Having to Ask for presmission

[Il Medico]

From your parents to do things once your over 18. I honestly don't get it. The people my age who allow their parents to treat them like 4 year olds or the parents who feel the need to parent their adult children.

To the 'kids': You're an adult, you don't need permission to do stuff. Stop asking and stop letting them tell you what to do.

To the parents: Your kid has been wasting space on this planet for 18+ years it time to cut the bloody umbilical cord and let them make their own decisions. Christ.

/annoyed rant

[ComradeGrant]

I would be offended at the wasting space comment, but as a 16 year old in the beginning of summer break it's all I do.

[Johnny Kerosene]

If you're still living with them, and not paying for rent/food/utilities, then it's probably best to offer them some modicum of respect, at least in regards to things done within the house, but for the most part I agree with you.

[Lobotomy]

I think with most parents who boss around their adult sons/daughters it's not "You MUST obey me" but "if you don't obey me then I will stop providing for you."

[Angry Young Man]

Have you just watched "myspace raped in the butt"?

P.S. Cumpelanos feliz, prettyboy

[Fulanito de Tal]

I don't get that shit either! I was out the door as soon as I graduated high school. I didn't care if I lived in a box.

[The Douche]

My girlfriend's mother calls here probably every other day. She hasn't lived with her mom in over three years, but she still calls to harass her about random shit, or try to give her things (things like furniture, we live in a one bedroom apartment, there is no room for furniture), sometimes she'll call to just talk shit to her, and tell her what she needs to do and how she's fucking things up. She used to be a philosophy major, but changed to culinary arts, and her mom was jumping down her throat constantly for a while asking "how are you gonna get a job now?"...as if philosophy grants better employment opportunites than culinary arts?

And I don't get it cause my girl will tolerate it, she'll sit there and let her mom yell at her and say mean things until she cries and will just say over and over "mom I don't want to talk about this". Why would you not hang up the phone? Why would you not say "stop being such a hurtful *****"? I don't understand why people take things like that...

[Angry Young Man]

Snatch the phone out her hand and tell her mum to stfu.

[Quail]

^ I agree with the above.


Sometimes my parents are a bit like that to me. It's really annoying because they treat me as though I need to be protected, while my twin brother can do whatever the fuck he wants.

I do usually have to ask if I want to go out if I stay with my parents because I need them to babysit, but that's different.

[Animal Farm Pig]

As long as you're still relying on the parents for something-- money, place to stay / rent, tuition payment for school, etc. they're going to want to tell you what to do.

When you gain the ability to support yourself economically, you gain the right to tell them to fuck off.

[praxis1966]

My problem has never been that my parents have tried to boss me around... My problem has been that I'm the oldest of four siblings so they always treated me like a third parent. Every time one of them did something stupid that deserved a whack, I got one too, accompanied by the line, "Why the fuck didn't you stop him/her?"

My mother still calls me from time to time trying to get me to talk sense to my younger siblings and I live over 2000 miles away. I'm like, "Hey, you signed on for this job, not me. You fucking deal with it."

[Kuppo Shakur]

Yeah I feel ya bro.
The other day my mom was like "Can you wash the dishes tonight please?", or some dumb shit and I was like "FUCK OFF YOU AINT THE BOSS A ME."
Shut her up.:cool:

[Lyev]

Yeah I feel ya bro.
The other day my mom was like "Can you wash the dishes tonight please?", or some dumb shit and I was like "FUCK OFF YOU AINT THE BOSS A ME."
Shut her up.:cool:So you're a big troll outside of Revleft as well, huh?

[Kuppo Shakur]

So you're a big troll outside of Revleft as well, huh?
YOU DON'T EVEN FUCKIN KNOW MAN.

Tell you a story:

All I listen to while I'm driving is Will Smith's album Big Willie Style. Blast that shit. All I gotta say.

[Martin Blank]

Wow, this thread reeks of teenage angst.

[Angry Young Man]

Wow, this thread reeks of teenage angst.

I know. There's so much Cowper's fluid it looks like I've wet myself.

[ZeroNowhere]

From your parents to do things once your over 18. I honestly don't get it. The people my age who allow their parents to treat them like 4 year olds or the parents who feel the need to parent their adult children.

To the 'kids': You're an adult, you don't need permission to do stuff. Stop asking and stop letting them tell you what to do.

To the parents: Your kid has been wasting space on this planet for 18+ years it time to cut the bloody umbilical cord and let them make their own decisions. Christ.

/annoyed rant
I'm not sure why you are so concerned about this matter. You seem rather concerned about other people's lifestyles, but, after all, "why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?" You can start with your spelling.

[The Douche]

Snatch the phone out her hand and tell her mum to stfu.

So that she becomes dependent on me to fight her battles? She needs to stand up for herself, doesn't do any good for a) her mom to hear it from me (cause then I'm just a bad/disrespectful person) b) me to speak for her (cause then she's not really breaking out of that cycle).


A few months ago she was asking her mom for a ride because her car had broke down, this caused her mom to launch into a rant about all kinds of unrelated shit, just to make her feel bad, and in the process she said "well chris could help you if he wasn't such a useless piece of shit" (needless to say her mom doesn't like me). I did snatch the phone in that event and I told her simply "Hi sally, if you have something to say to me, then you can say it to me. I know you like to treat people like they're children but I am an adult, and I don't appreciate you talking about me, and I don't appreciate they way you're handling this situation." 25 minutes later, she was at the house to help my girl with what she needed and apologizing to me.

[Imposter Marxist]

i hate it when my parents tell me to do things! its always like "clean your room, wash the dishes, take a shower-its been 5 days." They always piss me off!

[Kuppo Shakur]

Wow, this thread reeks of teenage angst.
Man, you don't know what's like these days. Parents are all like "Back in my day" and us tweens are like "Whatever you don't understaaaand me."
:mad::mad::mad:

[Il Medico]

I'm not sure why you are so concerned about this matter. You seem rather concerned about other people's lifestyles, It is a matter I am personally involved in with one of my close friends. She's an incredibly intelligent, hard working and responsible person. She does tons of stuff for her family, drive her grandma to all her doctors appointments, picks up groceries, and more stuff then I could mention in a reasonably sized list and she does it all quite willingly. Basically, she's damn close to what I imagine would be the prefect twenty year old from a parent's perspective. Yet, her parents still treat her like a thirteen year old incapable of making a rational decision. Her parents don't give her the respect she deserves and she doesn't respect herself enough to demand that respect. And as I said, being a good friend, I occasionally get drug into this bullshit microcosm of the early teens, hence my bloody concern.
but, after all, "why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?" You can start with your spelling. Ah, I see I misspelled permission in the title by transposing the r and e. I do that a lot actually, its due to the minor case of dyslexia I have. I remember back in 9th grade before I was diagnosed I did the most embarrassing transposition. We had this thing called a "Do Now" which was an assignment you did at the beginning of the class. Well, one day I wrote on the top of of the paper "Do Onw", my classmates saw this and got quite a laugh. Fortunately its fairly controllable if I spend lots of time carefully proof-reading and have others proof-read it as well. I do this with all my important writings, pieces of fiction, poems, papers, or basically anything remotely important. Sadly for you, revleft posts don't fall under that category so you'll have to live with any of my dyslexia spell check misses.