Socially awkward aspects of yourself

[gorillafuck]

Go!

I was once told "You're really bad at eye contact" when talking to someone.

[NoOneIsIllegal]

I won't look you in the eye when we make love. Only dat ass.

[Quail]

I never look people in the eye when I don't know them. I have no idea why. I just can't do it. I often drink to make myself feel less awkward.

[John "Eh" MacDonald]

I never look people in the eye when I don't know them. I have no idea why. I just can't do it. I often drink to make myself feel less awkward.

This.

I also scratch my arms and rub my hands a lot. I've been known to studder and tell lame jokes when I'm nervous, that is when I'm not keeping keeping my mouth shut and giving to one word response to questions.

[Aloysius]

I talk a lot... but only when I'm with people I'm comfortable with. Otherwise I just shut up.

[ÑóẊîöʼn]

I'm an aspie (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome) with all that that implies.

In particular, I very rapidly get bored of subjects that do not interest me.

[black magick hustla]

im an enfant terrible

[Magón]

I have a hard time feeling bad for someone I don't know more personally, and often say the wrong thing, which wouldn't be the wrong thing if I said it to someone more personally known. So if you meet me, don't tell me your problems or speak a problem around me. You won't get a sense of sympathy from me if you do.

[The Intransigent Faction]

I'm an aspie.

This, and if there's something making me anxious (OCD, i.e. something's at the 'wrong' angle on a desk) I have a lot of trouble focusing on a conversation.

I sometimes have trouble speaking articulately and tend to either ramble or hesitate.

I'm not so bad around some friends (some of which are Social Democrats), but I have a Randroid friend and a few who are just apathetic and crack anti-Communist jokes. It's tough to be around them, occasionally. I don't expect to convince anyone, but being able to coherently defend being a Communist would be nice (my nervousness gets attributed to a lack of ability to defend my ideas).

[Il Medico]

I don't really have any problems with social 'awkwardness'. I'm a rather friendly chap. The two 'exceptions', however, are when I'm around people whom I've never met, yet nonetheless want to give them a good impression (restrained might be a better term for it though.) or when you can tell that someone has been hurt, but are unsure whether or not they want to talk about it or not. So it is a difficult position, talk to them about it and be supportive, or leave it alone. They might negatively react to both so...awkward. (but that is more the situation than anything on my part.)

[Redswiss]

Does being a communist not make you socially awkward in quite a few situations :P?

[Leonid Brozhnev]

When people I don't know ask me a question, i'll almost immediately turn to my girlfriend if she's there and ask her the same question, even if I know the answer. She's pulled me up on it a few times 'I told you 5 seconds ago I wanted a Cider! Why do you need to ask again?!'... must be a defence mechanism or something.

[Jack]

I have more haters than anyone you'll ever meet. I'm an asshole, but I do it in a loving way, *****es don't understand...

[Invincible Summer]

If I feel I "click" with someone I've just met/know only casually, then I tend to talk a lot. I'm very open if I feel comfortable with you, which some people find weird/awkward.

If I don't particularly like you/just don't have any chemistry, then I won't say much and seem like I'm really bored and uninterested in you. I'm a douchebag that way.

[Widerstand]

I honestly don't even know where to start.

[NecroCommie]

I am veeery calm and reserved when alone or with few good friends, but immediately when someone relatively unfamiliar person enters the group, or the group is very big, I develop this insane temporary ADHD. This goes to the degree that people who have known me for less than 3 years always describe me as loud (which everyone more familiar will recognize as a lie!)

[Jazzratt]

If I make eye contact it's by accident, unless I'm interested in what you're talking about I'll probably zone out and grow perceptibly impatient and I will, more than likely, walk away from or turn my back on you mid sentence. I don't know if it's strictly "social awkwardness" but I tend to misjudge jokes and comments such that I sound like a total prick with all the empathy of a dead badger.

[Il Medico]

I have more haters than anyone you'll ever meet. I'm an asshole, but I do it in a loving way, *****es don't understand...
Wait...who let you out of your cage?

[Quail]

I also make quite a lot of joking sarcastic comments, but if people don't know me very well, I think sometimes they think I'm just being mean. My friends from sixth form do it too, but since coming to uni I've had to be more careful.

[Jack]

wait...who let you out of your cage?

:d:d:d

[NecroCommie]

Go!

I was once told "You're really bad at eye contact" when talking to someone.
Honestly, I would have snapped back something like: "Oh really? Would it suffice if my fist made contact with your eye huh?"

...Because really? Bad at eye contact? How about you start listing things where they are bad at? Like.... logic! I find no reason whatsoever to make eyecontact just for the sake of making eye contact. If someone wants contact they better start seeking out different friends.
Geez! I'm not gonna change my behaviour just to make someone else feel comfortable, especially when that discomfort has no logical reasons imaginable.

[Ele'ill]

I don't like big groups- I can't walk into a group council of any type when it's full of people I don't know- and speak up very often unless I see some huge flaw in something or I have pertinent info/advice to give.

I work very very well in smaller groups of people that I don't know- 3-4 or less and people don't understand why I'm so different from one situation to the other. I've been told I'm a good speaker and that I'm exciting to watch and listen too.

A lot of activist activities and organizing involve being bubbly, outspoken, and naturally comfortable with large groups. I hate this- it's a huge obstacle at times.

I also don't have a problem talking to strangers in very strange or confrontational situations-

It's weird.


Edit- I hate small talk- I'm listening to a group of people at a table near me right now and they've spent the last 12 minutes talking about absolute useless shit that nobody sitting there cares about- at the end of it they feel better only because they've engaged in a 'common situation' with people they don't know- in truth- they don't know each other any better and they have every reason to be just as anxious as when they first sat down.

[#FF0000]

I get kind of anxious when I order pizza for some reason.

I've also been making eye contact by accident with like five different people in one of my classes and I worry that they all think I'm a creeper or something.

[Os Cangaceiros]

I don't like large crowds, if there's someone I know that is introducing me to a lot of people. If it's just a large crowd where I don't know anyone, then I do fine, because why should I care? No one knows me anyway.

[Ele'ill]

At work or in class etc.. if someone looks at me first- more than once- I'll stare at them until they quickly look away- look back and then look away again- only then will I let them sit in peace.

I find it really odd when people continuously look at me. I've been in situations where someone was looking at me over and over and over and then looking away- I could see them doing it in my peripheral vision so I asked them what they were thinking about. It was pretty funny.

I could never do that in a large group though- there was only like 4 other coworkers there.

[Kuppo Shakur]

The other day I was standing around in crowd, and I kind of spaced out and just stared straight ahead, but then whenever I snapped out of it I realized that I was just staring at some girl's chest. So I looked up at her face and she was half way between :glare: and :cursing:. So of course I was like :blushing:, but you could tell that in her mind I looked like :drool:.

[Thirsty Crow]

Umm, I fart and burp in public.
Hell, it has a physiological function :D


At work or in class etc.. if someone looks at me first- more than once- I'll stare at them until they quickly look away- look back and then look away again- only then will I let them sit in peace.

Oh yeah, it's fun to do that. Although I don't do it all the time such stuff happens.



Geez! I'm not gonna change my behaviour just to make someone else feel comfortable, especially when that discomfort has no logical reasons imaginable.

Maybe eye contact is a sign of someone paying attention to what someone esle is saying...?
Dunno, it just seems to me that it is so.

[Ele'ill]

Also! Since I'm on a posting roll right now after Comrademan's anti-drug thread-

Not awkward but AWESOME! - When you're at a red light (in the states) in the left hand turn lane sitting there and the cars from the left and right roads are turning past you (to go the opposite direction on the road you're parallel to) and you and someone else makes intimate eye contact with each other. Fuck yes I enjoy that immensely every time.

It's seriously like you know everything about them on contact.

It's even better when they smile or you smile and there's then an exchange of smiles


It's not as cool when they then fling bodily fluid at your windshield in an attempt to exchange and combine genetic material. That's a little creepy.

[NecroCommie]

We are all nerds. And yes Mariel, you reminded me of this. No one says "exchange genetic material".

[NecroCommie]

Maybe eye contact is a sign of someone paying attention to what someone esle is saying...?
Dunno, it just seems to me that it is so.
Wrong! I can concentrate more on what you are saying when I don't have to observe the change of your facial expressions. When I concentrate, on other people or inanimate things, I always look at the floor or something.

So once again, where is the logic of eye contact? I don't see it! I still try to do it (to pacify those fools!), but I have to do it consciously.

[Ele'ill]

Perhaps I should have stated the event as 'an attempt at a fleeting fuck from afar'

[NecroCommie]

Perhaps I should have stated the event as 'an attempt at a fleeting fuck from afar'
It's too late now. We are all nerds. Let's just face our defeat.

[Ele'ill]

Eye contact is good when you're making a point- it is a sign of confidence in one's self.

You should do it more often and enjoy being able to intimidate people with it. Then you will become a sociopath and probably do some things..

alright I'm leaving to go do stuff now like make eye contact with pretty passerbys and barter my smile through glass.

[gorillafuck]

Not awkward but AWESOME! - When you're at a red light (in the states) in the left hand turn lane sitting there and the cars from the left and right roads are turning past you (to go the opposite direction on the road you're parallel to) and you and someone else makes intimate eye contact with each other. Fuck yes I enjoy that immensely every time.
I also enjoy intentionally making other people uncomfortable at stop lights by making intense eye contact.

Speaking of stoplights, my brother and I used to keep masks in our car, and we'd wear them and play technopop music (like Caramell) as loud as we could at stoplights, but not even look at the people in the cars next to us and stare straight forward.

[Barry Lyndon]

I laugh hysterically at things no one else considers to be funny.
It might even be something horrible, but I laugh at the absurdity because I don't know how else to react.

[mykittyhasaboner]

i'm neurotic. tend to be anxious all the time, and this may cause me to do something irrational and regret it. even more anxious in social situations (unless its with friends) which have potential to go wrong, so large crowds suck and i often dread being around people i'm not familiar with. even if i try to be polite and i don't know, help someone out with something or just make small talk, i usually get some kind of negative reinforcement in return. i guess i'm not very sociable, i pretty much try and stay out of people's way and they stay out of mine. i really would like to feel like a normal happy person, who can go on about their day without worrying about everything. but i'd be lying to myself.

[Niccolò Rossi]

I've also been making eye contact by accident with like five different people in one of my classes and I worry that they all think I'm a creeper or something.

DUDE, THIS!

Nic.

[Sam_b]

I use the word 'essentially' too much.

[Rafiq]

I accidentally always have a mean face, even when I'm happy, sad ect. It's just natural I guess.. But on the bright side, it keeps people from Jumping/attacking me.

Also, I get irritated easily, when people are being fake or trying to act dumb for attention.

[Amphictyonis]

I stopped showering every day. Down to ever other day.

[Il Medico]

:d:d:d
Seriously, weren't you restricted for being a transphobic fuckwit?

[Os Cangaceiros]

It's even better when they smile or you smile and there's then an exchange of smiles

It's even better when they're an attractive member of the opposite sex. Or the same sex, if that's how you roll.

I read some statistic somewhere that said that half of Americans have flirted with a stranger in another car at some point.

[ContrarianLemming]

Go!

I was once told "You're really bad at eye contact" when talking to someone.

I can't be in big crowds or be the centre of attention, minor anxiety disorder in this area, much prefer being alone or being with one person, sometimes two people is to much and I freak out.
Unfamiliar places also bother me.

not sure what that's called.

[Agnapostate]

Hmmm. A problem is that I'm way too bold and provocative with jokes sometimes. Combined with a dark sense of humor, I sometimes leave people I barely know looking at me in disbelief, wondering why I've just said some horrible thing about them. :lol:

[REVLEFT'S BIEGGST MATSER TROL]

I think I intimdiate people with my wit

[Honggweilo]

my ADHD/ADD can be somewhat akward at times, causing my to eyewander all over the place when excited or nervous. I also get oversocial at times, causing me not to shut up and bombard people with either info or random smalltalk. The latter isnt really akward, only very exhausting for people after a while, and i need to be told to shut up when im on a roll :rolleyes:. There is another mod on this forum who seems to have this problem, which doesnt have ADHD, and when we're both on a roll at a party, we usually notice after a few hours that every other person in our proximity moved to the other side of the room :lol:.

[Quail]

I laugh hysterically at things no one else considers to be funny.
It might even be something horrible, but I laugh at the absurdity because I don't know how else to react.
This is totally me.

Edit: I'm also an absolute nightmare to get food with, and it's not unknown for me to end up having a panic attack about it, which is kind of awkward.

[Taikand]

Aspies makes the best programmers.Known fact. I'm not sure if that makes me a better commie or not, though.

[Uppercut]

I tend to stutter and avoid making eye contact. That's probably why most people I've spoken to on campus think I'm an asshole and that I don't care to talk to anyone. I hate being an introvert while trying to advocate socialism at the same time.

[Panda Tse Tung]

I dont look someone in the eyes for long extended periods of time. Idk if this counts. I'm also easily distracted from a conversation and can be pretty quiet if i have shit on my mind.

[bailey_187]

i forget that not everyone uses same words as where im from. i have received alot of bert stares since going uni

[Wanted Man]

I find it very difficult to pretend that I care about other people's bullshit. It's only awkward for them, though, as it makes them realise that nobody cares about the dumb shit that they have to say.

[Il Medico]

Speaking of stoplights, my brother and I used to keep masks in our car, and we'd wear them and play technopop music (like Caramell) as loud as we could at stoplights, but not even look at the people in the cars next to us and stare straight forward.
I'm cheap, so when the weather allows I roll with the windows down in my car. I also sing to the radio. One day I pulled up to a stop light and "It's Raining Men (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGLZqDXau98)" was on the radio, I of course was singing along quite loudly. I turn and see an old couple sitting in a convertible next to me, just staring with the most shocked/horrified expressions ever. I mean come on, my singing voice can't be that bad. Or perhaps they were just a bunch of homophobic old people, which is quite a bit more likely. Either way, their faces were gold.

[NecroCommie]

I'm cheap, so when the weather allows I roll with the windows down in my car. I also sing to the radio. One day I pulled up to a stop light and "It's Raining Men (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGLZqDXau98)" was on the radio, I of course was singing along quite loudly. I turn and see an old couple sitting in a convertible next to me, just staring with the most shocked/horrified expressions ever. I mean come on, my singing voice can't be that bad. Or perhaps they were just a bunch of homophobic old people, which is quite a bit more likely. Either way, their faces were gold.
I must assume that instead of ceasing your magnificent steel anthem, you instead targeted your chanting on them! I do that sometimes when caught singing. People will shit their pants!

[Aloysius]

Sometimes I repeat phrases I find funny. No-one notices but me. I also have a slight stutter.

[Quail]

I have no idea why this happens, but sometimes when I'm talking and thinking about something else I say completely the wrong word, randomly. Like one time when I was high I came out with the word "deaf" to describe something totally unrelated to deafness and it just makes me look really odd.

[Widerstand]

I have no idea why this happens, but sometimes when I'm talking and thinking about something else I say completely the wrong word, randomly. Like one time when I was high I came out with the word "deaf" to describe something totally unrelated to deafness and it just makes me look really odd.

I do this.

Damn I read an explanation on why it happens once.

But it sounded weird anyway.

[Quail]

I'm glad I'm not the only one with that quirk haha.