maybe go for a walk, pick her flowers, whatever you think she'd like.


That sounds good.



Don't ask us, we don't know her.


But you are a full of knowledge so you are helping anyways ;)



And don't do cocaine.


I'll try my hardest.



Thanks for the post.

[rednordman]

Is she actually giving you a second chance?

If so, you go out of your way every chance you get basically. You pretty much demolished her trust and whether that's a big deal or not is sort of up to her.

Shit dogg, she could want to give you a second chance but simply not have the ability to forgive you or trust you again.

So, you just do the best you can for her and hope against hope she can forgive you and figure out how to trust you after that.This completely. But to be brutally honest what you did was wrong. You have to be man enough to accept that. If she was to take you back now, than it would demonstrate a serious lack of self respect.

I hate to post shit like this, as i'm sure your sound as. But try putting yourself in her position. (I take all this back if she has cheated on you previously, by the way).

[Manic Impressive]

urgh lots of moralistic crap in this thread.

how long have you been together? how serious are you?

If it's not long and not very then I wouldn't worry about it

Kontrra gave the best advice don't go over the top like picking flowers and shit. god some of you guys are so cheesy

[rednordman]

urgh lots of moralistic crap in this thread.This is about human relationships, not politics mate. Of course there is going to be cheese.

[Decolonize The Left]

urgh lots of moralistic crap in this thread.

how long have you been together? how serious are you?

If it's not long and not very then I wouldn't worry about it

Kontrra gave the best advice don't go over the top like picking flowers and shit. god some of you guys are so cheesy

ooooooo come onnnnnnnn.

You mean to honestly say that you've never picked a bouquet of wildflowers for a person you like and really, really, enjoyed the look of joy they had on their face when you surprised them with it?

coooooooooooommmmmmmeeeeee ooooonnnnnnnn. :wub:

You know you have.

- August

[JustMovement]

flagellate yourself! beg for forgiveness! THE HORROR THE HORROR REPENT THE TIME IS NIGH

seriously some cheap pop psychology going on here-
if shes cool with it shes cool with it good god.

nothing wrong with flowers though, or you could make her something, go through a skip.

[Decolonize The Left]

if shes cool with it shes cool with it good god.

lol no.

[rednordman]

seriously some cheap pop psychology going on here-
if shes cool with it shes cool with it good god.If she is cool with it, than what is there to stop you from doing it again...and again...and again.

Sure when you are a man in your early 20s this may not sound like such a big deal, but age 10-20 years, and you WILL know where i'm coming from. And hopefully for her, she has moved on.

[Brosip Tito]

If this isn't the most pissed she's been at you, I would think she's probably cheated on you before.

Though, this is mere speculation.

[Ostrinski]

monogamy is shit

[Manic Impressive]

ooooooo come onnnnnnnn.

You mean to honestly say that you've never picked a bouquet of wildflowers for a person you like and really, really, enjoyed the look of joy they had on their face when you surprised them with it?

coooooooooooommmmmmmeeeeee ooooonnnnnnnn. :wub:

You know you have.

- August
I'd only pick flowers for you August :wub:

[rednordman]

monogamy is shitUnite we shall defeat capitalism first.....Then face up to the much more complex and difficult genesis of monogamy!:lol:

[Искра]

When she dumps you, you gonna cry like a little baby.

[Decolonize The Left]

I'd only pick flowers for you August :wub:

I'd accept them:
http://www.globalanimal.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Gorilla-with-a-flower.jpg



- August

[dodger]

I'd only pick flowers for you August :wub:

ALL YOU NEED TO DO NOW IS PICK SOME FLOWERS
.................. for



............... daftpunk Make the world a better place!!:blushing:





*****

[Leftsolidarity]

When she dumps you, you gonna cry like a little baby.

Aren't you such a kind person. Why on you still here?

[JustMovement]

i dont see the point of guilt tripping someone over the internet, unless your a) some kind of sadist, b) a self-righteous asshole, especially since you dont know either one personally or the nature of their relationship.

So if someone is asking for advice just give them some advice, or be a bellend , i dont really care.

[rednordman]

i dont see the point of guilt tripping someone over the internet, unless your a) some kind of sadist, b) a self-righteous asshole, especially since you dont know either one personally or the nature of their relationship.

So if someone is asking for advice just give them some advice, or be a bellend , i dont really care.Pmsl.

[The Douche]

Write her a sincere letter containing an apology and stating how much she means to you, make dinner, do something with her that means a lot to her and which demonstrates that you care about her/know her.

Never do it again.


Thats my advice, from somebody who used to be a really bad cheater, and shook the habit/stayed with the girl.

[Franz Fanonipants]

monogamy is shit

it is if you do dumb shit its true

as it is i'm p. ok with the monogamous relationship i am in currently

but thats cus i've done enough of the other

[Nox]

^Lost his virginity and thinks he's an expert. Rofl.


I don't think I'm an expert, I've never even been in a relationship, everything I said is pretty much common sense.

[black magick hustla]

convince her to join the wwp maybe ull make up by talking about the greatness of qadaffi and asad

[#FF0000]

yeah w/e you think of monogamy it's kind of irrelevant. if the other person wants a poly relationship then w/e go hog wild but if they think it's supposed to be monogamous while you don't want a monogamous relationship at least talk to them about it or something i mean god damn

[gorillafuck]

monogamy is shityeah tell her that and report back on how it goes

[Rafiq]

Go van goh (the cutting off ear part, not paintings) on her.

[Le Rouge]

monogamy is shit

Come on...It's not that bad actually.

[Renegade Saint]

I know you're short on cash, but lizards are only like $1. Get her a bunch of those. Girls like swarms of lizards, right?

[gorillafuck]

it would need to be a pretty huge amount of lizards for her to be really impressed, or else she'd just think he went half-assed on the lizard swarm. and let me tell you, women don't feel appreciated when you go half-assed on lizard swarms for them.

[Bright Banana Beard]

Don't cheat again, also what are her favorite hobby? Get the quality stuffs of her hobby.

[hatzel]

You know what...I'd actually be willing to donate to the cause if it would mean that matey would go to his girl with a huge box all wrapped up with a bow on and everything, and then opens it and BAMMMMM shitloads of lizards all over the place. Preferably rig up some sort of spring-loaded firing system, to make sure they come out like a jack-in-the-box, rather than just sitting in there. Make this happen and film it and if she doesn't want to be with you after that then she's not worth it but let me watch the video.

At that point you'd take the swarm out with you and wait for girls to come up to you all "oooooh, I like your lizards!" and then she's the girl for you. It'll pretty much just be a sign from on high.

[Thirsty Crow]

I
If she forgave you so easily, she either has shit self-image (and believe me you don't wanna stick around that)
Or, you know, he could bother to get to know the person and actually not to contribute to that shit self-image in such a massive way.

Just sayin'.

[Leftsolidarity]

You know what...I'd actually be willing to donate to the cause if it would mean that matey would go to his girl with a huge box all wrapped up with a bow on and everything, and then opens it and BAMMMMM shitloads of lizards all over the place. Preferably rig up some sort of spring-loaded firing system, to make sure they come out like a jack-in-the-box, rather than just sitting in there. Make this happen and film it and if she doesn't want to be with you after that then she's not worth it but let me watch the video.

At that point you'd take the swarm out with you and wait for girls to come up to you all "oooooh, I like your lizards!" and then she's the girl for you. It'll pretty much just be a sign from on high.

I might be willing to do this actually....

[Stand Your Ground]

I don't know, never been in that situation so no idea how to fix it.

Ok, gonna twist this thread around a bit...my girlfriends mom messaged me on facebook and told me my girlfriend cheated on me..:(:confused:

[Renegade Saint]

I don't know, never been in that situation so no idea how to fix it.

Ok, gonna twist this thread around a bit...my girlfriends mom messaged me on facebook and told me my girlfriend cheated on me..:(:confused:
Awkward... She must not like her daughter that much to tell you.

[gorillafuck]

I don't know, never been in that situation so no idea how to fix it.

Ok, gonna twist this thread around a bit...my girlfriends mom messaged me on facebook and told me my girlfriend cheated on me..:(:confused:does your girlfriends mom hate you?:confused:

[Pretty Flaco]

taking your girl out to see some movie or on a picnic doesn't show her that you're sorry. you really show someone you're sorry with actions and feelings, not with things.

so cunnilingus is probably the best idea. show her that you're a cunnilynguist. ;)

[Leftsolidarity]

I don't know, never been in that situation so no idea how to fix it.

Ok, gonna twist this thread around a bit...my girlfriends mom messaged me on facebook and told me my girlfriend cheated on me..:(:confused:

Majorly shitty man. Is this the girlfriend you've been dating for a really long time?

[Luc]

clearly leftsolidarity can hook upwith stand your ground's former lover and vice versa

problem solved:cool:

have you asked what you could do for her, leftsolidarity?

[Prometeo liberado]

I don't know, never been in that situation so no idea how to fix it.

Ok, gonna twist this thread around a bit...my girlfriends mom messaged me on facebook and told me my girlfriend cheated on me..:(:confused:

Sleep with the mom. Then everyone is on even ground again. Cheeky bastard!

[hatzel]

This thread is brimming with great advice. Brimming.

[Decolonize The Left]

This thread is brimming with great advice. Brimming.

Brimming like a..... lizard?

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_rNMOlewSvvM/StmxY5fBk9I/AAAAAAAADhI/l2ZouCZPpVY/s400/liz3.jpg

- August

[Prometeo liberado]

Maybe you should sit her down to watch Leaving Las Vegas together. This way you can show her how much better a little cheating is as opposed to full blow alcoholism. See, don't you feel better already?
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[The Douche]

One time I got into an argument with my girlfriend, and said something really mean, and really sexist to her. I was way out of line, and had apologized and made us dinner, but still didn't feel like things were settled.

So I bought her this backpack that she liked, a record from her favorite band, and a greeting card that had a sad puppy on the front, and inside I wrote "my bad, dog".

[NewLeft]

One time I got into an argument with my girlfriend, and said something really mean, and really sexist to her. I was way out of line, and had apologized and made us dinner, but still didn't feel like things were settled.

So I bought her this backpack that she liked, a record from her favorite band, and a greeting card that had a sad puppy on the front, and inside I wrote "my bad, dog".
wow all that cause of a remark, cmoney's not an asshole

[The Douche]

wow all that cause of a remark, cmoney's not an asshole

I try not to be an asshole to my girlfriend.

Plus, my comment was way out of line, like, she should've hit me/left me for it.

[Decolonize The Left]

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[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

Talk to her about it? There's no point wooing her with some romantic gesture if the issues behind why you cheated aren't repaired. It's not really fair on her is it.

I mean, why did you cheat in the first place? Is there somethign in your relationship you're unhappy about? Or were you just being a dick?

If it was the latter, maybe consider breaking it off, for her more than for you!

[Manic Impressive]

like, she should've hit me/left me for it.
imagine if you were a woman saying that about her boyfriend.

that thought just twisted my melon man

[seventeethdecember2016]

I cheated on my girlfriend and need to make it up to her by doing something nice.

What is something nice I could do for her to make it up and show her I'm sorry?
I'm sorry to say this, but your an ass.
I will not give advice to someone that is likely to repeat such an offense again.

Unless, of course, you convince me that your a changed man, and you wouldn't repeat this offense.

[Yefim Zverev]

Cheaters deserve no help, trash this thread ffs

[roy]

Wow, loving the moral indignation up in here. If you don't have any advice to give, don't make a self-righteous spiel about how you're morally witholding your divine wisdom: just move on. Everyone does bad shit, especially when drunk.

Anyway, I'm gonna throw my hat in with the lizard idea that was mentioned a while back I think.

[seventeethdecember2016]

Your absolutely right! He shouldn't be confronted for this, and he should be rallied on for his apology and perhaps once again make his girlfriend go through this anguish again.

Outside of sarcasm, I would usually leave someone alone for personal things like this, but I am not going to promote this behavior when it affects another individual.

He wants advice? Be more loyal next time!

[Sam_b]

Man this thread is fucked.

[Brosip Tito]

Talk to her about it, get her real feelings out there.

Suggest, if she is okay with it, a separation period of a month to think the relationship over. With little contact as possible.

That gives you both time to think about what happened, and both of you to come to a conclusion about the relationship.

Holy fuck people, it's not rocket science. You cheated, that is a breach of trust and respect. Be a fucking adult.

[gorillafuck]

I try not to be an asshole to my girlfriend.

Plus, my comment was way out of line, like, she should've hit me/left me for it.hard to think of a situation that justifies spousal violence

[The Douche]

hard to think of a situation that justifies spousal violence

I called her a "fucking useless ****", if she had hit me, I would've understood.

[gorillafuck]

I actually assumed what you said would have been worse than that if it merited physical violence

[The Douche]

I actually assumed what you said would have been worse than that if it merited physical violence

Maybe my conception of what warrants violence is a little skewed. But I know if somebody else called her that, I'd beat their ass. Luckily she's a bit more mature than I am when it comes to insults and violence, so she just got in her car and went to a friend's house for a few hours.

[gorillafuck]

Maybe my conception of what warrants violence is a little skewed. But I know if somebody else called her that, I'd beat their ass.would she want you to do that?

[The Douche]

would she want you to do that?

Yeah, she's a feminist of sorts.

[gorillafuck]

Yeah, she's a feminist of sorts.I didn't know that entailed relying on your boyfriend to beat people up

[Geiseric]

Man this thread is fucked.

I was thinking the same thing, I can't believe this thread lasted so long.

[The Douche]

I didn't know that entailed relying on your boyfriend to beat people up

It's ingrained in my lifestyle, and her's as well, that you don't let people disrespect you or those you care about. If she wasn't a feminist, the term probably wouldn't bother her as much though.

[gorillafuck]

It's ingrained in my lifestyle, and her's as well, that you don't let people disrespect you or those you care about. If she wasn't a feminist, the term probably wouldn't bother her as much though.yeah but having your boyfriend beat people up for you over insults is kinda pathetic.

[The Douche]

yeah but having your boyfriend beat people up for you over insults is kinda pathetic.

Haha, its not like she would be like "handle this for me". If I heard it, I would react, if she told me about it, I would react. But she probably wouldn't tell me about it, cause she would know what would happen.

You're misrepresenting the situation. Its not about getting other people to fight your battles for you, its about reacting to people's disgusting ideas/words.

[gorillafuck]

zeekloid
would she want you to do that?
Yeah, she's a feminist of sorts.


But she probably wouldn't tell me about it, cause she would know what would happen.then it sounds like she WOULDN'T want you to.

[The Douche]

then it sounds like she WOULDN'T want you to.

Well I'm not inside her head. There have been times where she's come to me and said that she wanted me to take care of some guy who was making her feel uncomfortable, and I'm sure there have been plenty of times where something happened that she hasn't said anything to me.

[NewLeft]

Well I'm not inside her head. There have been times where she's come to me and said that she wanted me to take care of some guy who was making her feel uncomfortable, and I'm sure there have been plenty of times where something happened that she hasn't said anything to me.
lol so she does bring it up.. how is that not "handle this for me"?

[gorillafuck]

take care of as in?

[The Douche]

Make sure he doesn't bother her anymore?

Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable confronting the person herself cause she feels threatened by them?

I don't see anything weird about leaning on a person close to you when you don't feel like you can take of something on your own.

[gorillafuck]

Make sure he doesn't bother her anymore?

Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable confronting the person herself cause she feels threatened by them?does that mean going over and confronting, or does that mean going over and just beating up? we were pretty specifically talking about beating up.


I don't see anything weird about leaning on a person close to you when you don't feel like you can take of something on your own.yeah thats obviously fine.

[The Douche]

does that mean going over and confronting, or does that mean going over and just beating up? we were pretty specifically talking about beating up.

yeah thats obviously fine.

Well if we were, for instance, at the bar, and some guy did/said something insulting to her, odds are, I would just hit him.

If she were to come to me and say "this guy came to me at work and said blah blah blah, and he's come in a few times a week and he won't back off", then I would probably confront the dude, tell him to fuck himself, and leave her alone.


The issue of violence is only an issue of my propensity for violence, I'm not saying its the correct course of action, its just who I am...

[gorillafuck]

Well if we were, for instance, at the bar, and some guy did/said something insulting to her, odds are, I would just hit him.you said she probably wouldn't want you to do that, why would you do something for your girlfriend you don't think she wants you to do?

[The Douche]

you said she probably wouldn't want you to do that, why would you do something for your girlfriend you don't think she wants you to do?

Even though she might not like it, I have feelings to, and I consider an insult to me friends to be an insult to me as well. I'd have the same reaction if somebody insulted any of my friends.


yeah soulja boys are often violent

My PTSD is certainly a factor in my tendency to resort to violence, but it also comes from growing up poor/working class/punk rock, and a thousand other things in my upbringing.

[Nox]

Man this thread is fucked.

Just like the OP's relationship.




If she were to come to me and say "this guy came to me at work and said blah blah blah, and he's come in a few times a week and he won't back off", then I would probably confront the dude, tell him to fuck himself, and leave her alone.




Or just show them your Stalin tattoo and they would realise how badass you are and never fuck with you or your girlfriend ever again.

[gorillafuck]

Even though she might not like it, I have feelings to, and I consider an insult to me friends to be an insult to me as well. I'd have the same reaction if somebody insulted any of my friends.well when you beat someone up for somebody else when they have no desire for you to do so, you are robbing them of their capacity to stand up for them self, as well as creating a frustrating situation for them just because you are trying to assert uninvited control over their situations due to your own ego.


My PTSD is certainly a factor in my tendency to resort to violence, but it also comes from growing up poor/working class/punk rock, and a thousand other things in my upbringing.yeah sorry I thought of that joke but then realized you might actually have ptsd.

[The Douche]

well when you beat someone up for somebody else when they have no desire for you to do so, you are robbing them of their capacity to stand up for them self, as well as creating a frustrating situation for them just because you are trying to assert uninvited control over their situations due to your own ego.

Thats a really good point, and something I should apply to my life.


yeah sorry I thought of that joke but then realized you might actually have ptsd.

No worries.

[Stand Your Ground]

Awkward... She must not like her daughter that much to tell you.


does your girlfriends mom hate you?:confused:


Majorly shitty man. Is this the girlfriend you've been dating for a really long time?
Yes, her mom hates me very much and has since day 1 meeting her. And yes, her and her mom don't get along very well and they got into a huge argument over her mom borrowing money all the time so she flipped shit. That's why I'm not sure weither to believe it or not. And yes, we've been together for 4 1/2 years and we had some huge problems last July, don't know if anyone remembers that thread I made. But if she did cheat, that was what the whole problem was really about last year.

[Leftsolidarity]

Hey, mod/admin people. I'm done with this thread. I got my advice and I'm using it. All is going good and she's digging the picnic idea so thanks to whoever said that. If you want to trash this thread I'm fine with that. If not that's cool too.

[Prometeo liberado]

Hate to break this to you my man but I already started shopping your girl around on another thread.
http://www.revleft.com/vb/showpost.php?p=2402137&postcount=2

[Leftsolidarity]

Hate to break this to you my man but I already started shopping your girl around on another thread.
http://www.revleft.com/vb/showpost.php?p=2402137&postcount=2

Hahahahahahaha :laugh:

Too bad for them, we've been working things out and we're doing pretty good.

[Prometeo liberado]

Hahahahahahaha :laugh:

Too bad for them, we've been working things out and we're doing pretty good.

I got a lot of explaining to do on a lot of other threads now. Not to mention Libcom and RAAN. Could y'all help me out with a trial seperation or something? Anything?

[Leftsolidarity]

I got a lot of explaining to do on a lot of other threads now. Not to mention Libcom and RAAN. Could y'all help me out with a trial seperation or something? Anything?

Sorry man, maybe group sex but I think that's about the best I can do for ya.

[Comrade Jandar]

The fact you are able to cheat is a luxury. I can't even find one girlfriend.

[Leftsolidarity]

The fact you are able to cheat is a luxury. I can't even find one girlfriend.

Yeah but cheating is mega-shitty. I never wanted to be that guy. Too drunk/high and fucked up. Luckily she's understanding cuz she's been in that situation before.

Cheating=Bad

[Prometeo liberado]

Sorry man, maybe group sex but I think that's about the best I can do for ya.

I don't know how I'm gonna get all these people together in one place but if thats all I got to work with then I guess that's the way it is.
The shit I do for other peoples relationships!
I'm just a giver I suppose.

[Leftsolidarity]

I don't know how I'm gonna get all these people together in one place but if thats all I got to work with then I guess that's the way it is.
The shit I do for other peoples relationships!
I'm just a giver I suppose.

You are a good person, jbeard.

[Prometeo liberado]

You are a good person, jbeard.

I do it for the kids.

[Nox]

The fact you are able to cheat is a luxury. I can't even find one girlfriend.

STORY OF MY LIFE. I've never been able to comprehend how people can get multiple girls wanting to have sex with them. I'll be lucky if I can ever get one!

[Manic Impressive]

STORY OF MY LIFE. I've never been able to comprehend how people can get multiple girls wanting to have sex with them. I'll be lucky if I can ever get one!
I find women are generally more attracted to me when I'm with someone. This is probably due to me being more confident and not giving a fuck about trying to impress them. Most women know desperation when they see it, I often find it much harder to see desperation in women I think most men share this.

[Nox]

I find women are generally more attracted to me when I'm with someone. This is probably due to me being more confident and not giving a fuck about trying to impress them. Most women know desperation when they see it, I often find it much harder to see desperation in women I think most men share this.

Yeah I've heard about that before, it's all down to the "alpha male" concept

[Leftsolidarity]

Yeah I've heard about that before, it's all down to the "alpha male" concept

ehhhh, I don't think so. You can be more relaxed and real when you are with someone because you're not trying to hook up with them. I personally like people who are relaxed and real.

[¿Que?]

Yeah I've heard about that before, it's all down to the "alpha male" concept
I don't think it's simply the alpha male thing, because at least to me, it happens the other way around too. I've been kind of indifferent about certain women, who, when I find out someone is interested int hem, or they have hooked up with someone, has made me sort of want them too. I think attraction and looks are, like a lot of things, social, which means, that what we think is attractive or desirable is the result of as much a sort of group think as it is individual taste.

[NewLeft]

I don't think it's simply the alpha male thing, because at least to me, it happens the other way around too. I've been kind of indifferent about certain women, who, when I find out someone is interested int hem, or they have hooked up with someone, has made me sort of want them too. I think attraction and looks are, like a lot of things, social, which means, that what we think is attractive or desirable is the result of as much a sort of group think as it is individual taste.
We could get into the whole tribal status thing, how dominant males in packs are more attractive, women signal their fertility through looks to attract alpha males and how loners beta males are hopeless romantics. Blah blah blah blah... Yo, chill.

[Luc]

STORY OF MY LIFE. I've never been able to comprehend how people can get multiple girls wanting to have sex with them. I'll be lucky if I can ever get one!

:sneaky: what? I thought you did? :sneaky:

[Nox]

:sneaky: what? I thought you did? :sneaky:

I meant girls being attracted to you and liking you, not a random hookup that shouldn't really count

[Luc]

I meant girls being attracted to you and liking you, not a random hookup that shouldn't really count

Too bad! you had sex and didn't cry (I presume) your out of the PYHO and/or lonley club! :sleep: