Self Betterment Exercise

[Il Medico]

This was inspired by my best friend when we were talking the other day. Basically, take the place of a person you are asking out and say why you would reject yourself and work to fix those problems.

For me it is my body. A rather shallow reason perhaps, but I'm rather terribly out of shape and over weight right now, I would even say grotesquely so. Its not that I'm particularly ugly or anything, in fact most people i know compliment my features. (pretty eyes, great lips, good facial hair {I do light beards and mustaches well}, great hair {not that anyone has to tell me that, i play with it enough} etc) But my weight is defiantly a set back. But it is something that I'm working on and can change though.

So guys, what are your fixable flaws?

[Quail]

I'm disgustingly fat and should lose some weight. I should be under 7 stone like a normal person. I should also stop being such a whiny idiot.

[Il Medico]

I'm disgustingly fat and should lose some weight. I should be under 7 stone like a normal person. I should also stop being such a whiny idiot.
Uh...not to be an ass, but normal people weigh under 98 lbs?:blink:

Also, not to sound creepy either, but I remembered you not being fat when i added you to my political facebook, so i went and checked and you are not fat at all really.

[Quail]

Also, not to sound creepy either, but I remembered you not being fat when i added you to my political facebook, so i went and checked and you are not fat at all really.
Eh, but I gained half a stone... :(

[Il Medico]

Eh, but I gained half a stone... :(
I honestly don't know how to respond to this with out sounding like a huge ass.:unsure:


But that really isn't that much. I probably weight two of you plus some. I wasn't exaggerating when i said I was horribly over weight. Losing half a stone probably wouldn't even drop me a pant size. Don't beat yourself up over something so little. You look fine, good even I daresay.

[Ele'ill]

My teeth are fucked up. Really bad but I can't really afford to get them fixed. They're straight and I have a fantastic smile however I think I'm going to have to have most of them pulled. I can't really afford implants and that freaks me out anyways so I'd likely just get dentures- but I'd get dentures custom made to have the first three teeth on the left side of my upper teeth area missing to maintain my rugged fantasticness. Perhaps I'm overreacting- I just can't even afford to go in and have my mouth looked at.

The solution? Who cares? I've lived to 30 with them in and if I have to have a few removed so be it- another chapter in my life and the important thing is that I got it taken care of. Waiting on the issue (when I can eventually afford it) will make things worse- avoidance has no potential in this situation to make anything better at all.

[Niccolò Rossi]

I think alot of people regard me as a kind of bland personality. I'm not exaulting it, but I don't see it as something I see a need to 'fix'.

Nic.

[ed miliband]

I'm shy but in a very strange way; many of my friends would probably laugh at the idea of me being shy, but in certain situations it just washes over me and I freeze up. The worst thing is that I don't think it even seems like shyness but serious arrogance on my part, as if I am making it perfectly clear to people that I have no interest in them and wish they would fuck off.

Dunno how to improve this, mainly because I can't pinpoint what it is exactly that triggers this shyness.

[Chambered Word]

I should be more talkative and take a slightly more active interest in others. Swearing less isn't a bad idea either. Also, I need to be more decisive and less insecure about being creepy. I actually don't think people find me that weird at all, but I sometimes get that idea from somewhere and it affects my actions.

[¿Que?]

Meh, I'm fucking bonkers.

[Ele'ill]

Meh, I'm fucking bonkers.

I'm heading to crazy time right now- I'm on that steady up that usually lasts a month or two but comes to an abrupt end where I'll be somewhere doing something and just stop and realize that nothing I've done the past month or two makes any sense at all.

[Raúl Duke]

Basically, take the place of a person you are asking out and say why you would reject yourself and work to fix those problems.

Somewhat out of shape...and that's about it.

Sometimes I wish I was more confident, a much more better conversationalist (although I already am, but it takes time to get a mutually interesting convo started), and a little bit of other things but usually I'm not very much concern with my personality.

[Delirium]

I'm out of shape can't run more than a mile, have almost no upper body muscle, and im hella awkward.

The first two i can work on, but i dont really know how to relate to people more. Most of the time i dont have anything to contribute to others conversations. I guess im just weird.

[Tablo]

I need to lose weight, learn to not talk about my politics ever, get my body hair under control(not a big deal, but most girls seem to like little or no body hair), get a haircut, update my wardrobe, and perhaps get a little cosmetic surgery(some of you guys are gonna hate on me for this).

[Niccolò Rossi]

Also, I need to be more decisive and less insecure about being creepy. I actually don't think people find me that weird at all, but I sometimes get that idea from somewhere and it affects my actions.

I can actually really relate to this. I'm insecure about being seen as a creep or a perve or desperate or whatever. The fear is probably really irrational but it's something I despise in other people and it's reflected in avoiding it like the plague in myself.

Nic.

[Kuppo Shakur]

My teeth, my fucking teeth.

Other than that, I'm flawless.:D

[Vladimir Innit Lenin]

Could probably lose a few stone, which i'm on the way to doing. Am 5"10, and about 14st 10lbs, should be closer to 11.5-12stone, with my build

Other than that, I try not to worry about what other people might think of me, I just try to enjoy my time here, and fuck the haters.

[Magón]

I'm so out of the loop, I never knew the UK used stone as a measurement. :crying:

[CynicalIdealist]

All the stuff said about being shy, a loner and a creep... yeah. Sometimes I think I'm some kind of abomination, which is funny because I'm probably rather good looking. I just don't really show--and often don't have--a whole lot of interest in people.

Part of it might be the fact that I go to this bourgeois pretentious liberal arts college, so I don't feel like I can relate to anyone. Maybe it's just me though.

[Os Cangaceiros]

learn to not talk about my politics ever

One problem I've never had.

[Niccolò Rossi]

I actually have a problem with how the question has been posed in this thread. In the OP the doc asked us to figure out what potential sexual/romantic partners find unappealing about ourselves. The question I woudl raise is whether this is really a means of 'self-betterment' at all.

'Betterment' certainly in the eys of said potential partner, but not necessarily a betterment of ourselves, for ourselves. And this I think is essential. I mean, if you can feel happy letting other people define who you should be, then fine, go for it. I'm not that kind of person though...

Nic.

[#FF0000]

I am a bro of size as well. I've been working on it.

I've never eaten so much salad and so little ice cream in my life as I have in these past few weeks.

I also want to be "more social" since I feel like I've run with the same group of friends for a long, long time now. I'm not looking to make more friends or anything but I want to strike up conversations with people I don't know.

I've made some progress on that too. Ended up chatting with some folks on the financial aid line at my university. Gotten pretty good with the small talk thing.

But what I really want to do is get back on doing creative things. I haven't written in ages or practiced any instrument. I've got a drumset and a guitar which I just fixed. I'll set aside some time for that from now on.

EDIT: It's pretty funny how many people are worried that people think they're a creeper or feel like they're bothering or intruding on someone when they talk. I had that feeling for a long and believe me you're probably fine. If you think you're a creeper, you're probably nowhere close.

[Il Medico]

I actually have a problem with how the question has been posed in this thread. In the OP the doc asked us to figure out what potential sexual/romantic partners find unappealing about ourselves. The question I woudl raise is whether this is really a means of 'self-betterment' at all.

'Betterment' certainly in the eys of said potential partner, but not necessarily a betterment of ourselves, for ourselves. And this I think is essential. I mean, if you can feel happy letting other people define who you should be, then fine, go for it. I'm not that kind of person though...

Nic.
Not really what i meant. the point was to look at yourself and say why you would reject you (aka what you think is your major flaws) and fix them.

[Niccolò Rossi]

Not really what i meant. the point was to look at yourself and say why you would reject you (aka what you think is your major flaws) and fix them.

Ah, ok, that clarifies things I guess.

Nic.

[Amphictyonis]

Self betterment exercise:


Pour 3 Xanax into hand. Eat Xanax and wash it down with a few gulps of Vodka. The world is a better place and you are happy

Just kidding but not really.

-DIETlxquzY

[Os Cangaceiros]

I've heard that alcohol + Xanax = no bueno

[Aeval]

I'm disgustingly fat and should lose some weight. I should be under 7 stone like a normal person. I should also stop being such a whiny idiot.

Aww, this makes me sad, you know you're nearly 3 stone lighter than me and I'm not exactly fat :(

In response to the OP, this is tricky - I don't like the fact that I randomly get massively giddy, or talk utter nonsense, or start being well harsh to people (in a jokey way, though sometimes people take it personally...), but that said, those are all the things that my partner likes about me. So I wouldn't want to go out with me if I were like I am, but other people who I like do so it doesn't really matter - if that makes sense?

[Niccolò Rossi]

I'd fuck me.

Nic.

[danyboy27]

this is all verry depressing to read

[A Revolutionary Tool]

I need to add a little more muscle to my body. I'm not too scrawny and skinny that I'm weak or disgusting looking but I could use a nice looking six pack like I used to have. I need to figure out what to do with my hair but I don't want to spend money on it. I'm not good at starting conversations but once it gets started I'm alright. But it's so awkward when you're around someone who also doesn't know how to start a conversation. I need some more clothes, I don't really care if someone dresses me up so that I can look cool or whatever because I honestly don't give a damn about what type of clothes I wear(Most of the time, I try not to walk around like a billboard though) but I guess people actually care about "style".

That's probably my biggest downfall, absolutely no style at all, I don't even know how someone would try and classify me if they looked at my wardrobe. I also don't listen to like any mainstream music because I hate most of it but apparently I'm supposed to know these stupid songs and connect with people through them. The only time Lil Wayne sounds good is when I'm drunk and high at a party bobbing my head up and down with the beat.

[Amphictyonis]

I've heard that alcohol + Xanax = no bueno
On both right now. I'm still alive. I'm in my 30's though and would never recommend it to anyone who hasn't been around the block a few times. Both are depressants and can in fact kill ya if combined.

[Tablo]

I've heard that alcohol + Xanax = no bueno
Used to do that sometimes. Always blacked out and woke up feeling like shit.

[¿Que?]

xanax is good with other things...

[Ele'ill]

I've heard that alcohol + Xanax = no bueno

My mother abused both together with sleeping pills.

[Amphictyonis]

xanax is good with other things...

It goes good with anxiety for some reason.

[Os Cangaceiros]

On both right now. I'm still alive. I'm in my 30's though and would never recommend it to anyone who hasn't been around the block a few times. Both are depressants and can in fact kill ya if combined.

I've snorted coke before and I'm still alive, that don't mean it's good for ya though lol