Question for people who aren't bi/pansexual.

[Quail]

Do you ever think about people of the gender you don't prefer in a sexual way? If so, how do you feel about it?

This might seem like an odd question, but my boyfriend is straight and he said that he finds the idea of having sex with a man really weird. My brother was similarly disgusted by the thought. I always imagined that the thought of having sex with someone of your non-preferred gender would be just like the thought of having sex with an unattractive member of your preferred gender, but maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I've always been attracted to men and women, and I can't imagine finding the idea of sex with any gender weird or disgusting. Or it could just be that my boyfriend and brother are closet homophobes.

[Bronco]

Eh it's not something I give serious thought too no, I joke about men that could turn me or men that I'd make an exception for but that's about it, wouldn't say I find the concept weird or disgusting though

[roy]

Not consciously, but I had a dream that I made out with a guy I know the other night. He wasn't very receptive. :(

[Tim Cornelis]

The idea or sight of two man doing it personally disgusts me, but I don't think as much as the average straight guy. However, I do recognise a guy as being hot when he is (though not in a sexual way). Also, I do recognise a shirtless muscled guy as having a hot body, but there is no sexual attraction. It's more like "wow, that looks so good".

I supposed it is evolutionarily ingrained to recognise muscled man as being attractive for straight men as a sort of jealousy to become muscled as well. I suspect all man do recognise this, but most wouldn't say it out loud for fear of being called out on it.

[dodger]

Could be a biological response with the young. It is so common. Doubt if it follows any modern logic. All my sisters are ugly as sin. Grotesque...yet they seemed to have found partners, that they have kept for a lifetime. Is that a clue? Who knows...Equally a social response....all harmless.

[Renegade Saint]

The notion that (male) gay sex is "disgusting" or "gross" is purely the result of living in a homophobic culture. You'll seldom hear those guys saying the same thing about lesbian sex. I realized this in college when exchange students from Norway and Sweden said it was considered just as normal for two straight guys to make out at a party or whatever as it is for straight girls to do so here.

[Tim Cornelis]

The notion that (male) gay sex is "disgusting" or "gross" is purely the result of living in a homophobic culture. You'll seldom hear those guys saying the same thing about lesbian sex.

Well no shit, I am sexually attractive to females, therefore lesbianism is not disgusting to me. But I am not sexually attractive to men, so it's natural I don't find it particularly pleasant to see two men in the act. It has nothing to do with homophobia.

[Jimmie Higgins]

Well no shit, I am sexually attractive two females, therefore lesbianism is not disgusting to me. But I am not sexually attractive to men, so it's natural I don't find it particularly pleasant to see two men in the act. It has nothing to do with homophobia.Yes it does, but it doesn't mean you are necessarily homophobic, it's just a social prejudice.

I'm sure many Hindus don't just consider beef a taboo, but would be revolted by the idea of eating that meat aside from the religious reasons. People in the US are revolted by the idea of eating dog, but hardly any have tried it to come to this conclusion.

Straight men are uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping in the same bed with other men (non-sexually) regardless if they are consciously homophobic or not - and this used to be totally normal and accepted. People in the US think a kissed greeting is gross and yet this has long been done without shame or embarrassment in other places.

Straight guys go to concerts (or at least used to in the past) of fairly homo-erotic half-naked hair metal bands and aren't acting like they're watching male soft-porn. All the homophobic bigots who went to Rambo movies weren't throwing up their popcorn when Sly was walking around half naked all the time.

If you take an American kid to a nude beach, he'd freak out and probably hide (depending on how old of course). That's because his social frame of reference and social taboos inform his attitudes - but if he lived in a tropical region in the past, everywhere would be a nude beach and I don't think kids then freaked out whenever they saw their uncle's dick or cousin's breasts.

So I don't think it's the case that if someone's attracted to women, seeing two women making out is simply 2x as attractive to them. If that were the case then most straight males would be neutral to the idea of two men having sex just as they are more or less sexually neutral to a game of shirts and skins basketball with all men.

It's not, because - socially - sex is taboo and homosexuality is discouraged and marginalized at best.

[Jimmie Higgins]

Well no shit, I am sexually attractive two females, therefore lesbianism is not disgusting to me. But I am not sexually attractive to men, so it's natural I don't find it particularly pleasant to see two men in the act. It has nothing to do with homophobia.

Also on this -

Your example just isn't true because males who like this idea and fantasy, aren't interested in lesbian sex actually, they wouldn't find a butch lesbian attractive, they want this male lesbian fantasy.

Additionally tons of gay people have had heterosexual intercourse and relationships and people aren't repulsed by the idea (at least not as much as the other way around), they just aren't attracted or interested in having that kind of relationship. If anything they might be repulsed by being constantly sold the idea that this is what they should want.

[l'Enfermé]

Never. But then again I have literally never known or heard of a homosexual of my ethnicity(Chechen), which is odd now that I think about it.

Edit: I sound like Ahmadinejad now, lol, but I'm actually serious.

[Igor]

Never. But then again I have literally never known or heard of a homosexual of my ethnicity(Chechen), which is odd now that I think about it.

Edit: I sound like Ahmadinejad now, lol, but I'm actually serious.

It's not really unheard of that some cultures completely force homosexuality underground, not even acknowledging its existence. I'm sure being a gay is not at all rare for Chechens, they just simply don't have the option of coming out unless they're no longer really associated with the Chechen community.

edit: in this kind of cultures, the "i'm not gay, i just have sex with men" line of thinking is not really unusual in any way. pretty common in rather conservative middle eastern and central asian cultures

[Igor]

Straight men are uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping in the same bed with other men (non-sexually) regardless if they are consciously homophobic or not - and this used to be totally normal and accepted. People in the US think a kissed greeting is gross and yet this has long been done without shame or embarrassment in other places.

Sleeping in the same bed with other men is considered weird? Seriously what, is this true in the United States? Man you guys have some weird issues with your sexuality. I sleep in the same bed with other men in parties etc and I think it as no biggie. Man must be the Army be a culture shock for some people over there.

e: also I identify as straight but I do consider some men definitely hot. Actual sex with men just is pretty much uninteresting to me, not really gross or anything like that.

[Admiral Swagmeister G-Funk]

I don't find it any more disgusting than I'd imagine a gay male would feel about having sex with a woman, but it just doesn't appeal to me sexually. I can appreciate beauty in males and there are levels of attraction but none of them sexual I wouldn't say.

[NoPasaran1936]

I don't mind men having sex with each other. I just don't find it sexy, or attractive. But that's me, I don't look at them any differently.

[l'Enfermé]

It's not really unheard of that some cultures completely force homosexuality underground, not even acknowledging its existence. I'm sure being a gay is not at all rare for Chechens, they just simply don't have the option of coming out unless they're no longer really associated with the Chechen community.

edit: in this kind of cultures, the "i'm not gay, i just have sex with men" line of thinking is not really unusual in any way. pretty common in rather conservative middle eastern and central asian cultures
It doesn't exist underground either. Iran is a much more conservative and strict Islamic society, yet I've met many gay Iranians who fled Iran because of it(and who tell me it's not secret in Iran that gays are everywhere).

Perhaps genetic factors are involved.

Chechen culture is neither Middle Eastern nor Central Asian, by the way.

[Lynx]

Men's bodies don't do anything for me, nor do I find their personalities appealing. I consider George Clooney handsome but I'm told that Clooney doesn't count. Oh well.

[Igor]

It doesn't exist underground either. Iran is a much more conservative and strict Islamic society, yet I've met many gay Iranians who fled Iran because of it(and who tell me it's not secret in Iran that gays are everywhere).

Perhaps genetic factors are involved.

Chechen culture is neither Middle Eastern nor Central Asian, by the way.

There are no 'genetic factors' that are making other cultures 'less homosexual' than others. The invisibility of homosexuality does not mean it doesn't exist. Do you really consider that it's reasonable that Chechnya, where rampant and violent homophobia is a problem, just happens to "genetically have no homosexuality" unlike, well, rest of the world? Which really is more likely, Chechnya being some unique heterosexual snowflake or the fact that gays are afraid to come out because, well, contemporary Chechen society has serious problems with homophobic attitudes? Yeah, kind of sounding like Ahmadinejad here buddy.

Also I know Chechens are Caucasian and different from Central Asian & Middle Eastern cultures

[PC LOAD LETTER]

The responses in this thread make me think I'm bisexual.

[l'Enfermé]

There are no 'genetic factors' that are making other cultures 'less homosexual' than others. The invisibility of homosexuality does not mean it doesn't exist. Do you really consider that it's reasonable that Chechnya, where rampant and violent homophobia is a problem, just happens to "genetically have no homosexuality" unlike, well, rest of the world? Which really is more likely, Chechnya being some unique heterosexual snowflake or the fact that gays are afraid to come out because, well, contemporary Chechen society has serious problems with homophobic attitudes? Yeah, kind of sounding like Ahmadinejad here buddy.

Also I know Chechens are Caucasian and different from Central Asian & Middle Eastern cultures
It's not that unlikely, especially since there are studies that try to prove that genetics is a factor when it comes to homosexuality. I didn't say it has no homosexuality, only that homosexuality is nearly non-existent(even when compared to Iran or Pakistan, though Islamic law began to dominate over Chechen customary law, for the first time in history, only in the last decade and a half)

Regarding gays being afraid to come out, they could easily immigrate to the EU, apply for asylum, and their application would be approved(as is the case with gays that flee other Islamic societies). I haven't heard of a single such case, though perhaps they exist. Homosexuality is just completely alien in Chechnya, and the homophobia there basically boils down to men bragging "Haha look we are so Islamic and noble and Allah-loving because we don't have sex with men, but look at those degenerate Russians, they have gay-clubs! They will go to Hell! Allahu Akbar! Ha-aha-ha!"

[Nox]

Do you ever think about people of the gender you don't prefer in a sexual way? If so, how do you feel about it?

I never think about males in a sexual way, I have no sexual feelings towards men whatsoever.


I always imagined that the thought of having sex with someone of your non-preferred gender would be just like the thought of having sex with an unattractive member of your preferred gender.

I couldn't comprehend having sex with a male, it seems totally disgusting and strange to me (emphasis on ME). There are some females that I'm not sexually attracted to either so I guess you may have a point there.

[Aurora]

To those who said it's disgusting, what do you find disgusting about it? It seems like a pretty homophobic view to be honest

I've never been attracted to a guy but i've thought about guys in a sexual way and i'm fine with that, is that bi? i dunno

[NoPasaran1936]

I never think about males in a sexual way, I have no sexual feelings towards men whatsoever.



I couldn't comprehend having sex with a male, it seems totally disgusting and strange to me (emphasis on ME). There are some females that I'm not sexually attracted to either so I guess you may have a point there.

I personally think it's the anal sex that I don't like about it. I've never contemplated it with my girlfriend, so most certainly wouldn't with another man.

Just something about the back passage, it scares me. I even hate shitting....just feels weird IMO. However, if that's what you're into, I don't care. Doesn't effect me, so do it till your heart's content.

[NoPasaran1936]

To those who said it's disgusting, what do you find disgusting about it? It seems like a pretty homophobic view to be honest

I've never been attracted to a guy but i've thought about guys in a sexual way and i'm fine with that, is that bi? i dunno

Would I be xenophobic for finding kebabs disgusting?

[NewLeft]

I don't know how I feel about genders.. I never thought of it that way. I have never gotten as far as sexual attraction for another person, just a purely emotional attachment seems as far as I get. It seems more platonic than sexual though. I think it has to do with the fact that I want close friends over a sexual relationship. It changes with time too, I used to lust over girls when I was like 13. I don't find the idea of men having sex repulsive, or women or genderqueers for that matter.

[Quail]

Interesting responses. I honestly can't comprehend the idea of gay/straight sex being any different to sex with someone you find unattractive though. I think it's probably related to the homophobic society we live in. Some men claim that they don't know what an attractive male looks like, but I think that's because they're afraid of being seen as gay.

[Igor]

I personally think it's the anal sex that I don't like about it. I've never contemplated it with my girlfriend, so most certainly wouldn't with another man.

Just something about the back passage, it scares me. I even hate shitting....just feels weird IMO. However, if that's what you're into, I don't care. Doesn't effect me, so do it till your heart's content.

Not all gays like anal sex, though, it's not at all uncommon for gay couples to focus on other stuff. Sex doesn't have to be in-out-in business, see the case point of lesbians. I completely understand thinking anal sex is kind of gross, but considering two men having any kind of sex gross has a certain homophobic vibe to it, imo.

[NewLeft]

Interesting responses. I honestly can't comprehend the idea of gay/straight sex being any different to sex with someone you find unattractive though. I think it's probably related to the homophobic society we live in. Some men claim that they don't know what an attractive male looks like, but I think that's because they're afraid of being seen as gay.
That's bullshit, of course we know who's hot or not.

[NoPasaran1936]

Not all gays like anal sex, though, it's not at all uncommon for gay couples to focus on other stuff. Sex doesn't have to be in-out-in business, see the case point of lesbians. I completely understand thinking anal sex is kind of gross, but considering two men having any kind of sex gross has a certain homophobic vibe to it, imo.

I know, hence why I singled out anal sex.

[NoPasaran1936]

That's bullshit, of course we know who's hot or not.

I'm the hottest male to have graced this forum, but comrades, for my security. I shall not release a picture.

[NewLeft]

I'm the hottest male to have graced this forum, but comrades, for my security. I shall not release a picture.
Hot guys don't have to tell us they're hot. :rolleyes:

[Aurora]

Would I be xenophobic for finding kebabs disgusting?
No but i don't think that analogy works, your other post was much more like i would expect a non-homophobic heterosexual persons post to be:

I don't mind men having sex with each other. I just don't find it sexy, or attractive. But that's me, I don't look at them any differently.
Are you now saying you do look at them differently? i mean presumably with disgust right?

Anyway i'm not calling you a homophobe or anything i'm just curious why people think it's disgusting for other people to have consensual sex, i mean i don't like the foot fetish or bondage but i feel indifferent to it ya know, i don't find it disgusting it's just not for me.

[Igor]

Some men claim that they don't know what an attractive male looks like, but I think that's because they're afraid of being seen as gay.

Yeah, men generally do have an idea how a good-looking man looks like, at least to some extent. People claiming otherwise are usually either pretty insecure and/or into the obnoxious 'bro' culture, where people don't leave any chance to prove their heterosexuality unused. So, really, pretty much just insecurity.

[Nox]

To those who said it's disgusting, what do you find disgusting about it? It seems like a pretty homophobic view to be honest


That's why I said "emphasis on ME". I personally find it disgusting and would never do it, because I have no sexual attraction towards men. I have no problem however with other people doing it.

[Luc]

I think I'm heterosexual but i still find male genitals attractive, it's just the rest of men's bodies and the personalities of the ones I've met that turn me off:sleep:

The notion of being a bottom could trouble some :unsure: i would write more but.. I don't know:(

[NoPasaran1936]

No but i don't think that analogy works, your other post was much more like i would expect a non-homophobic heterosexual persons post to be:

Are you now saying you do look at them differently? i mean presumably with disgust right?

Anyway i'm not calling you a homophobe or anything i'm just curious why people think it's disgusting for other people to have consensual sex, i mean i don't like the foot fetish or bondage but i feel indifferent to it ya know, i don't find it disgusting it's just not for me.

No, the analogy didn't work.

No, I don't find ANAL SEX sexy, or other men entirely attractive. I'll admit, wording is poor on my behalf. I personally have no issues, love is a natural feeling. I don't find other men sexually attractive, and anal sex with either genders at all sexy... Hopefully this clears what I mean up.

[Deicide]

What the fuck is 'bro' culture?

The thought of some bloke sticking his dick into my ass is not a pleasant thought for me.

[NewLeft]

I think I'm heterosexual but i still find male genitals attractive, it's just the rest of men's bodies and the personalities of the ones I've met that turn me off:sleep:

The notion of being a bottom could trouble some :unsure: i would write more but.. I don't know:(
Just screw identifying yourself.

[NoPasaran1936]

Hot guys don't have to tell us they're hot. :rolleyes:

No, but you can understand being this smoking hot, I have to reiterate my status.

[PC LOAD LETTER]

What the fuck is 'bro' culture?

The thought of some bloke sticking his dick into my ass is not a pleasant thought for me.
I'm not sure how prevalent this is outside of the US/Canada, but it's basically 16-30 year old (predominantly white, but not always) males, who usually end up in fraternities in college. They're upper-middle-class, have an inflated sense of self-worth, usually wear tennis visors and pink polo shirts, and are obsessed with making their "masculinity" known and acting like the archetypal "alpha male". Usually also have right-wing libertarian political views ("Ron Paul, bro!!!"). They have virtually no interests besides football, beer, and bragging about how many women they fucked in the last 30 days.

See also: bromance, dude-bruh, dude-brah, dude-bro, and Dave Matthews Band

[¿Que?]

As a straight man, I am not in any way interested in pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship with another man.

Be that as it may, I don't equate it with not wanting that from a woman I find unattractive.

These are two different reasons, and when it all comes down to specifics, I think if I had to choose, it would depend on who we're talking about.

Because I often see men that I think are attractive, but have no interest in anything sexual or romantic with them.

I've considered experimenting, but not seriously. Kinda makes me want to vomit, honestly. I don't think I could really do it, and given probability what it is, 9 times out of 10 I'd go for the ugly girl over the handsome guy.

[Bronco]

I'm not sure how prevalent this is outside of the US/Canada, but it's basically 16-30 year old (predominantly white, but not always) males, who usually end up in fraternities in college. They're upper-middle-class, have an inflated sense of self-worth, usually wear tennis visors and pink polo shirts, and are obsessed with making their "masculinity" known and acting like the archetypal "alpha male". Usually also have right-wing libertarian political views ("Ron Paul, bro!!!"). They have virtually no interests besides football, beer, and bragging about how many women they fucked in the last 30 days.

See also: bromance, dude-bruh, dude-brah, dude-bro, and Dave Matthews Band

Sounds a bit like lad culture here

[Igor]

Sounds a bit like lad culture here

Yeah, it's pretty much the same phenomenon.

[The Young Pioneer]

I'm what most would consider lesbian, but have had the occasional fantasy of being with a guy, yes.

Labels suck tho.

[Nox]

Sounds a bit like lad culture here


Yeah, it's pretty much the same phenomenon.

NoxLAD reporting in!

[Captain Marvelous]

Do you ever think about people of the gender you don't prefer in a sexual way? If so, how do you feel about it?

This might seem like an odd question, but my boyfriend is straight and he said that he finds the idea of having sex with a man really weird. My brother was similarly disgusted by the thought. I always imagined that the thought of having sex with someone of your non-preferred gender would be just like the thought of having sex with an unattractive member of your preferred gender, but maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I've always been attracted to men and women, and I can't imagine finding the idea of sex with any gender weird or disgusting. Or it could just be that my boyfriend and brother are closet homophobes.

I've thought about it, in thoughts that last a couple of seconds, before I pull myself together. I think it's natural for one's thoughts to wander, but that doesn't mean one is actually interested in doing whatever they find themselves thinking about. I find the idea of a man fucking another man really disgusting, but each to their own I guess.

[Per Levy]

honestly, i dont find the thought of having sex with a man weird or disgusting, it just doesnt turn me on.

[Ostrinski]

Fuck, I dunno. I just can't look at a dick and get excited. Is that a crime? I've tried looking at men in a sexual way, the pieces just don't fall. I definitely can tell when I see an attractive guy, though. But if a man propositioned me for sex I can't see myself going for it. Maybe it's just our society.

Regardless, the sexual question relates to the romantic question. To be in love or broken hearted are the most intense feelings the human heart can feel. I have never had any romantic feelings for a male and can't contemplate it either. Are sexuality and romance inexorably related, or has anyone here ever had romantic feelings for someone but no sexual desire?

[Bronco]

honestly, i dont find the thought of having sex with a man weird or disgusting, it just doesnt turn me on.

Same, it doesn't appeal to me but I don't see why the concept of it is disgusting, often seems to be what some say to assure people of their heterosexuality, or to guard against being accused of being gay

I dunno, do gay people find the idea of a man and woman having sex disgusting?

[bricolage]

Fuck, I dunno. I just can't look at a dick and get excited.
are you attracted to women because you get so excited looking at a vagina? :confused:
it's hardly genitalia that people get attracted to when the fall in love/hook up/whatever.

[Luc]

Are sexuality and romance inexorably related, or has anyone here ever had romantic feelings for someone but no sexual desire?

I believe some asexuals can still have romantic feelings but as being asexuals no sexual desire. So I'd say yes they can be separate but depends on the person.

[Landsharks eat metal]

I believe some asexuals can still have romantic feelings but as being asexuals no sexual desire. So I'd say yes they can be separate but depends on the person.

Yes... there is asexual and there is aromantic... people can be one or the other, or both (or neither, of course).

[Ostrinski]

are you attracted to women because you get so excited looking at a vagina? :confused:
it's hardly genitalia that people get attracted to when the fall in love/hook up/whatever.It was tongue in cheek but good point

[l'Enfermé]

are you attracted to women because you get so excited looking at a vagina? :confused:
it's hardly genitalia that people get attracted to when the fall in love/hook up/whatever.
I must say that I'm an admirer of the vagina.

[#FF0000]

nope

[gorillafuck]

I at one point wondered if I was bisexual, but I'm not.

I don't get the same feelings from seeing a man sexually as when I see a woman sexually, and feelings of affection and attachment to guys don't develop in me the way those feelings develop for women.

[Yuppie Grinder]

Although few hetero-sexual men will admit it, feelings of homo-eroticism are very very common in all circles of society.
If you think about it from an outside perspective it's really weird that a man can't acknowledge the beauty of another man in even a platonic way without being called gay.
It's important to note that the makeup of an individual's sexual identity is at it's root instinctual, but socialization and cultural perspective are a big part as well. It's funny that someone can't say a man is beautiful, intending to communicate that they are beautiful from their cultures perspective, without being accused of being a homosexual.

[gorillafuck]

referring to men as attractive is a good way to make girls laugh because it's so uncommon for straight males to do it.

[Ostrinski]

I think there's a difference between acknowledging that an individual is attractive and actually feeling sexually drawn to them

[NewLeft]

Yes... there is asexual and there is aromantic... people can be one or the other, or both (or neither, of course).
Aromantic sounds alot like me actually.. :unsure: But I do have a sex drive, so I can't be asexual. I just don't like being in a relationship..? I don't know, I've got stuff to figure out. The word reminds me of aromatic :glare:, but that's unrelated.

[Hermes]

I think there's a difference between acknowledging that an individual is attractive and actually feeling sexually drawn to them

I agree, but many don't see it that way. They think the two are synonymous.

[Yuppie Grinder]

I think there's a difference between acknowledging that an individual is attractive and actually feeling sexually drawn to them
Of course.

[¿Que?]

I think there's a difference between acknowledging that an individual is attractive and actually feeling sexually drawn to them
But what if there wasn't and we were all just repressed bisexuals!

EDIT: ANd hence the sublimation in things like sports, military, SCIENCE, and other male dominated milieus.

[Lilith]

Male bodies are hideous.

[Yuppie Grinder]

Male bodies are hideous.
What an awful thing to say.

[Lilith]

Awful but true.

[Ostrinski]

But what if there wasn't and we were all just repressed bisexuals!

EDIT: ANd hence the sublimation in things like sports, military, SCIENCE, and other male dominated milieus.guess that's a possibility, but then someone's gonna have to propose a method of un-repression.

[CountryKid]

I am attracted to men sexually and emotionally.

I am attracted to most of the female body sexually, minus vajinn.

However I could never be in an emotional relationship with a female.




Seems weird man. Unnatural. :p

[black magick hustla]

i dont like lesbian porn cuz' i can't imagine myself boning there so lol

[Lanky Wanker]

A considerably unattractive girl trying to get close to me either emotionally or physically would obviously creep me out, but a guy doing it would be even weirder for me. Even the thought of doing something sexual with an attractive guy makes me feel awkward. My friend always used to muck around trying to creep me out by leaning towards me as though he was going to touch me (and sometimes going as far as stroking my leg...) which made me feel slightly uncomfortable, not because of his looks or anything, more the fact that he was a guy.

Speaking of which, any heterosexuals care to share members of the same sex they'd possibly go for? :drool:

http://stevencee.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/channing-tatum5.jpg

I feel weird for saying Channing Tatum because my best friend looks a lot like him... minus the muscles though. Apparently in Ancient Greece where homosexuality was much more accepted, the appeal of a man being with another man was due to the fact that men are/were stronger than women, thus giving them a greater sense of power.

[Luc]

, more the fact that he was a guy.

Speaking of which, any heterosexuals care to share members of the same sex they'd possibly go for? :drool:

i think it goes without saying :sleep:

http://almamatters.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/young-stalin.jpg

[Agent Ducky]

Do you ever think about people of the gender you don't prefer in a sexual way? If so, how do you feel about it?

This might seem like an odd question, but my boyfriend is straight and he said that he finds the idea of having sex with a man really weird. My brother was similarly disgusted by the thought. I always imagined that the thought of having sex with someone of your non-preferred gender would be just like the thought of having sex with an unattractive member of your preferred gender, but maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I've always been attracted to men and women, and I can't imagine finding the idea of sex with any gender weird or disgusting. Or it could just be that my boyfriend and brother are closet homophobes.

It's not homophobia. I'm asexual and I find the idea of sex with either gender to be weird and just overall repulsive.

[¿Que?]

Speaking of which, any heterosexuals care to share members of the same sex they'd possibly go for? :drool:
Three way brah

http://www.truthdig.com/images/diguploads/chavez_morales_804.jpg

[Lanky Wanker]

Three way brah

http://www.truthdig.com/images/diguploads/chavez_morales_804.jpg

You're all making a joke out of my sexual orientation. :crying:

But yeah, them guys are hawt in their own special way. I have a bad feeling about where this thread is going... I see now why we need central planning, to stop people like us.

[¿Que?]

You're all making a joke out of my sexual orientation. :crying:

But yeah, them guys are hawt in their own special way. I have a bad feeling about where this thread is going... I see now why we need central planning, to stop people like us.
Eek! You're right! That might have come across as insensitive. I apologize, and stand with you against derailment of this thread. :)

[Positivist]

No repulsion on my part just disinterest. Most early hunter gatherer societies as well as the Greek and Roman cultures were entirely bisexual though. (Perhaps everyone wasn't bisexual but the majority were.)

[Lanky Wanker]

Eek! You're right! That might have come across as insensitive. I apologize, and stand with you against derailment of this thread. :)

I'm kiddin' dawg, RevLeft is probably the first place I'd reveal my sexuality if I liked men because you're all so amazing and accepting. :wub: