Loneness

[Arlekino]

It make me down and sad. My area kind of working and upper class street. Well of course they say to me hello or how are you, but so what most of even I don't know them names. I am nostalgic in past times 20 years ago we used come to friends houses drinking coffee it was good socialising. I am sure I would not like to live life like that is depressing and is boring. Yes I do got good husband but I fed of individualism and is not doing for us favour lock ourselves at home. Is somebody feel same or just only me.

[JustMovement]

I think a lot of people feel this way, and the best thing we can do is join a political organisation which is a practical and does good, and is a way to meet new people.

If you dont feel like doing that you can (depending on how much you work) join in community activities provided that your council offers them. Things like volunteer gardens, or sometimes there are classes organised like drum circles or dance classes which are great ways to meet people.

[Arlekino]

Oh yes I do join political activities and meetings but I mean like simple friendship with people for coffee or just for chat. If you go to bar you will be still alone seems we losing communication.

[JustMovement]

I dont think there is a big culture of just sitting around chatting in england, and its more activity focused (always doing something). Yes there is the pub, but even that centers around drinking and is not always quiet. Where im from originally alot more people sit outside and just chat, or go for a stroll, but the weather here isnt great so its harder to do.

I dont know im 20 so maybe its different for people of different ages.

[Principia Ethica]

There is a whole demographic of people that are just DYING for someone to chat with. Old people. Ones in "old folks homes" or even ones living alone. A lot of them are up for chat ANY time. They have lost a lot of their friends and their families are too busy for them. Community activism will never leave you lonely. . .plus you meet like minded people who also are activist and activists need coffee too ;)

[Arlekino]

Well probably I could not explain myself well. The trouble I see is that enough just to say Hello, or How are you and person is walking away home alone and I am not accuse entire population, yes people are polite for example my neighbours are friendly. That so they don't know what I like, what is my hobbies or do I got problems. Maybe is target I should put on myself I should more communicate with people but make me afraid oh they would treat me as a strange.

[Principia Ethica]

My neighbors probably think I'm strange but I think they can be a little strange too. A little kindness does go a long way. . .maybe bake them some cookies and take them? Ask them how they are doing? It takes 2 to be mutually indifferent. . .break the cycle. . .maybe England/UK is different than the US but if I get chatty with my neighbors, they get chatty back. . . .and now I'm stuck going to Zumba classes with one of them :P

[Arlekino]

Sorry for double post
I grow up in Eastern Europe flats we used had good times, we used meeting ladies for drinks, socialising quite often parties, older used play chess. We used knock on the doors asking for salt,could we do now like that?

[JustMovement]

I think you can still do that! Most people are quite friendly, if you approach them with a smile they will be nice back to you.

[Principia Ethica]

If there are ladies in your neighborhood that you would like to know, start by maybe making some traditional treats from your area and go introduce yourself. "Hi, my name is ___________ and I'm your neighbor. I live over there. . .and I am originally from __________ and I'm a little bit homesick. We used to gather together to drink tea and such, here is some _________ I made. It's a traditional snack from my home. I hope you enjoy!"

I'm sure conversation will start there. . .and if they are nice, they will "retaliate" with something of their own. . .and that is the start of friendly relations. (It works for me since I was born and raised in Japan now living in America.)

[Arlekino]

I good advice I try and I promise I will tell you what happening in future.:)

[Principia Ethica]

I good advice I try and I promise I will tell you what happening in future.:)

Thanks! I'd love to know how it goes :)