Forgetting about an old relationship?

[The Man]

Well Basically here is the story: I'm fifteen years old currently, going on 16 (Young, I know), and I was with this girl for 1 and a half years. She was so fantastic, We cuddled every opportunity we had, we kissed all of the time, we talked on the phone for hours sometimes. We were always laughing, and going out to the mall.. It was all going completely fine, and then one night she said "Were done", and hung up.

I literally have never heard from her since February, but I can not erase her from my mind, she is so emotionally attached to my memory.. Sometimes I cry because of it. Is there anyway to forget about it all?

[RichardAWilson]

She doesn't go to your school? You have no means of talking to her and telling her how you feel / asking her what happened?

[The Man]

She doesn't go to your school? You have no means of talking to her and telling her how you feel / asking her what happened?

She would come over to my house almost daily actually. She goes to a different school than I do. Her phone number is disconnected also :crying:

[A Revolutionary Tool]

It just abruptly ended like that *snaps my fingers*. No warning or anything, everything was going great?

[eyedrop]

You're 15. You don't have any old relationships. It's still fresh. It's supposed to stay with you for a couple of years.

[The Man]

It just abruptly ended like that *snaps my fingers*. No warning or anything, everything was going great?

Basically.. Everything was normal too, I have no idea why.

[The Man]

You're 15. You don't have any old relationships. It's still fresh. It's supposed to stay with you for a couple of years.

It's a relationship I am no longer part of, Therefore it is an 'old relationship'.

[Luisrah]

Well, either you make:
a) a real effort to talk to her;
b) you forget her.

When I say a real effort, I mean a real effort. Talk to her friends or common friends between both of you, find out where she lives, go to her school when you know she has class (look for her schedule on the internet to know the place and time), or something. And if/when you find her, force her to atleast give you answers.

Tell her how you feel, and ask why. If she is not willing to tell you why then use what I use ''After 1 and a half years of dating, so much trust between us, don't I deserve atleast an answer? A reason for this?'' Of course there's the possibility she is one of the ''never-talk-to-you-again-so-as-not-to-hurt-you'' type in case something bad really happen, like she starting to like someone else.
In that case (I suppose you want to know the truth even if it hurts) tell her that you prefer to know the truth, even if it hurts, because it is the truth that will make you heal faster.

OR

You could simply forget her. I know it's hard, I know. My advice is concentrate on the bad things she had, those things that really annoyed you. Were her politics close to yours? Did she always have a stupid reaction when you started fighting?
Make a list of all the things you disliked about her, and believe me, it helps. Every day you'll remember something else and when you realise, you'll have a huge list.
Another good advice is getting something to distract yourself like watching some movies, or better yet, focus on something that rewards in long term and requires work, like playing an instrument. Something that makes your time useful. This will bring you a sense of acomplishment.
Other than that, hang out with friends, talk about it until you're sick of talking about it.



Now, what would I do in that situation? If I were you, I'd make a real effort to know what's the problem. Even if it hurts, I prefer to know the truth than thinking ''why? It could have been great...''
There's the possibility she likes someone else, and in that case you decide if you want to fight for her (not literally of course) or you forget her.
But there's also the possibility she is being coerced by someone like her parents.
I had a girlfriend whose parents told her not to date me because I was a communist. You never know, and that's why it's better to know the truth.

After knowing why she did it, re-analyse the situation and proceed to the next action, or post it here and we'll help you. No need to be shy, we all go through this.

[Vendetta]

Dude...you're 15.

Go out and find somebody else.

[The Man]

Dude...you're 15.

Go out and find somebody else.

I just moved half-way acrossed the state, like 5 hours away where I used to be. Like a week ago. I don't know anyone here.:glare:

[A Revolutionary Tool]

Basically.. Everything was normal too, I have no idea why.
Maybe her mom or dad didn't want you seeing her anymore, I remember that used to happen to me when I was that age. "Sorry my parents said I can't date until I'm 17." But yeah dude just move on, especially if you live 5 hours away from her now. That never worked and there are plenty of other fish in the sea. You'll meet someone else and feel the same exact way about her as you did this girl, trust me.

[bcbm]

hmm you're too young for any of the things i would usually recommend. the best thing to do is just move on though, make some new friends, try to find somebody else to smooch you'll get past it.

[Vendetta]

I just moved half-way acrossed the state, like 5 hours away where I used to be. Like a week ago. I don't know anyone here.:glare:


Go out and find somebody else.

;)

[Lyev]

You are very young, and very young to have already been a "serious" relationship with another person for 1 and a half years. I am just a few years older than you, and have never been able to sustain a relationship--although at our age I think relationships are insignificant in the grand scheme of things--for more than ~4 months. There is much solace to be found in our youth seeing as relationships are "practice", if you like, for when we are old enough for dating to be serious. It's an awful cliche and perhaps not particularly comforting, especially if you are feeling down, but there are plenty more fish in the see. If you were 49 and still single and struggling to forget about an "old relationship" then this would be different. But, as I say, you are very young; try and forget about it, and focus on the future.
edit: I am talking like a wise old man here, but obviously I have the same lack of experience as OP

[Lenina Rosenweg]

This may not make you feel better now but the vast majority of people in Western societies don't stay with their first love. "You never forget your first love but you never stay with your first love" as the saying goes. I understand how it can hurt.Being a new kid in your school and not knowing anyone won't make it easier. As others have said you may either want to forget about her, force yourself to think about other things, or try to find out why she left you.As Luisrah said, you can try hard to find out what happened, what her reasons were (make sure you don't come off as a stalker, I'd be careful about visiting her school or talking to her friends without a good reason
, this can make her feel uncomfortable, I've done stuff like this myself!) After a year and a half she certainly owes you an explanation, although whether or not you'll get one is another matter.

Whatever happens, the pain will pass in time. You sound like a cool guy and you will meet someone.