Interracial relationships

[Game Girl]

If this is in the wrong section, I hope someone can move it.

I wanted to bring this up, mainly because I'm in love with a man, who happens to be African American. He's the sweetest guy I've ever met and we've been close friends for a long time. We have ALOT in commen and we're both into the same things. Only difference (besides race) is that he has Christian beliefs and I have Pagan beliefs. I love this man with all my heart and I truly believe he's the one for me.

But, the main problem I have is with racist scumbags. I know what they think of such relationships. Plus I've heard of some neo-nazis targeting interracial couples and threatning them with violence. I've even heard of the horrible lies they make up. Like how blacks only date whites for their money. Or how a black man will eventually beat up his white girlfriend.

Of course I don't believe any of it. But, you can understand why I'm concerned about attacks against interracial couples. What advice can you offer?

[Le Libérer]

I have had several relationships with men of color, in fact my first marriage produceed bi-racial children. If your love is mutual, then you should not worry about what others think. Its going to be more social stigma for you and your children, if you decide to have them, but I really could care less about all that.

The last man I dated was also very religious, where as I am not a believer.It wasnt the differences in faith that kept us from connecting completely, but the influence of his family who are very traditional in their faith and dont believe races should mix. It as a heartbreaker for me, that he didnt put me first and stand up to them.

So if you dont have a similiar issue you are dealing with, then follow your heart. I have found backing away from love out of fear or a sense of tradition will leave you with a life time of "what if", and trust me, that can be more painful than living by your own convictions and following your heart.

[Magón]

I think depending on what the interracial couples race is to begin with, can bring a lot of stigma and turned heads. For example each time I or a friend of mine (Black or Brown) dates a woman who's white, people sometimes turn their heads depending on where we are, giving a look of, "Poor girl, she must be in hell," or some racist look that they obviously don't approve of the relationship. But really, as long as neither of you are really that sensitive about the issue, the looks will just slide right off, and so will the whispers and such.

I dated a black woman once, and all her black friends gave me a look like, "Why's she dating that Mexican guy," but really I didn't care because we were happy and having fun. Same goes for every other woman I've dated in the past. (As far as I know anyway.)

Really, if you're worried about someone coming out while you're both out together in public, and saying something. Either you or your boyfriend/interest, can just say something about it because it always, guarantee it, always, throws the racist off and they'll usually back away. If not, you might want something like pepper spray, or something else if they try to get even more into it than you obviously want.

[Ocean Seal]

If this is in the wrong section, I hope someone can move it.

I wanted to bring this up, mainly because I'm in love with a man, who happens to be African American. He's the sweetest guy I've ever met and we've been close friends for a long time. We have ALOT in commen and we're both into the same things. Only difference (besides race) is that he has Christian beliefs and I have Pagan beliefs. I love this man with all my heart and I truly believe he's the one for me.

But, the main problem I have is with racist scumbags. I know what they think of such relationships. Plus I've heard of some neo-nazis targeting interracial couples and threatning them with violence. I've even heard of the horrible lies they make up. Like how blacks only date whites for their money. Or how a black man will eventually beat up his white girlfriend.

Of course I don't believe any of it. But, you can understand why I'm concerned about attacks against interracial couples. What advice can you offer?
My advice is that you don't let bigots interfere with your love. There will always be bigots and there will always be danger out there, but what you must do is not let this get to you. If they inspire enough fear that you are afraid to live your life then they have won.


That being said, if you are truly concerned about racist attacks in your area, then I would advise you to be mindful of areas that you cross into when you are with your boyfriend, and be mindful of the people in where you are.

If you see Nazis congregating and whispering things to one another while looking at you, you should take this as a sign to leave before getting hurt.

Also if a place has a reputation for harboring Nazi's make sure you avoid that place.

Love whoever it is you want to love. These racists want to take what is most dear to us. Our freedom, our justice, and our love for one another and replace that with fear, and hatred. By maintaining your resolve against these Nazi scumbags you have struck a defeat for fascism.

[Game Girl]

Thank you all for your advice.

Some people think that because I'm a white woman in love with a black man, there must be something wrong with me. But when I look at him, I don't see "a black man". I see another human being, one that I have so much in common with. He's already protective of me and he's always there to cheer me up whenever I feel down. He's mentioned he dosen't care that our races and religions are different.

[Bad Grrrl Agro]

Ignore the shit racist people say about interracial relationships. I am a product of interracial relationships. Any relationship I have is going to be interracial no matter who I'm with. I say from personal experience interracial relationships are great.