For the "significant other"

[Animal Farm Pig]

So, I'm kind of fishing for ideas here, but, for those of you who have boyfriends/girlfriends/transfriends, what do you do to show the one you care about how much you care about him/her/zim?

Do you buy flowers, chocolate, romantic weekends in exciting places, etc.?

I'm not the most romantic guy. I have a track record of being a shitty husband and a shitty boyfriend. I'm currently being a shitty boyfriend, but I want to be better. So, I'm asking what you all do to let your significant others know how much you care about them.

[Sperm-Doll Setsuna]

I get mad as hell whenever they talk with anyone that isn't me.

It's true. It can be quite romantic. Sometimes...

[Jimmie Higgins]

I think it's different for each couple. If it's a matter of your partner feeling neglected or ignored, maybe make an effort to keep track of things they say they would like or need so that you know months ahead what would be a good gift or vacation location because they have already basically told you in passing but will have forgotten they mentioned it.

If it's a matter of not being very expressive about emotions and whatnot, just make it clear that that sort of thing is not easy for you.

I'm sure you are aware of these things, but it's hard to say what should be done in general terms because what one partner finds cute and considerate, the next person might find suffocating or annoying.

[Stand Your Ground]

Not too much time on RevLeft is a biggie, if I'm on too long she thinks I care more about RL than her lol. Another big thing I think is finding something your other half likes to do, and do that with them.

[Sasha]

i think thats a bit dependent on the "significant other" in question.
My GF would rip my balls of if i would buy her "flowers, chocolate, romantic weekends in exciting places".

Buying her powertools (http://imghost.indiamart.com/data/S/R/MY-977010/power-tools_10928182_250x250.jpg) on the other hand.......

[Tablo]

Listening and planning things for the two of you is always good. Also don't be a dick. That is something a lot of jealous boyfriends do and it isn't cool.

[#FF0000]

Just do little things for them to let them know you think of them~ <3

[ContrarianLemming]

Hug her everyday.
don't say she's hot, say shes pretty.

[praxis1966]

I don't want to be crass or anything... Actually, that's a total lie. I do want to be crass. Give her smoky head at a medium pace and lots of it. That usually works for me.

[Sugar Hill Kevis]

Hug her everyday.
don't say she's hot, say shes pretty.

Beautiful might be more apt? It's something some girls don't hear enough - others too much.

As for being a better boyfriend, how you approach it really depends on who you're with. Obviously some things are constant; being nice, listening to them and everything else your mother told you... but in fairness most of that should apply to any company you keep. It's more of how to be a decent guy than a boyfriend. You need to kind of pinpoint just what makes you guys click as a couple and ride that wave best you can. Don't let things get stale, surprise her once in a while with something you know she'll dig - maybe something you can do together. Don't be all telling her what she can and can't do. Just allow each other to be human beings, nothing about the essence of your characters should change because your'e in a relationship.

[redSHARP]

just listen to their day. thats what i do, oh and I text them good morning when I am at work (i would call but i cant will i am at work).

[Animal Farm Pig]

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that I am actually a really bad boyfriend. When I said "shitty boyfriend", I meant it kind of tongue-in-cheek. At some point, I watched some John Cusack and Hugh Grant movies. It sets the bar a little bit high. :)

Thanks for the suggestions-- lots of hugs, plenty of head, remembering the things she likes., and generally being nice and not a dick. I'm doing all of these to some extent already, and just need to make sure to keep it up.

My girlfriend lives in the Bay area, while I live in Sacramento. We both have pretty busy schedules and exhausting work. So, it's pretty much only on the weekends that I get to see her. When I was writing the original post last night, I'd just returned from a weekend at her house. I'm was just wishing (and still am) that I had some more ideas for ways to show her how much I care about her.

I was hoping also that this thread could help anyone reading to get more ideas for nice ways to show all of our girlfriends/boyfriends/etc. how much we care.

[jake williams]

I don't know dude, but you'll probably answer the question better by talking to her than you will on RevLeft, or the internet period for that matter. Just pay attention to her?

[praxis1966]

In all seriousness, learn to cook. There used to be that old adage amongst women that, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach." The reverse is true of women, I find. Get a bottle of nice wine, cook her a great meal, and serve it under candlelight. Trust me, women appreciate that even more than a fancy dinner in a nice restaurant because any asshole can make reservations and plop down a credit card, but to actually go to all the trouble to cook shows her that she's worth a huge amount of effort.

If you have a key to her place, showing up on a Friday before she even gets home from work and having the dinner in the late stages of completion when she walks in works even better. The element of surprise is a great thing. Just make sure she's expecting you that weekend, otherwise you might get maced when she shows up, lulz.