Am I a jealous twat?

[phasmid]

Ok, fellow revlefties who don't even know me, let me lay it down, I accept anything I may or not receive....

1.Logged into facebook :closedeyes:

2.Saw boyfriend had commented on a photo of a pretty girl :unsure:

3.Immediately followed link, saw she had attributes that he said he liked about me :scared:

4.Read his comment where he suggested that she use it for her profile pic, invented dictionary of new swear words :cursing:

5.Contemplated smashing my fist through the PC screen, reconsidered when I realised that would eliminate the possibility of sending him a shitload of viruses :mad:

6.Remembered that I lack virus-creating or sending ability :(

7.Sank into a pit of black gloom at the thought of him wanting to look at a photo of her, especially as she is looking directly at the camera, THUS creating the impression she is looking at you. :crying:

So, am I an overreacting jealous twat who has no ability to accept reality?

[scarletghoul]

Well what were his comments? Were they just compliments or was he coming on to her or what?

[NecroCommie]

If it is the latter of scarletghouls suggestions, I'd recommend taking a broadsword and inserting it into his nostrils repeatedly in swift motions. Afterwards these actions ought to be succeeded by an array of fearsome strikes preferably with a heavy blunt object. As a last act of defiance you should proceed to curse his soul into an oblivion before... I'd better not continue or I might get sued.

[phasmid]

He said her photos were lovely, and suggested she use the nicest one (the one where it looks like she's looking directly at you) for her profile pic. What, so he can pretend she's looking at him every time he logs in???:(

[Pogue]

Haha seriusly you need to chill. You can't judge anything like this over facebook or any web based thing for that matter, believe me I have tried!

[phasmid]

If it is the latter of scarletghouls suggestions, I'd recommend taking a broadsword and inserting it into his nostrils repeatedly in swift motions. Afterwards these actions ought to be succeeded by an array of fearsome strikes preferably with a heavy blunt object. As a last act of defiance you should proceed to curse his soul into an oblivion before... I'd better not continue or I might get sued.

:lol: that's the first time I've laughed tonight, thank you :)

[Jazzratt]

I'm not saying you're a jealous twat but I would hate to be in a relationship with either you or necro-commie. While I rarely say anything nice to my friends I'd rather not have to face thousands of computer viruses or getting a broadsword up my schnozz followed by fuck knows what when I do.

[Invariance]

Men: they're just not worth it. :D

[phasmid]

Well I'd hate to be in a relationship with you too Jazzratt

[NecroCommie]

I'm not saying you're a jealous twat but I would hate to be in a relationship with either you or necro-commie. While I rarely say anything nice to my friends I'd rather not have to face thousands of computer viruses or getting a broadsword up my schnozz followed by fuck knows what when I do.
If one ever dates me, that one should be informed of he fact that I have certain... "expectations of loyalty."


He said her photos were lovely, and suggested she use the nicest one
OK, perhaps this does not yet qualify as a broadsword material, but I'd be pissed off too so...

[phasmid]

If one ever dates me, that one should be informed of he fact that I have certain... "expectations of loyalty."

So do I, and I don't think it's ridiculous to have those expectations, especially when you always adhere to them for your partner

[Jazzratt]

Well I'd hate to be in a relationship with you too Jazzratt

Looks like everyone's a winner then.


If one ever dates me, that one should be informed of he fact that I have certain... "expectations of loyalty."

Which is a fucking terrifying prospect. If I were to be in a monogamous relationship I'd have enough trust in my partner and confidence in myself that any "cheating" on their path would at least be partially my fault and therefore utterly unlikely. Of course I prefer other arrangements.

[Sam_b]

:rolleyes:

[Il Medico]

So, am I an overreacting jealous twat who has no ability to accept reality?
Yes.

[phasmid]

Looks like everyone's a winner then.



Which is a fucking terrifying prospect. If I were to be in a monogamous relationship I'd have enough trust in my partner and confidence in myself that any "cheating" on their path would at least be partially my fault and therefore utterly unlikely. Of course I prefer other arrangements.

:laugh: Doth my ears deceive me?? So if someone cheats it's somehow the fault of the partner??

[Jazzratt]

:laugh: Doth my ears deceive me?? So if someone cheats it's somehow the fault of the partner??

At least partially, as I said. Although mainly to line up for a joke about how I'm so awesome no one would want to do that. No one's actions exist in a vacuum and I imagne that if I was clingy asshole people would feel more inclined to cheat on me.

Then again it's early days yet to mention "cheating" given that this guy gave a compliment to someone. Get a fucking grip.

[phasmid]

At least partially, as I said. Although mainly to line up for a joke about how I'm so awesome no one would want to do that. No one's actions exist in a vacuum and I imagne that if I was clingy asshole people would feel more inclined to cheat on me.

Then again it's early days yet to mention "cheating" given that this guy gave a compliment to someone. Get a fucking grip.

I have a feeling you're so far up your ass you're coming out the other end Jzzratty. Just hope your awesomness knows that "cheating" never entered my mind and that I've never been a clingy asshole, otherwise I would have actually followed it through wouldn't I? Get a fucking clue.

[phasmid]

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[Bilan]

Yeah, kind of. Relax. It's facebook, for one, and secondly, saying something nice doesn't necessitate cheating.

[phasmid]

Yeah, kind of. Relax. It's facebook, for one, and secondly, saying something nice doesn't necessitate cheating.

I never mentioned cheating people!!!! But seriously, I feel much better now, amazing what a bit of good advice and evil little jibes will do :p

[Bilan]

Well, if you weren't scared of that, then what are you afraid of?

[mykittyhasaboner]

Get off that facebook crap. All of those social networking sites ruin people's relationships. Just don't bother.

[gorillafuck]

I bet he stuck it in her pooper.

[Misanthrope]

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. All guys do stuff like this. If you bring it up with him you'll sound nosey and like you were snooping.

[The Ungovernable Farce]

While I rarely say anything nice to my friends I'd rather not have to face thousands of computer viruses or getting a broadsword up my schnozz followed by fuck knows what when I do.
I think the obvious solution here is just to never say anything nice to anyone. That way you'll always be safe.

[Pogue]

I say nice things to people all the time. These days alot of people don't really know how to respond to it.

[Trystan]

Maybe he was just being nice? :confused:

[Wanted Man]

We men do that kind of stuff all the time, to keep you on your toes. We all learn it from our seduction/pick-up/player guides on the internets. Welcome to the 21st century.

[ls]

Yes no maybe so!

[Stand Your Ground]

Ok, fellow revlefties who don't even know me, let me lay it down, I accept anything I may or not receive....

1.Logged into facebook :closedeyes:

2.Saw boyfriend had commented on a photo of a pretty girl :unsure:

3.Immediately followed link, saw she had attributes that he said he liked about me :scared:

4.Read his comment where he suggested that she use it for her profile pic, invented dictionary of new swear words :cursing:

5.Contemplated smashing my fist through the PC screen, reconsidered when I realised that would eliminate the possibility of sending him a shitload of viruses :mad:

6.Remembered that I lack virus-creating or sending ability :(

7.Sank into a pit of black gloom at the thought of him wanting to look at a photo of her, especially as she is looking directly at the camera, THUS creating the impression she is looking at you. :crying:

So, am I an overreacting jealous twat who has no ability to accept reality?
My girlfriend did the same thing to some guys. I confronted her about her and she stopped doing it. I felt the same thing you do. Just tell him to stop, if he doesn't, leave him.

[ÑóẊîöʼn]

Getting angry at your partner for complimenting someone strikes me as overly possessive. If your partner really is unsatisfied with their relationship to you and is fishing for someone else, going all yandere (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Yandere) on them will only encourage them to leave you. Certainly I wouldn't get romantically involved with someone who's that insecure.

[Dr Mindbender]

My philosophy in relationships is if someone's going to cheat on you they're not worth getting upset over anyway.

[Pogue]

Yeh thats quite a good one.

[SoupIsGoodFood]

Yeah my girlfriend sometimes does that shit with other guys and I feel a little strange about it but I'm not gonna step up and be that controlling. I just let it slide.

[IrishWorker]

In the spirit of the thread I have a confession to make...

My partner booked a holiday to Spain with her mates(which I paid for) so I convinced my sister to tag along to be my eyes and ears?

Is this healthy?

[Pirate turtle the 11th]

Just either talk to him or rip out his eyes.

Either one is good.

[RedRise]

Why don't you just ask your damn boyfriend what he meant by it all? Then you can look the situation over again.:rolleyes:

[nuisance]

Leftists really are a bunch of social outcasts.
If it's upsetting you, confront him and find out for yourself- for closure.
Might I add, cheating is not the fault of the 'victim'- of course it can be, but that as a logical reasoning for why cheating occurs is absolutely bullshit.

[Kukulofori]

Everyone in this thread thus far is posessive as hell.

I've complimented people who have had things in common with partners too. And it doesn't mean I was about to "cheat" (lol @ concept of this being a bad thing anyway) on them, it means I enjoy those features.

[Killfacer]

Burn his house down.

[Pirate turtle the 11th]

Murder his family.

[Killfacer]

Force feed her younger brother fattening food using a funnel then make him into a tasty Pate.

[The Ungovernable Farce]

Burn his family down. Also, burn facebook down.

[Pogue]

Burn yourself down.

[Il Medico]

Throw acid on her face so he will never compliment her again. Or get over it, one of the two.

[Pirate Utopian]

Eat his liver with some fava beans and a nice chianti.

[Intifadah]

He's probably getting her pumped right now. With that said I'm available and only 2 long haul flights away, you know it makes sense. ;)

I'm tall, blue eyes, hung like a himalayan yak, brown hair and prone to a bit of exaggeration.

BootyCallCSC

[Manifesto]

2.Saw boyfriend had commented on a photo of a pretty girl :unsure:

4.Read his comment where he suggested that she use it for her profile pic, invented dictionary of new swear words :cursing:

7.Sank into a pit of black gloom at the thought of him wanting to look at a photo of her, especially as she is looking directly at the camera, THUS creating the impression she is looking at you. :crying:


I think for these you are being over jealous with the whole comments of a pretty girl thing unless it was something sexual and the picture of her looking at the camera making it look like she is looking at you.

[NecroCommie]

All guys do stuff like this.
Either I am not a guy, or this statement is false. I'd prefer the latter one, no offense to any gals out there.

Honestly, that close and friendly tone he used does not fit my idea of normal interaction between two people, let alone two heterosexual people of the opposite sex. I admit, it only rings in my ears slightly abnormal and I know that other kind of people do it all the time, but thats just not something I would say to even moderately familiar person.

[NecroCommie]

We men do that kind of stuff all the time,
WTF?! Have I been left out from some kind of "all guys do this"-seminar? Should I feel insulted?

[Ciarán (A)]

Jealous, yes. Overreacting? I don't know.
I would probably have reacted the same way.

:sleep:

...

My girlfriend did the same thing to some guys. I confronted her about her and she stopped doing it. I felt the same thing you do. Just tell him to stop, if he doesn't, leave him.

I support this course of action.

[Killfacer]

Daub yourself in your own shit then chase his mum around with a shovel.

[Wanted Man]

WTF?! Have I been left out from some kind of "all guys do this"-seminar? Should I feel insulted?
Sorry, should have added a smiley. :) Although, there are people who basically believe what I said.

[StalinFanboy]

Punch him in the dick.

[War Cry]

This is why polyamory is amazing. You never have to worry about this kind of shit. Your partners are with you because they enjoy your company, and they're with other people too. You always know they want to be with you, because there is nothing that says they can't be out fucking someone else right then.

Just let it go. Jealousy and possessiveness is a waste of time. He isn't yours any more than you're his. It'll be okay.

[Dr Mindbender]

kidnap him, hide him down a hole in your cellar and dance naked to that ''goodbye horses'' song like in silence of the lambs.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x81F28kPXuo

[BabylonHoruv]

:laugh: Doth my ears deceive me?? So if someone cheats it's somehow the fault of the partner??


Yes. Which doesn't make it ok.

Were you clear with your boyfriend that complimenting other girl's looks was out of bounds for you? What is cheating is different in every relationship and if you don't establish the rules clearly you can't expect them to be followed as you expect them to be.

(and I like seeing a thread tagged with jealous and twat. I am surprised they let you use twat as a thread tag)

[Spasiba]

What you need to do is post that picture here.

What you then should do is confront him about it, doesn't need to be high pressure, just let him know it upset you.

[Guerrilla22]

Dump his ass.

[Killfacer]

This is why polyamory is amazing. You never have to worry about this kind of shit. Your partners are with you because they enjoy your company, and they're with other people too. You always know they want to be with you, because there is nothing that says they can't be out fucking someone else right then.

Just let it go. Jealousy and possessiveness is a waste of time. He isn't yours any more than you're his. It'll be okay.

Words like shit and idea spring to mind.

Grow your hair, buy fake elf ears and pretend to be Illidan Stormrage. Then hunt him down and slay him.

[NecroCommie]

Grow your hair,
Done.


buy fake elf ears
Done.


and pretend to be Illidan Stormrage. Then hunt him down and slay him.
Gotta work on that one.

[RedRise]

Grow your hair, buy fake elf ears and pretend to be Illidan Stormrage. Then hunt him down and slay him.

Cut to the chase - bash him over the head with something.:rolleyes:
How about post his photo, something extremely embarrassing/stupid/awful that he did and 'exactly what you think of him' on every chat forum you can find. Then get back to me and tell me how it went coz I'm thinking of using the same strategy on this snobby ***** who treats my friends like scum and says commies are evil.:mad:

[phasmid]

Update on my jealous/twat status. I showed two of my most trusted friends the picture and the comments, and they both assured me that I had nothing to worry about.....in light of this I might keep my mouth shut about it.....if he does it again then I'll tell him how I feel about it. Sorry I won't be any help in your multiple chat forum revenge Scarlowy, but I don't think my rage has reached that level yet:p