age gaps

[Manic Impressive]

This is not the usual thread about getting rid of age of consent or that bullshit in fact it's the opposite.

So school finished today I think and the pubs were full of very attractive young women who were out celebrating finishing secondary school. I'm pretty sure they were 6th formers (18) as I saw them get ID'd. But I feel weird like they're too young. But when I was their age I was with women twice my age am I just being reactionary in some way should I not care if these women are younger?
I'm 27 now and one girl a few years ago still plays on my mind. I was working in a shop and she used to come in and buy booze and fags, we got on really well we made each other laugh and there was obviously mutual chemistry there. After I'd left I saw her out on the town and she told me she had been lying about her age and that she had only just turned 18, I had thought she was about 25 and she thought I was about 21. So I felt she was way too young and didn't pursue it at all but now think I was kind of stupid.

So am I an idiot? and How much in terms of age is too much?

[Spawn of Stalin]

So you were what like 24, 25 when you worked in this joint? Man honestly, I'm 24 right now and if I wasn't in a long term relationship and a foxy 18 year old caught my eye and I liked her personality then I would definitely have no problem gettin jiggy wit it. U know?

I think probably the oldest I could be and be with an 18 year old is like 28, 10 years, u know? That being said, she'd have to be REAL mature for her age.

But I guess it depends from person to person, I'm pretty conservative when it comes to relationships and sex. U know?

[Johnny Kerosene]

One of my uncles was 19 and he married a 38 year old. That was in like '76 and they're still married. Age don't mean shit. So long as they aren't like a child, because that's not cool.

[Manic Impressive]

Thanks guys I was a bit drunk when I wrote that sobered up now though. Seems like I've just been being a hypocritical douche seeing as I had no problems dating women much older than myself. I think part of the trouble I was having with the girls who were out last night was that they were all in "naughty school girl" uniforms which accentuated the age gap and was personally a bit of a turn off.

[Niccolò Rossi]

Half your age plus seven.

But seriously, what's the question here? Are we talking about a fuck or a relationship. I can't see the appeal of having a relationship with a woman so much younger.

Nic.

[Admiral Swagmeister G-Funk]

when it comes to sex, i don't care much for age gaps as long as everyone's old enough and as long as we're on the same wavelength. when it comes to relationships, i don't do those anymore.

[The Douche]

The idea of dating 18 year olds weirds me out. I'm 23, I went on a date with one when I was 22 (or 21 maybe?) and I felt like I was doing something wrong. I also think its strange when friends my age date girls who are 18 or 19.

However, I don't have a reason for this. Not really helpful, but at least you're not alone in feeling that way.

[Comrade J]

Age is just a number (within reason), it's about how mature the other person is, how well you connect and stuff like that.

[Rooster]

Age differences in relationships tend to be a cultural thing. In Europe, much wider age gaps are more normal. In Anglo and American cultures it's not as accepted. To be honest, if you like the person and have common interests then you should go for it. But, as you get older, finding common interests is much harder the greater the age gap. You might not know any of the bands they like or TV shows they watch but that's not really a problem unless you're really just talking to an immature teenager. I'm lucky that my wife and I share a bunch of intellectual interests. But you really won't know with a teenager who hasn't formed a great deal of their personality yet.

As an aside, Pablo Picasso was with an 18 year old when he was in his late 60s/early 70s I believe.

[Dr Mindbender]

This is not the usual thread about getting rid of age of consent or that bullshit in fact it's the opposite.

So school finished today I think and the pubs were full of very attractive young women who were out celebrating finishing secondary school. I'm pretty sure they were 6th formers (18) as I saw them get ID'd. But I feel weird like they're too young. But when I was their age I was with women twice my age am I just being reactionary in some way should I not care if these women are younger?
I'm 27 now and one girl a few years ago still plays on my mind. I was working in a shop and she used to come in and buy booze and fags, we got on really well we made each other laugh and there was obviously mutual chemistry there. After I'd left I saw her out on the town and she told me she had been lying about her age and that she had only just turned 18, I had thought she was about 25 and she thought I was about 21. So I felt she was way too young and didn't pursue it at all but now think I was kind of stupid.

So am I an idiot? and How much in terms of age is too much?

I won't name names of course, but i was once friendly with a woman who was probably at the time, around or nearly 20 years my senior. At the time I really had the hots for her and I was getting signals that it was mutual but my long term planning kept getting in the way of my heart. Things like ''but what if i'm left a young widower or what if her age affects her our parenting options''? I can tell you in hindsight, some days I wish i listened to my heart. If theres someone you feel for tell them otherwise you'll be cursing the rest of your life thinking 'what if'. If you get rejected at least you'll know.



As an aside, Pablo Picasso was with an 18 year old when he was in his late 60s/early 70s I believe.

I think when the roles are reversed, society tends to frown upon it much more than when the man is the senior party. Thats one of the factors that prevented me from making a move in my example above ^.

[a rebel]

I don't have a thing for older women, but older women seem to have a thing for me. Which I guess makes sense because most girls my age all seem to be rather ignorant and superficial.

[Ele'ill]

I've had partners who were four years younger and some who were five years older.

[Dr Mindbender]

I don't have a thing for older women, but older women seem to have a thing for me. Which I guess makes sense because most girls my age all seem to be rather ignorant and superficial.

Are you complaining?

[praxis1966]

Are you complaining?

Yeah, no shit, dude. Older women are the best. I've found, especially when I was in my late teens and early 20s, that I get along with them far better than women my own age. I guess I was one of those rare cases where not only was I the exception to the "girls mature faster than boys" idiom, but I at least felt like I matured faster than then them (or the ones I knew anyway). It wasn't until I was in my late 20s I actually found myself beginning to be attracted to women my own age.

At any rate, as others have said, it's really all about where the two of you are intellectually and emotionally. For me, intellect has always been a bigger turn on than anything else... and I'm not saying that because it's what women want to hear, I say it because it's true. My experience has been that most people whether male or female don't stop acting a fool until they're post-college age. On the other hand, if you think you've found that rare flower in the field of weeds so to speak, ask her out. Just make sure you actually like her first and it ain't just your hormones talking.