Another dating thread

[LegendZ]

Well from the title you can guess what this is about. Well there's this girl in band that I like and I think she likes me. I think she likes me because she's always walking up to me or walking beside me and saying hi.

Like Yesterday she ran up to me twice just to say hi. Neither of us could keep the convo going so it kind of ended awkwardly.
It went like this.

Her: LegendZ, LegendZ
Me:*Looks up*
Her: I just wanted to say hi because I haven't said I all day.
Me:Oh well Hi.
Her: Ok*insert awkward moment here* Bye.

Or Last week

Her*Running up to me* Hi
Me: Hey
*Insert awkward moment where we just glance at each other*
Well what's the problem you ask? After that things get awkward because we don't know what to say. I don't know what to ask her or say and neither does she so we just kind of stand there with that "awkward glance". Any ideas on conversation topics just to get the ball rolling.

[Susurrus]

Say something about the class you share. Or something in the news. Or say "nice weather we're having" ironically and laugh. Or sometime say hi first. Or randomly reply to a hi with "Did you know I'm a communist?" and see where it goes from there(somewhat kidding).

[Salyut]

Well from the title you can guess what this is about. Well there's this girl in band that I like and I think she likes me. I think she likes me because she's always walking up to me or walking beside me and saying hi.

I'm pretty sure that means she likes you.

[maskerade]

Just talk to her about anything. But just make her talk about herself. Ask her what she did today, what she thinks about something that's happened, music etc. Just go for it!

[Tomhet]

Ask her questions about her day, about her interests..
Don't talk about yourself.

[Honggweilo]

say "maybe we should take it to the next level, and add a "there" to it"

[Luisrah]

Ask her about her interests. If you're young ask her what is her dream job, or what are her hobbies.
Ask her what she would do if she had a million dollars/euros/whatever.

The only problem is starting. When you start talking things get much easier.

[LegendZ]

say "maybe we should take it to the next level, and add a "there" to it"I kinda tested the limits last week when a firetruck came and made a waterfall for us. I tried putting my arm around her shoulder. She wasn't pretty receptive(twisted out of it). Oh well today is another time to try.

EDIT:And there's kind of a difference in age. I'm a senior she's a freshman.

[NoOneIsIllegal]

I'm pretty sure that means she likes you.
Typically. I've shared my story about a similar thing a few times on here*, so I won't beat a dead horse, but make sure you two are seeing eye to eye and am on the same level, ya dig?

* Fuck it, I'm telling it after seeing the last post.
There was this girl who use to always approach me at work. The majority of the time she came up to me (not me pestering her), and usually it was when I was alone and not with a group. She seemed to make a few jokes here and there, and smiled a lot. This happened for a while, and I figured I had to be the one who made the next step. When I eventually asked her out on a date, she said yes, but the next time I saw her, she evaded me... and again... and again. She wouldn't even make eye contact.
I found out from a co-worker she said she has a boyfriend, so that's understandable, I just think its fucked up how she approached the situation and couldn't even approach me about it, even though she was always the one running to me. She couldn't even say a nice "no thanks, I'm taken" when I asked :sneaky:
I guess my lesson to you is, try to get the lay of the land more. We connected well, and talked often, but you should try to hint at things on how you're feeling, etc. Just don't go for the kill, assuming she feels the same...

[praxis1966]

I'm not saying this applies to any of the above respondents, but I'm just telling you folks now... If this thread descends into the kind of base stereotyping and immature locker room stuff that I've seen in other relationship threads it's getting closed.

In short, don't make me be that guy...

[the Left™]

Say something about the class you share. Or something in the news. Or say "nice weather we're having" ironically and laugh. Or sometime say hi first. Or randomly reply to a hi with "Did you know I'm a communist?" and see where it goes from there(somewhat kidding).

:lol:

Take her to something really fancy and treat her nice and then look her deep in the eyes and ask her "Did you have a nice bourgeois time?"

[Leftsolidarity]

If you want to continue a conversation say open-ended questions that she can't answer with just a "yes" or "no". Once there's an awkward silence just say something like "So what's up?" or something like that. You can also just acknowledge the awkwardness with a "haha sooo this is a little awkward". It lets her know that you also realize it's awkward and that you don't know what to say and not just some weird kid that never wants to talk to her.

[La Comédie Noire]

Putting your arm around her was a little imprudent, you should ask her to hang out first.

[NoOneIsIllegal]

Holding her hand > putting arm around her

Just my opinion on early relationship building.

[Thirsty Crow]

Yeah, I wouldn't know what to say in such an awkward situation myself, though usually that sort of stuff didn't happen to me (women directly approaching), but that must be due to my sheer inner beauty shining out from my every pore, blinding people who would approach otherwise :laugh:

No, seriously, relax and pick up the topic which is immediately related to you both.

(though, I'm not really sure what the hell I'm doing in a thread about dating :confused:)

[LegendZ]

Wow thanks guys. I did a basic "how was your day" and it was like I had no problems again. Maybe it was just a fluke. Anyway I'll see tomorrow.

Thx Guys!

[black magick hustla]

just because a girl tells you hello and talks to you doesnt mean she likes you jesus fucking christ. why does every girl that likes your company means that she wants to screw you. i would be swimming in vagina if that were the case. stop making threads like this, they are embarrassing, i mean maybe she likes you but i think its unhealthy to think every girl that enjoys your company is a to be sexual partner

[Leftsolidarity]

just because a girl tells you hello and talks to you doesnt mean she likes you jesus fucking christ. why does every girl that likes your company means that she wants to screw you. i would be swimming in vagina if that were the case. stop making threads like this, they are embarrassing, i mean maybe she likes you but i think its unhealthy to think every girl that enjoys your company is a to be sexual partner

Give him a break. It does sound like she's at least interested in him.

[tbasherizer]

Man, just talk to her a lot. Start at school, then arrange hang-outs (not strictly dates), then just see how you connect. I remember being really desperate in high school, and that desperation really ruined any chances I had at really connecting with someone. So take it easy, and don't try to go for anything physical until you've got yourselves well past the 'hi' stage.

On another level though, I do see where black magick is coming from. You've got to be careful- not all girls who talk to you are on the prowl. I do feel slightly embarrassed too- It feels kind of weird to discuss high school crushes and historical materialism on the same site.

[LegendZ]

just because a girl tells you hello and talks to you doesnt mean she likes you jesus fucking christ. why does every girl that likes your company means that she wants to screw you. i would be swimming in vagina if that were the case. stop making threads like this, they are embarrassing, i mean maybe she likes you but i think its unhealthy to think every girl that enjoys your company is a to be sexual partnerMost productive post of the day right here. I mean, it's not like I have platonic female friends or anything? Oh wait. And yes I am so conceited that every girl that stands 10 ft away from me is into me.

Not to mention that I should stop making threads like these. So uhh what's the purpose of this sub forum again?
Forum for threads that aren't serious enough for the main forums, and too serious for Chit Chat. Of course if you don't like threads like this, then don't click on them? But I guess my thread title imposed on your internet rights huh?

But let's get to the important part of me thinking every girl wants to fuck me. Care to point out where I said that? I guess the thought of a non-sexual relationship never crossed your mind huh? Or perhaps you just missed the part where I just wanted to start a conversation to get things going and see where I stand. Nahh Obviously the thought of sex was the only thing on my mind.

So in closing.
Sorry for imposing on your internet rights that so many people fought so long and hard for you to get. Sorry for making you click on this thread. Most importantly, sorry for trying to ask some people a simple question.

Now go kick rocks.

[tbasherizer]

Most productive post of the day right here. I mean, it's not like I have platonic female friends or anything? Oh wait. And yes I am so conceited that every girl that stands 10 ft away from me is into me.

Not to mention that I should stop making threads like these. So uhh what's the purpose of this sub forum again? Of course if you don't like threads like this, then don't click on them? But I guess my thread title imposed on your internet rights huh?

But let's get to the important part of me thinking every girl wants to fuck me. Care to point out where I said that? I guess the thought of a non-sexual relationship never crossed your mind huh? Or perhaps you just missed the part where I just wanted to start a conversation to get things going and see where I stand. Nahh Obviously the thought of sex was the only thing on my mind.

So in closing.
Sorry for imposing on your internet rights that so many people fought so long and hard for you to get. Sorry for making you click on this thread. Most importantly, sorry for trying to ask some people a simple question.

Now go kick rocks.

My toe hurts.

Hey man, I didn't mean anything personal. I guess your story just resonated with me in a way that made me self-conscious of my own experiences.

[Matty_UK]

just because a girl tells you hello and talks to you doesnt mean she likes you jesus fucking christ. why does every girl that likes your company means that she wants to screw you. i would be swimming in vagina if that were the case. stop making threads like this, they are embarrassing, i mean maybe she likes you but i think its unhealthy to think every girl that enjoys your company is a to be sexual partner

Jesus Christ, it may be unhealthy to think every girl that enjoys your company is a sexual partner but there's nothing in his post to suggest he thinks that, seems like he has good reason to think she's interested and there's nothing at all wrong with talking it over and seeing what other people think. People do this all the time. If you're the sort of person who doesn't enjoy talking about this sort of stuff that's fine, but nobody is forcing you to read these threads so quit complaining about what people choose to talk about.

[A Revolutionary Tool]

I had this happen a lot during my Senior year too, Freshmen chicks would come up to me and say "hi" and then just stand there expecting me to talk or something. The only reasoning I could come up for the reason they were doing this was because I was a Senior. I mean I never had girls flocking to me like that before throughout my whole high school career, what else could it have been? Completely serious here.

[Azula]

Leave her alone and don't harass her.

[Leftsolidarity]

Leave her alone and don't harass her.

:confused:

She is the one coming up and talking to him. Why would you say something like that??


I had this happen a lot during my Senior year too, Freshmen chicks would come up to me and say "hi" and then just stand there expecting me to talk or something. The only reasoning I could come up for the reason they were doing this was because I was a Senior. I mean I never had girls flocking to me like that before throughout my whole high school career, what else could it have been? Completely serious here.

I'm going into senior year but this happened to me A LOT last year and happens a lot at shows too since I'm in a well known local band. It is a difficult thing to deal with sometimes because you doesn't exactly feel like talking to them but you don't want to sound like an asshole. (even harder completely trashed too hahaha) I usually deal with it by making general boring small talk for like 10 seconds and then saying "well I gotta go do something".

[brigadista]

maybe she just wants to be friends

[Anarchrusty]

Leave her alone and don't harass her.


I agree. Never come on strong to a girl, they really dislike that and you will only scare her away. If she is really interested, she will let you know unequivocally in no certain terms to begin with it.

[Matty_UK]

I agree. Never come on strong to a girl, they really dislike that and you will only scare her away. If she is really interested, she will let you know unequivocally in no certain terms to begin with it.

Sorry but this is just not true. Nobody likes putting themselves at risk of being rejected - and girls especially usually don't need to put themselves forward so rarely do, they will usually just hint that they like you through their behaviour and make an effort to put themselves in situations where they are around you. As this girl seems to be doing.

And he's hardly coming on strong, and nobody has suggested anything that amounts to coming on strong. If you're a guy you pretty much have to bite the bullet and do a bit of pursuing or you will never, ever, find a girlfriend. This isn't "harassing" her unless she unequivocally rejects your advances yet you continue to pursue her.