What is "dating" or "going-out"?

[Luc]

wikipedia was no help :sleep:

[Drosophila]

I don't know but it pisses me off when people say it

[Bronco]

Isn't it sorta self explanatory :huh:

[Ele'ill]

It's the time you spend getting to know someone.

[gorillafuck]

serious romantic dating is stupid, people agree to hangout and do stuff together until they fall in love rather than just be friends and let those sorts of feelings develop without pressures or expectations.

[Luc]

It's the time you spend getting to know someone.

doesn't one get to know someone before one starts to date them?

[Luc]

serious romantic dating is stupid, people agree to hangout and do stuff together until they fall in love rather than just be friends and let those sorts of feelings develop without pressures or expectations.

what do you do? and what is "hangout" exactly?

[gorillafuck]

uh thats what I say for basically anything people do together to be honest.

[Luc]

:/

[TheGodlessUtopian]

There was this exact same thread on a organized trolling forum,I kid you not.lol

[Ele'ill]

doesn't one get to know someone before one starts to date them?

Yeah, you meet the person and the situations can vary but generally you don't get to know them real well until you chill or 'hangout' like zeekloid was saying and you learn about the other person and them you.

[Ele'ill]

I'd much rather get to know someone in an organic manner than in a forced dating kind of way. Organic being work, school or other activities like that.

[Luc]

There was this exact same thread on a organized trolling forum,I kid you not.lol

oohh... hehe.. yeah.. well, jsut to note; I'm not trolling;) I honestly don't know what some of these words mean no one explains them just says them, I asked girl's firneds who keept urging me to "go out" with her (long time ago)

[Ele'ill]

There was this exact same thread on a organized trolling forum,I kid you not.lol

Yeah but the troll fails when all the users actually like talking about this stuff.

[Luc]

Yeah, you meet the person and the situations can vary but generally you don't get to know them real well until you chill or 'hangout' like zeekloid was saying and you learn about the other person and them you.

so... dating, how is it different from friendship? it doesn't ahve monopoly on sex as evidenced by fuck buddies, holding hands is something done by most people, hugs are a greeting at my school, all thats left is cuddling which I'm uncertain of :unsure:

[Bronco]

I tend to use the term "going out with" as pretty interchangeable with "in a relationship with", I dunno if that's a British thing or if it's that common, but that's generally how most people I know have always used it. "Dating" is just going out on dates, just to get something to eat, or to the cinema etc. I'd say this is normally used more at the start of a relationship, getting to know each other

[NewLeft]

dating is for old people and going out is for us kids

[Ostrinski]

I've never been on a date.

[Luc]

I've never been on a date.

same :blink:

[Ostrinski]

:(

[A Revolutionary Tool]

It's when you're in a relationship with someone, a romantic/sexual type of relationship.

[PC LOAD LETTER]

I haven't been on a date in a little over a year.

Fuck.

And yeah, "dating" pre-relationship is awkward as shit. I hate it. And it feels so childish trying to make things "official" ... just fucking go with it.

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One of the suggested corrections for pre-relationship was pee-relationship. Thanks, Firefox. You never cease to make things needlessly awkward.

[Anarpest]

One of the suggested corrections for pre-relationship was pee-relationship. Thanks, Firefox. You never cease to make things needlessly awkward. Expressing fetishes is the best way to establish a relationship.

[Nox]

And yeah, "dating" pre-relationship is awkward as shit. I hate it. And it feels so childish trying to make things "official" ... just fucking go with it.


My thoughts exactly. I've always wondered how one would make the transition from "dating" to "in a relationship" without having to say something super awkward like "hurr please bee my gurlfrend"


As for the OP, I think "dating" means getting to know someone romantically without being in a relationship, and "going out" (at least in the high school sense of the word) means being in a relationship.

[lombas]

I have never dated or "went out" with someone, yet I'm in a happy relationship.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

I have never dated or "went out" with someone, yet I'm in a happy relationship.
If you're in a happy relationship you're currently "going out" with them.

[Misanthrope]

It's a romantic mutual understanding between consenting and communicating parties.

[Anarpest]

It's a romantic mutual understanding between consenting and communicating parties.

Usually in the sense of 'mutual distaste.'

[Le Rouge]

Fuck dates. I hang out with people i like and then if it appears that a girl that i'm hanging with is cool enough to be with me, then i might try to seduce her. No asking out. Just pure
seduction.


PS. I'm hanging out with the girl i like today. Wish me something.

[Anarpest]

PS. I'm hanging out with the girl i like today. Wish me something.

I hope you become good friends!

[Le Rouge]

I hope you become good friends!

Impossible, she likes/loves me.

[dodger]

Courtship Ritual. Every country or region has them. Do wait to be formally introduced. This ensures the gel hails from a good family. A few tips what to do and most importantly what to avoid, reputation once lost....can never be regained. Nox pay attention....some useful and well tried tips.....and remember..."The romance evaporates but the memory of indiscretion survives." Any foreign chaps visiting our shores will find these few paragraphs invaluable, should they wish to meet a young lady.

One basic problem over which much ink is spilt is: What should a lady do on seeing a gentleman of her acquaintance in the street? One thing is clear: she has to be a quick thinker. 'If... by the expression of his countenance you perceive he recognizes you, if his company has been agreeable, his connections are respectable and you have no objection to his acquaintance, it is your province to salute him; for if he be a decidedly well-bred man and believe you equally a gentlewoman, he will not salute you first.' (The reason why a gentleman does not take the initiative in recognizing the lady is to spare any hurt to his feelings if she does not choose to acknowledge him.)


If a lady thinks the gentleman has not seen her she should not salute him. 'First, he may not perceive your salute and your feelings would then be wounded by the imagined neglect; and second, the salute may be appropriated by some coxcomb whose acquaintance might be anything but agreeable.'
A lady usually has a proper sense of her own importance, says this writer; therefore she will not acknowledge, in the street, a gentleman whose only claim to acquaintance is that he once danced with her at a public ball. Such 'improvisatrice acquaintances' are to be avoided.


The problem of how to engineer an introduction to a young woman who is a complete stranger is tackled warily, and on the whole unsatisfactorily. It is legitimate for the gentleman to find out where she lives and make inquiries through 'the most ready means in the neighbourhood' into her family and friends. A little more information about which sources to consult might have been welcome; as it is, the would-be suitor is merely warned that he must be careful to avoid mentioning the lady's name in his inquiries. If he fails to make contact with her through friends, he is advised to attend her place of worship, or meet her 'so often as to be manifestly for the purpose, in the course of her morning promenades'. He will soon be able to judge, even without speaking, whether his attentions are distasteful or otherwise. A timid blush or 'a smile lurking in the half-dropped eye' are a sign that he may with some confidence attempt the next hurdle-that of writing to her father. This he does on the lines already made familiar in The New London Letter-Writer. All secret and unacknowledged meetings are to be avoided, 'as the repetition of a clandestine intercourse is always more or less injurious through life. The romance evaporates but the memory of indiscretion survives,'


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