are all parents such losers? - another typical trash kitty w

[trash kitty]

everytime i open my mouth to say something my alcoholic mother reminds me that im a just a stupid nobody and that i'll never be as smart and as funny as my older brother.

put down the fucking drink mum.

i mean all i want is some encouragement and some support.

bastards.. and they wonder why i turned to illegal substances and abortions..

peace and love

trash kitty

(Edited by trash kitty at 8:26 am on Sep. 23, 2002)

[Felicia]

I know what you mean. Although I'm smarter and funnier than my brother. My mom is an alchoholic too (sort of). Anyway, yeah, parents are losers, well most anyway.

[IHP]

i cant really agree, i dont know your situation. i respect no one above my mother. she is the rock in my life. its a shame that neither of you have that.

hope you can both keep it together.

--IHP

[antieverything]

Whatever you do, don't continue the cycle when you are parents.

[Felicia]

I don't plan on it, if I become a parent I mean.

[new democracy]

my mother is a reformist and a centerist, but she is a great mother and she likes to listen to my political analyzes about current events(mainly in colombia and venezuela). and trash kitty, you and your family need help. call for help before it is too late!!!

[peaccenicked]

I have lost both my parents over the last two years, they were not blameless, no body is, when you are younger you expect more from your parents, they are your first contact with adults, and boy can they embarass you in public.
There comes a time when you just see them as part of the world we live in, they sort of fit in or sort of 'misfit in' depending on their coping abilities.
The plan I had was to learn better coping abilities but that only ever partially got true but enough for me to help them through their older years.

[Felicia]

What if your parents were/are abusive alcoholics? I've lost all the respect I've ever had for my parents when I was young, the last time I can even remember telling them that I love them I was 12 or 13, and then again that was a routine "goodnight, I love you" sort of thing, half the time I didn't really mean it, I suppose it's an awful thing to say, but it's true. It's taken all that I have not to hit her back, which I've managed to do up til now. It's especially hard when you're raised with your father telling you "If someone hits you you hit them back" but somehow that doesn't apply to 'homelife'. Whatever, I've never felt connected with anyone and I'm not going to start now, if I have no one in my life I don't have to worry, and that's fine with me. I know how pitiful this sounds but I think it's the truth. A lot of the people here are lucky to have the parents they have, maybe I should think that way too, someday perhaps. :(

[canikickit]

All parents are not fucking losers. Absolutely not. Some are, no doubt, the way to prove it is to be good parents yourselves, as someone said above. I think most parents are great people(as parents).

[peaccenicked]

felicia. I hope you take this in no way condescending but I feel for you. Alcoholism is a sickness. I have grown up with it. I live in Glasgow. The thing to remember is that you are more than the sum total of your surroundings, at some point through luck, circumstances and guts you will break free and find an independence that you will cherish. The struggle to stay with that, is truly hard.
I can tell you you will not always make it, but what is in you shall surely triumph, in so many ways, even in the smallest corners of life.

[Felicia]

Thanks peaccenicked, I didn't view that as condescending at all but compassion, thank you again :)

[peaccenicked]

failte

you are welcome.

[LeninCCCP]

My mom is tight but my Dad can be a jerk sometimes

[kitty43]

My mother was very similar to yours. I was the ultimate rebel with a cause (and still am) but I also learned to let what she said go in one ear and out the other. Now, many years later I get along with her. She may not agree with my my being socialist but who cares I have my own mind and my own thoughts. She actually trusts the capitalists while I never will. Keep your chin up, you'll get through this.

[Moskitto]

My parents are like that, but they're more subtle and they're not alcoholics.

[ratm545]

my mother is one of those stuck up christians, i don't know what having an alcoholic mother is like, but it seems like it's better then this.... i also haven't told her i loved her for many years, i don't see anything that i love about her. to quote the band mindless self indulgence 'I love my mom cause she fucked my dad' am i supposed to love a person cause she was horny one night, fucked my dad and got pregnant with me? fuck that and fuck her

[Felicia]

agreed, you can't demand respect, you have to earn it, and just because she gave birth to me I'm supposed to respect her?

[ComradeDavo]

My parents have argued non-stop for many years...I am growing very tired of it now and it caused me to get quite depressed.

[Jaha]

i love my parents so much that the first chance i get, im leaving home. ha ha ha..... my parents arent mean, but ever since my brother went down the "wrong" path (drugs & alcohol), they have been watching me more closely. they dont "talk" with me, just watch. "big brother is watching you" comes to mind frequently. they dont respect me, so i find it difficult to respect them. very difficult.....

[Blackberry]

I find it very hard to get along with my father. He is an authoritarian when it comes to parenting, and he isn't very approachable at all.

He has high hopes for me, when Igrow up,wanting me to become an accountant, and so he is always yelling whenever he mentions school, threatening me and my freedom to pick my own subjects, and do what i want with school.

It really makes me sad, because all i want to do is get a modest job in teaching or journalism. Money is not an object for me, and I don't plan on marrying or having any kids....not that I want to, but my father seems to have that in mind for me. :(

Thing is, I won't be able to survive without his help for at least until I'm 25, which really makes me sad.

[trash kitty]

believe me i tried earning their respect. but i was an accident and they've told me that nearly everyday and my mum blames me for all the shit thats happened between her and my real dad. i dont care anymore. i love them and i respect them as my parents but i just cant handle being with them.. if you understand..

i guess i was just having a bad day when i posted that. i cant even remember it i totally forgot about this one.

peace and love