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KC
27th June 2011, 05:04
This girl I know just told me, in a completely nonchalant way, that the other night she got drunk and passed out and as her friend was driving her home with another guy the other guy had sex with her in the back seat.

She acted like it wasn't even that big of a deal. I'm seriously like blown away I don't even know how to react or what I'm supposed to do in a situation like this. I mean she was raped and her friend let it happen and she acts like it's no big deal, what the fuck? Do I call the cops? Do I stop talking to this girl? I'm baffled and freaked out hardcore.
KC
27th June 2011, 05:07
First time she ever met him. This was in the back of her friend's SUV. "Maybe he just needed to get one off, whatever." Her exact words...

I think at the very least I need to stop seeing this girl, she's obviously fucked up in the head.
DiaMat86
27th June 2011, 05:08
That's rape dude. You have a moral obligation to take action.
AnonymousOne
27th June 2011, 05:10
Be supportive. She could be in shock or trying to act cool about it. She might have also been wanting to determine how she reacted based on your reaction. Talk to her and ask her if she's alright, try to convince her to get a Rape Kit done and have the police called.

Although judging by time it's probably too late for the rape kit unless she hasn't changed clothes or showered the entire time.
KC
27th June 2011, 05:11
That's rape dude. You have a moral obligation to take action.

A few problems with that:
1. I don't know who it was.
2. I don't know who her friend, the witness, was.
3. She's obviously not going to tell me more.
4. Even if I knew all this shit every single person involved would deny it.
The Man
27th June 2011, 05:14
What a sick excuse of a 'human'. Rapists should be executed for this shit.
DiaMat86
27th June 2011, 05:20
A few problems with that:
1. I don't know who it was.
2. I don't know who her friend, the witness, was.
3. She's obviously not going to tell me more.
4. Even if I knew all this shit every single person involved would deny it.


I said "take action" not "go to the authorities", if you do that she will be humiliated.
the_red_pickle
27th June 2011, 05:21
This girl I know just told me, in a completely nonchalant way, that the other night she got drunk and passed out and as her friend was driving her home with another guy the other guy had sex with her in the back seat.

She acted like it wasn't even that big of a deal. I'm seriously like blown away I don't even know how to react or what I'm supposed to do in a situation like this. I mean she was raped and her friend let it happen and she acts like it's no big deal, what the fuck? Do I call the cops? Do I stop talking to this girl? I'm baffled and freaked out hardcore.

Unfortunately that is how some girls are. They don't even care about being raped. They get used for sex over and over again and they don't seem to care. It probably happened to her before. You should tell her what happened to her was definitely rape and that she should report to the police. She needs to get out of this lifestyle she's having, getting piss-ass drunk and hanging out with ppl like the friend who let a guy rape her while she was passed out.

It is her fault too, she shouldn't be getting drunk to the point of passing out. I used to know a girl like that, she would get sooo drunk and passes out and wakes up in a parked car somewhere with a guy putting hands on her thighs or unzipping her pants.
KC
27th June 2011, 05:22
I said "take action" not "go to the authorities", if you do that she will be humiliated.Then what does "take action" even fucking mean?


Unfortunately that is how some girls are. They don't even care about being raped. They get used for sex over and over again and they don't seem to care. It probably happened to her before. You should tell her what happened to her was definitely rape and that she should report to the police. She needs to get out of this lifestyle she's having, getting piss-ass drunk and hanging out with ppl like the friend who let a guy rape her while she was passed out.

It is her fault too, she shouldn't be getting drunk to the point of passing out. I used to know a girl like that, she would get sooo drunk and passes out and wakes up in a parked car somewhere with a guy putting hands on her thighs or unzipping her pants.

Yeah she said it happened once before (and of course played that time down as well). I think I'm just going to have to stop talking to her. But this situation is just crazy.
DiaMat86
27th June 2011, 05:24
Unfortunately that is how some girls are. They don't even care about being raped. They get used for sex over and over again and they don't seem to care. It probably happened to her before. You should tell her what happened to her was definitely rape and that she should report to the police. She needs to get out of this lifestyle she's having, getting piss-ass drunk and hanging out with ppl like the friend who let a guy rape her while she was passed out.

It is her fault too, she shouldn't be getting drunk to the point of passing out. I used to know a girl like that, she would get sooo drunk and passes out and wakes up in a parked car somewhere with a guy putting hands on her thighs or unzipping her pants.

This is real bad politics
#FF0000
27th June 2011, 05:26
It is her fault too

no

But yeah sometimes people just respond this way to these things. Honestly I don't even think there's much you can do except for just being there if she needs it.
Broletariat
27th June 2011, 05:26
It is her fault too, she shouldn't be getting drunk to the point of passing out. I used to know a girl like that, she would get sooo drunk and passes out and wakes up in a parked car somewhere with a guy putting hands on her thighs or unzipping her pants.


Blaming the victim?

Ban incoming in 3.... 2....
The Man
27th June 2011, 05:28
Blaming the victim?

Ban incoming in 3.... 2....

1...

Psycho: BANNED FOR RAPE APOLOGISM.
AnonymousOne
27th June 2011, 05:30
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It is her fault too, she shouldn't be getting drunk to the point of passing out. I used to know a girl like that, she would get sooo drunk and passes out and wakes up in a parked car somewhere with a guy putting hands on her thighs or unzipping her pants.

No. No. No. No. No.

It is not her fault that she got raped. Just like it's not someone's fault that someone robs them, or that someone punctures their tires, or steals their bike.

Could she have made better decisions, yes. There are better ways to make sure that you're more secure at a party and safety steps that can be taken, but that does not mean that it is her fault. If I don't lock up my bike it's not my fault someone steals it even though I should have locked it up.
DiaMat86
27th June 2011, 05:32
"Then what does "take action" even fucking mean?"

Do something to bring about a justice your conscience can bear.
KC
27th June 2011, 05:33
But yeah sometimes people just respond this way to these things. Honestly I don't even think there's much you can do except for just being there if she needs it.

I don't think I'm going to be there at all anymore. If she doesn't care about this then obviously that means she has no self respect and I can't be with anyone that doesn't respect themselves.
9
27th June 2011, 05:33
Why would you ask a question like this on revleft of all places?
xub3rn00dlex
27th June 2011, 05:36
I don't think I'm going to be there at all anymore. If she doesn't care about this then obviously that means she has no self respect and I can't be with anyone that doesn't respect themselves.

Maybe it's not that she doesn't care? Maybe she is afraid of the humility involved? How close are you with this girl? There could be a reason she's turning to you with this information, and downplaying the situation as a method of coping. I've used this method to cope with several things, and it helps to relieve some overbearing tension situations may bring. If you abandon her now instead of trying to help her out, be there for her, and maybe convince her of changing, then what hope does she have at all?
the_red_pickle
27th June 2011, 05:38
I'm not talking politics here DiaMat86. I've known girls like that and I have told them not to put themselves in situations like that because I've been worried about them and yet they still went out and put themselves in situations like that again, only difference was that they would try to play it down the next time. If someone kept telling you she loves getting drunk and that she's been in 2-3 situations waking up with a guy driving her home about to rape her , what are you supposed to think? Considering all facts, that she's not stupid and was an adult capable of thinking for herself yet was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, I came to the conclusion that it's her fault as well for ending up in that situation. NOT FOR THE RAPE.

I was not putting the blame for rape on her. I blame her for passing out from drinking. It is irresponsible imo to get that drunk.
KC
27th June 2011, 05:45
How close are you with this girl?

Met her probably a month or two ago, been seeing her (not exclusively) since then. So not that close.


There could be a reason she's turning to you with this information, and downplaying the situation as a method of coping.

Could be but I don't see that happening here, based on her personality and how well we know each other.


If you abandon her now instead of trying to help her out, be there for her, and maybe convince her of changing, then what hope does she have at all?

I can't help her if she doesn't help herself.
the_red_pickle
27th June 2011, 05:50
Tell her you can't be with someone who can't see rape for rape. Say it is bad politics.......ha.
#FF0000
27th June 2011, 05:56
I don't think I'm going to be there at all anymore. If she doesn't care about this then obviously that means she has no self respect and I can't be with anyone that doesn't respect themselves.

Understandable. I've known a lot of people like this and it's kind of tragic. They resign themselves to accepting horrible things happening to them as something inevitable or something they deserve and just end up being really nonchalant about it.

But maybe that's not what's going on here.

Either way there is really not much you can do and I don't think anyone can really expect you to given the fact that you've only known her for like a month or whatever and the fact that she's not seeking your help in the first place.
#FF0000
27th June 2011, 05:56
the_red_pickle I'd just stop while you're a head because you are horrendous at communicating and you are digging yourself a hole.

EDIT: lol too late.
Le Libérer
27th June 2011, 05:57
Tell her you can't be with someone who can't see rape for rape. Say it is bad politics.......ha.

Banned this fool for rape apologizing.

KC I dont think this thread is appropriate. If you are having a hard time with this issue, you should discuss it with professionals, not post it here.

Thread closed.