The itch

[kalu]

I want to discuss "the itch," meaning the way certain people or personality types can rub you the wrong way. What is it, why does it have its effect? Do you think there are facts of personal history that influence your sympathies/antipathies?

What prompted this topic is a moment of self-reflection, because I find I sometimes itch myself. Meaning, I was called out by another forum member for writing in an affected way, and it struck a chord because I saw myself doing it. Writing my posts didn't feel right (sorry if this is intermxing life and internets too much, I'm not talking drama though). Perhaps, in my personal example, I was writing in a more pretentious way because I felt under attack, but that answer doesn't seem fully satisfactory. Of course, verbiage is often a sign of defensiveness.:blushing:

Anyways, yall ever feel that itch about yourself or other people, and if so how do you deal or think about it? Does your visceral instinct best tell you who you'll get along with in life? This is really a subterranean feeling I'm trying to articulate, but I think it's at the center of a lot of things and ways things can go "bad," in everyday relationships for example. Maybe tied to the "hunch" or "gut instinct."

[Broletariat]

People who are over dramatic, attention seeking, or otherwise talk without saying anything really really piss me off for some reason.

[Ele'ill]

There are people who I really didn't like but became best friends with and those who I thought were friends but now cannot stand to be around.

There are people who I've met and just knew that I'd get along great with. I think it has to do a lot with body language and facial expressions as well as tone of voice and phrasing and stuff like that.

[Political_Chucky]

There are people who I really didn't like but became best friends with and those who I thought were friends but now cannot stand to be around.

There are people who I've met and just knew that I'd get along great with. I think it has to do a lot with body language and facial expressions as well as tone of voice and phrasing and stuff like that.

Mmmmm I would say it also deals with how you converse. #1 rule is to always ask questions, do not talk about yourself in excess.

[Magón]

People who try and make me follow their way of thinking on something, or say that this or that can only be this way, just because they and some other fuckers say it is, annoy the shit out of me.

[Quail]

This is probably going to sound ridiculous, but sometimes people have phrases that they use too often, kind of like "catchphrases," and for some reason it annoys the hell out of me. One of my ex-boyfriends kept using the phrase, "Awww, the dream's over..." and every time I heard it, I died a little bit inside.

I generally get on with most people, but I find that people who are very loud can grate on me a little because I'm fairly quiet.

[#FF0000]

This is probably going to sound ridiculous, but sometimes people have phrases that they use too often, kind of like "catchphrases," and for some reason it annoys the hell out of me. One of my ex-boyfriends kept using the phrase, "Awww, the dream's over..." and every time I heard it, I died a little bit inside.

In what context would a person even use that phrase

[Quail]

It was used when something bad had happened. I can't think of any examples right now, but he used to say it all the goddamn time.

[Political_Chucky]

It was used when something bad had happened. I can't think of any examples right now, but he used to say it all the goddamn time.

Lol I feel kinda guilty. I will say "nah" almost every other sentence when I want to annoy somebody and stop the conversation

Example: John: Hey you wanna go to the movies?
Me: NAH
John: Hey dude, I really like your shoes.
Me: NAH
John:Seriously, man that shits pissing me off. Stop saying that.
Me: NAH

[Quail]

That isn't quite the same though. That's kind of like me going "What?" "What?" "What?" etc because I can't hear someone, which is probably grating, but not a "catchphrase."

[Bright Banana Beard]

Kayl, why not learn English sign language? I know how to sign American sign language, but ASL are originally from French sign language and not from esl. So there are huge different btwn ASL and ESL.

[Os Cangaceiros]

Some people's voices really piss me off. I mean, they didn't do anything wrong, their voice isn't their fault or anything, but...

[Quail]

Kayl, why not learn English sign language? I know how to sign American sign language, but ASL are originally from French sign language and not from esl. So there are huge different btwn ASL and ESL.
I'm not deaf. I just never seem to catch what people are saying. :blushing:

[Ele'ill]

Kayl, why not learn English sign language? I know how to sign American sign language, but ASL are originally from French sign language and not from esl. So there are huge different btwn ASL and ESL.

Do you by any chance teach? I'd be interested in some resources to learn.

[Bright Banana Beard]

I can teach, but the best way is to Google "{your city} deaf meetup"

also there are great resource on the internet.

[Political_Chucky]

That isn't quite the same though. That's kind of like me going "What?" "What?" "What?" etc because I can't hear someone, which is probably grating, but not a "catchphrase."

haha yeah well in the context of what I said it, its not. But me and my friend started saying it after he said I was too negative(which was completely opposite, as he was the one all depressed) it ended up being used over and over and over in the circle of friends we have til people made me make my new years resolution to not say "nah" anymore lol. Good times.:D

[Il Medico]

Petty people are annoying to me.

Also, people who talk way to much about themselves annoy me as well.

I find people who don't have confidence in/don't like themselves sad, but not annoying. I usually am inclined to attempt to help them in some way, usually just a pep talk or something. Though lately I've found myself do this(the doubting one's 'worthiness') , which does indeed annoy me.

[Omi]

People who always talk as if they have a lot of life experience and try to teach me. If they also make remarks about my opinions as if they are something childish and I will grow out of it as if I'm a little kid, I will possibly hurl insults. I don't care what you think about my opinions and I most likely will hate yours too, don't think that just because you think you are right your in some kind of position to patronise me. Fuck 'em. Happened to me last week in a bar, got into a row with some dude who pulled that shit on me.

[Ravachol]

People who always talk as if they have a lot of life experience and try to teach me. If they also make remarks about my opinions as if they are something childish and I will grow out of it as if I'm a little kid, I will possibly hurl insults. I don't care what you think about my opinions and I most likely will hate yours too, don't think that just because you think you are right your in some kind of position to patronise me. Fuck 'em. Happened to me last week in a bar, got into a row with some dude who pulled that shit on me.

The way to counter this is to get really verbose and post-modernist on their ass. Nothing takes the life out of a conversation like some Braudillard or Guattari, it's a real conversation killer!

[9]

One of my ex-boyfriends kept using the phrase, "Awww, the dream's over..." and every time I heard it, I died a little bit inside

ew, I can see exactly why that would be annoying. If it were me, I'd probably end up having to say something to him about it; maybe give him an ultimatum :lol:
wasn't there an episode of seinfeld like this?

[Political_Chucky]

ew, I can see exactly why that would be annoying. If it were me, I'd probably end up having to say something to him about it; maybe give him an ultimatum :lol:
wasn't there an episode of seinfeld like this?

lol yep!
5aKniUjce4s

[bcbm]

i thought this thread was going to be about something else

[9]

lol yep!
5aKniUjce4s

weirdly that's not even the one I had in mind (I hated that one, btw). I was thinking of one of the ones with Elaine and Puddy - I think it was either the face-painting or the 8-ball-jacket. or the high-fiving? Idk, maybe there were a lot of episodes with similar scenarios.


i thought this thread was going to be about something else

I thought the same thing originally. fortunately its not.