Would you sooner foregive and knowing infection with STD or cheating?

[PhoenixAsh]

EDIT: mind the poll question...which would you more EASILLY forgive...



Recently in a debate an interesting question was posed....

Would somebody sooner forgive somebody for being unfaithful or for knowingly infecting them with a sexually transmitted disease without telling.


And knowingly infected means for this poll....

Being fully aware one has an STD...not informing the partner. Lying to your partner when asked. Not wearing protection or insiting on protection being used and engaging in unprotected sex with your partner and obfuscating and downright denying the fact you have an STD until the partner gets symptoms and needs to get checked.


And unfaithfull means...

Having sex with somebody else outside the relationship behind your partners back while the partner was thinking the relationship was monogamous....fully aware of the fact


The STD and the cheating are for the subject of this poll unrelated :D



I am curious to what you all think....

[¿Que?]

STD definitely. I think you can get over being cheated on, but an STD is often a lifetime of treatment and could even result in death.

[PhoenixAsh]

Personally I would sooner forgive my partner being unfaithful than my partner knowingly infecting me with an STD and having lied about it or not given me warning while beig fully aware they had an STD.

Now if the infection would happen while my partner was unaware of the fact...I would no mind as much. But while being fully aware of the STD being there and not having warned me took away my right to make an informed decision and plays risks with my health and life. It is downright dangerous and such behaviour endangers me and others.

While being unfaithful can happen...and holds no consequeces for me other than a sad feeling.

[PhoenixAsh]

STD definitely. I think you can get over being cheated on, but an STD is often a lifetime of treatment and could even result in death.

I agree....you voted differently though... :D

[Revolution starts with U]

I read the poll wrong :rolleyes: I didnt realize it was "willfully transmitting the disease." In light of that, I would vote them equally un/forgiveable.

[xub3rn00dlex]

Ah shit. Voted wrong, even after reading the above comment. The way it's worded really throws you off.

[Revolution starts with U]

I would suggest wording it "knowingly infected" or "willfully transmitting"
I know english isn't your first language tho (right?) so, it's okay :)

[Kamos]

I voted "both equally unforgiving". If it's not an open relationship, then cheating on me gets the instant breakup treatment, simple as that. The reason for this is simple: my parents had a terrible marriage and their constant arguments really made my childhood miserable at times. If I am to have a serious relationship I'll only settle for the best.

[Column No.4]

If i had a partner with an STD, and she knew it, and she infected me theyd be fishing her out of the bottom of a lake.

[Sam_b]

The wording of the question does not actually make sense.

[Che a chara]

Shit, i voted wrong by accident. I would more easily forgive my partner for being unfaithful.

What kind of warped mind would knowingly infect you with a life-threatening and infectious disease ? That's worse than cheating. It is criminal.

If your partner is unfaithful, then that may mean that you need to work on your relationship and maybe look at yourself to see how you can improve. It can work both ways, like getting shit out in the open and being more honest and both becoming stronger through it.

[ÑóẊîöʼn]

Even if I was involved in a strictly monogamous relationship, I would find it easier to forgive unfaithfulness because the only thing it would really break would be my heart.

On the other hand, an STD can kill me, and what does deliberately or carelessly infecting me with one say about their level of respect? Nothing good, in my opinion.

[PhoenixAsh]

The wording of the question does not actually make sense.

...you are absolutely right that the question is not really suitable for a poll. Seeing as a lot of voters voted wrong.

unfortunately I couldn't change it after I made the poll and realised it. :crying:


What would have been a better way to phrase it?

[Sam_b]

I don't know. Why are you even asking this question?

[PhoenixAsh]

Well that was said in OP. It was posed in a debate.

Somebody stated they expected people to forgive knowing infection with an STD sooner than cheating. I thought that would not be the case...but thought it interesting enough of a question to pose as a poll to see how the board would think about this issue. So basically curiosity. I posted it in OI to get a wide as possible group...with more members being able to vote in the poll.

So far....even with correction of those who said the voted wrong and explained their votes. It really surprises me. :)

[Skooma Addict]

I wouldn't be mad either way.

[Sam_b]

Well that was said in OP. It was posed in a debate

Yeah, not really the point I was getting at. It's more that is a completely arbitary question which I don't think is comparable given the polarised choice.

[PhoenixAsh]

Yeah, not really the point I was getting at. It's more that is a completely arbitary question which I don't think is comparable given the polarised choice.

Interesting...don't really know what to think about that. could you elaborate on it a bit? Why do you think it is incomparable?

[pastradamus]

If someone gave me an STD its Chinatown for them, I absolutely do not forgive carelessness - just a point id like to make, not that I understand the poll questions or anything.